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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks I I THE VALbiv OF AFPEARANCES I Li!?. POROTHT DIX. the Worlds Highgt Paid Woman Writer No m r person: underestimates Uiw vsl-t ue of appearances. Nk being mind rrad l rs or seers, we cannot know ihm secret! ' what h.d.l. n g-rr,, , mlnH and khameter our fellow crc.turej, p0e ! Ail ih.t we tail see Is the outside, and sol .IT" otlr oe'n'on of others on the I rront tin v pnt up. W- tke note of ihelr dress, of the' Stjrls In which thev ,v.-. of th. c,.mpnv u frequent, and how much monei thev ! si'n-l. nnd wr rate them accordingly. Without direct evidence to Ihe eontrary.i asume t in i the man who Is well dressed and prosperous looking Is clever I i slid more forceful. an,, of a higher order j of ability than the man who 1 shabbv I und seedy, and down nt Ihe heels So true Is the sdag - that nothing sue ' ceeds like uccc. ti,i there I, wIMom. in camouflairulg it on many occasions. I 'Oung doctor, for lrmtance. who hires a' ! good office in a desirable location who1 i w ears good clothes, and who appears to be rushed to death with work undoubted ly has a better chance of getting patients : than the voung ph slclan Whose office bj !a mere hole in the wnll und who sltx I all da rubbing his shiny elbows on Ma ; 'aide, wailing- for tho patients that do I not couv. People are like sheep, they j go in droves nnd frolic where someone e,.e leads, and the more they think vou ! don't need their money, the more anxious they are to give it to you. Women have been quicker to grap the i full significance of the value of appear lance than men have. That is whv- the; are dress mad, Thear know- that rfne I feathers make line hlrds. pnd that a homely woman In beautiful elothej , more Impression thai a living plcl ir- doen in dowdy frock. I Also they know that a man's success j di i" nds largely upon the sort of Appear ance hN wife presents, for a man's wife I la the show window In which he makes I n visible display of the degree of prus-i prus-i pel "it v he has achieved Hence, a clever woman who wishes to help her husband is Justified in having a house that is Qlieei) Anne In front nnd Mary Ann In th.- buk. and In economizing on he family's fam-ily's stomach in order to put the money on the family's baric until thev- make their title good to a residence, on ICasy street. There ni", however, two sides to this matter of keeping np appearances, nnd while It Is without doubt hlghlv desirable for poor nnd ambitious people lo look i". iperoUs, nothing Js more disastrous to their prospects than to overdo the pros pcrltv stunt. They must look good, but not too good. I'or it doesn't do lo over ! play even a virtue e;irls ofien make the mistake of doing bis. A poor girl who is a genius With her needle, and a shark for hunting out I remnants at bargain sales, will dress so thai she looks like a dally hint from I Paris; Instead of being clever enough to ' tell how ihe does it. and thereby win the I ndnuralion of all who know, she will v aw n languidly when anyone compliment? n .'.n. i sa 1 rii simply little thing thut t got from ictorine." ana everyone who knows Vie H tortni s price will begin to look st her LsnH wondc-i where jdic cot the BBBBBal Manv good girl's reputation has lon ruined in this way. because she dreaaMr H loo well for her station in life. Manv a H girl has missed a good husband because LBaH he .,lir-h expensive loiking n0th.- that no i o i inn. w ith Ills own way to make, dared tackle her dies bin H JSo th- pour girl, who wants to look Ilk. bH m million dollars should be there Vilth her H abtd of how she docs It on fifty cento or els,. Ivr 1. luff at putting up 'the sp- iiLH pcsrsiee of Miss MilllorPlturks will be LLH her H It is equally Imsprtsnt that a voung Ll man should pi. if to be the thing h. wis. ics to lie. Among my acquaintance LH IS a young man Who reallv has plenty e 1 ability, and Industry, nnd' ambition. He H lias no money, and a very poor Job tin,. (lays him an insignificant salary, but he H la handsome, and nvreesble and well br - i H and a good dancer , and he Is in much de H msnd among hostesses who need that BaBBLl on of a t,, fin psrtes H he result Is that this chap Is seen out night efter night nt theatres , ,i 1 dances, and mnnlng wuh a gay. rich 1 rrow'd. nnd he's got the reputallon oi H being a lounge lizard, and business man iH think he is no good. 1 And you can't blame them. There are no records of eminent financiers or mer LH . chsnt princes, who Were onsplcuous tor LLH their s, ir.i eueceaa In thlr youth. The men who sre at the head of things, and hold the money bags now. were not hot. H pine, around ballroom floors and pursuinc H the clusivo golf ball, even at somebodi LaH I else's expense thirty vears ago Th. j were putting up a life like appearance ol LH mduatry, n;id frugality that attracted ths H favorable attentions of employers Whs aLLfl had good Jobs to har.d out. and' of peopi.- H who wanted lo deal with merchants who Ll were looking after their business. Nothing queers a man's chances of H cess quicker than lo live hevond hi- H means. The house a little better than h L OUght live in' the .,. i ,,.,! . np H paving for on the Installment plan H COUntrj clbh with the sporty set whos, H pace be hadn't the money to keep: the.. have been the stop to many a proti i H i'or once et people commence ssWInrr the fMtal question. How- can he afford I' H and is nil over with a man He is tin H ; der suspicion of either being crooked or a H fool, and when men begin to discount an H other man's honesty or his fntlllrenrc. he l. dons for so far aa gelling along I.; H th other hand when n young H ICOUple regi-ters Industry, and thrift, and H Indt pendenre; when they dress within H their means, when both of them wor!.. H '.in. I save', and show that they have hii H ee to the future, everybody gives them H After nil. It Is c.ulte Impossible to over- H estimate the yalUe of appearanoea Rfht H |