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Show Lifestyles nda Ifmm Mis rnsSses Layton In praise of praise My son came home from his first day of kinder- garten bright-eye- d and cheerful. Just as I expected. When I asked him how he liked it, however, his response surprised me. School is great!" he exclaimed. "Theres no one to be bossy and send you to timeout!" Am I really that bossy?" I wondered. "Does he spend too much time in time-outLooking back on the past few weeks. I'd say the answer is "yes." When I'm in the throes of parenting squelching sibling battles, cleaning strained peas from the carpet, trying (in vain) to ignore non-sto- p my whining knee-jer- k discipline strategies resemble those of a drill Sargeant. I give orders and expect results. Dont step out of line, stockor you'll end up in the time-oade. Although this parenting method gets results, it has its drawbacks By constantly correcting and being overly critical, I send my son the message that he's a problem child, and believing me. that's often how he behaves So, w hat can I do to not only improve my son's behavior, but change my own as well? The answer, is praise. Praising their kids comes naturally for some parents They are used to saying things like,"Tom. thank you for helping your sister find her shoes" Or. "Good job, Melanie. You changed your underwear without needing to be told. Not me. I'm used to catching my son being naughty. I need a special tool to help me catch him being nice. And what ut is a sticker chart. (Yes a sticker chart.) When Jared follows directions gets along with his sister, or performs another type of welcome behavior. I praise him and put a sticker on his chart Once he gets a designated amount of stickers, he gets to go to the store and pick out a small prize. A couple ground rules help the system run smoothly Rule 1: If you ask for a sticker, I can't give you one. And rule 2 (aimed at me): I can't bribe you with a sticker. For instance, I can't say, "Jared, if you take this diaper out to the garbage. Ill give you a sticker! Following these rules helps get me into the habit of praising while approaching some semblance of spontaneity. Shortly after starting our first sticker chart, I made a startling discovery Jared had actually been doing more things right than I'd been giving him credit for. While there were a few areas where his behavior needed improving. I was surprised to find that he had been listening and following through on most of my instructioa Instead of focusing on Jared's negative behaviors, a sticker chart helps me praise and reward Jared's good behavior. Ive started sending him new signals You're helpful. Youre kind. Youre careful! And believing me, that's what he is becoming Christie Hansen is a freelance writer and mother of three young children Write to her concerning this and other at parenting topics by christiehansenusa.net or care of this Clipper Today Correspondent Do you feel down more days than not? Have you lost interest in something you used to enjoy? Have you lost your appetite, or do you overeat? Do you sleep a lot or not at all? Have you had suicidal thoughts? If not maybe you know someone who fits the description. These are classic symptoms of depression. Often the person doesnt recognize it in themselves and a family member or close friend will need to take actioa National Depression Screening Day is on October 7 As part of National Mental Health Awareness Week. Davis Mental Health Clinic will hold depression screenings on Thursday October 7 The free screening will take place at the Central Branch Library at 155 North Wasatch Drive in Layton and the South Branch at 725 South Main Street in Bountiful from noon to 2 p.m. and from 4p.m. to 6 p.m. According to Matt Loveland, intern in charge of the project, one of the counselors will give a presentation about depression. Then the person will be asked to fill out a questionnaire and have a personal interview. If the person needs help, he may be .referred for counseling andor medication. "Theyve had good success with the screenings nationwide in the past! Loveland said. He noted that last year the county only held screenings in one location. Now it will be more convenient for everyone. Because depression is so prevalent, it has been called the "common cold" of mental illness. One out of six people will have a serious episode with depression sometime during his life. Loveland said that Davis County has a higher incidence of depression among the lower income population, but it can strike anyone. Abraham Lincoln. Mike Wallace, Winston Churchill, Rod Steiger and Mark Twain all suffered with depressioa A person from a family where one or more members suffer with depression is twice as likely as someone from a depression free family to become depressed themselves. It has not been determined whether it is genetic or due to family habits. Wbmen are twice as likely as men to suffer from depressioa due to hormonal changes of the menstrua cycle, pregnancies and childbirth. Also women tend to rely more on social relationships thus a loss becomes more difficult for them. Men frequently hide depression with alcohol or drags. Teenagers are a high risk group, coping with hormones, peer pressure and big decisions. City dwellers have a higher incidence of depression than country folk. The elderly have always been vulnerable, simply because they are more apt to experience death of a loved one, illnesses and the inability to get around like they used to.Depression may be triggered by stress, loss of a loved one through death or divorce, loss of job, unfulfilled expectations or chronic ill- lie education. In 1992 she received the National Meritorious Service Award from the Beehive Chapter of Blacks in Government (BIG). She was one of nine women to receive the 1998 Utah Womens Achievement Award prethe Governors sented by Commission for Women and Families. "Wow! I was so excited, she said when she heard that Stanley had won the Mrs. America Pageant. "I had been praying and thinking positive thoughts for Starla all week. Then Diane Ritter, from the Utah pageant, called to tell me Starlad won and asked if I would accept the state crown. Of course I said yes. I was surprised that it all came back again. Jacqueline hopes to speak about celebrating diversity. "W'e have so many cultural groups in Utah now; she said. "I hope to teach that we hav e more in common with each other than we have differences. I believe Ill be doing a lot of speaking to youth LAYTON Jacqueline Thompson of Layton will be officially crowned Mrs. Utah America on Oct. 23, 1999. She will replace Starla Stanley of Ogden who won the Mrs. America Pageant in Honolulu on Sept. 14. Mrs. Thompson was chosen in the Utah as the first runner-u- p in held of this June pageant year at the Salt Lake Marriott Hotel. "That was really neat," Jacqueline said. I considered it a high honor that the other contestants voted me Mrs. Contestants compete Congeniality: in personal interviews, swimsuits and evening gowns. Jacqueline was bom in Nashville, Tennessee, the oldest of nine children. She graduated from high school in California and w'ent on to graduate from Idaho State University with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Elementary Education. Jacqueline also holds a Master of Arts degree from Weber State University. She taught school in Idaho and California before moving to Utah in 1984. Jacqueline worked at Hill Air Force Base from 1984 to 1993 when she began, working as an education specialist for the Utah State Office of My message to youth is, Whatever your mind can conceive and your heart can believe, with hard work you can achieve! America. She has lived in Layton since 1984. She has received numerous awards and national recognition. Jacqueline was the recipient of the 1994 Spirit of the American Woman Award for pub- - nr 6 COUNTRY You've found the perfect man! TREASURES GIFTS AND COLLECTABLES V7V 1 mm fl the perfect veil! Everything n Sale during October. oiTwon'i believe the prices HOLIDAY DECOR, COLLECTABLES, COUNTRY FURNITURE, CANDLES, GIFTS FOR EVERY OCCASION AND ACCENTS FOR YOUR HOME! HOURS: By appointment only or 298-312- 6 646 W. Creekview - Centerville pare all the w ay! Not only is Jacqueline a devoted wife and mother and handles a fulltime career, she currently sits on the Davis School District Equity v nnJS 409 SOOTH MAIN BOUNTIFUL, UTAH 04010 S S3 294-438- 6 'NTFfy 3971302 x MEDICINE Davis Hospital And Medical Center is pleased to welcome Dr. Robert R. Mohr and Lovenia Stam, Family Nurse Practitioner, to the practice of Davis Internal Medicine. They will be relocating their practice from Ogden to the Layton area. Black Education Foundation, the Davis Arts and Humanities Council and is coordinator for the Martin Luther King. Jr. statewide essay contest. She is a deaconess, youth counselor and Sunday School teacher for the True Vine Baptist Church in Kaysville. In her spare time. Jackie enjoys aerobics and daily walks and fishing, hiking and camping with her family. Committee, Scholarship Dr. Mohr is originally from Bourne, Massachussetts. He attended Medical school at the University of Utah and served his residency there. He has practiced in Ogden since 1994. He has interests in all aspects of general internal medicine and is a firm believer in health care maintainence' and prevention. He is a member of the American Board of Internal Medicine. Dr. Mohr and his wife Teresa are the parents of two boys and he enjoys camping, traveling, and golf. Do You Want Longer or Thicker Hair? Lovenia Sum received her Masters Degree in nursing and clinical training as a Family Nurse Practitioner at the University of Delaware in Newark, Delaware. She has practiced at Ogden Clinic since 1998 and at McKay Dee Hospital prior to that. She is a current member of the American Academy of Nurse Practitioners. Lovenia and her husband Sean reside in North Ogden and she enjoys biking, hiking, snowboarding, and playing the viola with the American Symphony. Dr. Mohr and Lovenia invite their existing patients to their new location and are welcoming new patients to their practice. The office is located in the Davis Medical Office Building at 1660 W. Antelope Drive in Layton, Suite 305. Call Monique for details Appointments can be made by calling The Tonsorial Parlor 405 S. Main, Bountiful Davis Hospital And Medical 1 773-750- 0. - center Monster PAINT SALE IS LIQUID ASSETS SAVE UPT0 $5 PER GAU -0N Liquid Assets & Weather King Satisfaction Guarantee FifcO Bnen pom lomulotwi your complele satisfaction, For up to twenty vem. i! represents a your mcmey wy best m pom Limited ptoducts perWrce bod. Kaysville Junior High students with teacher Mrs. Barbara Hinckley display the quilts that they made for the needy in Kosovo. Photo by Marv Lynchard Students wanted to help when they heard that the citizens of Kosovo were in need of supplies to prepare for the coming winter. It was decided that the students could make quilts to send when the Humanitarian Center sent a shipment to Kosovo. A goal was made to complete 10 quilts. 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Eddie Jr. 19, is a freshman at the University of Utah, and Michael 10, is a fourth grader at E.G. King Elementary: "My family has been most supportive of me, Jacqueline said. They helped me pre- ness. ' ; groups. Education. She works with educational equity and civil rights issues. She is currently involved in diversity and awareness training for students and teachers, showing them how to infuse the curriculum with cultural diversity. "Its not a separate subject, she said. "It should just be infused into everything w'e teach. 292-620- JJ mother will become Mrs. Utah BY VERA O. BARKER Clipper Today Correspondent Depression screenings slated BY VS3AO. BAXTER T) B2 CUPPER TODAY THURSDAY, OCTOBER 7, 1999 1430-9- 9 FULLER PAINTS INC! 1 359 South Main, Bountiful 292-214- sasiaea ' ' |