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Show I j Dorothy Dix Talks jr TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR DAUGHTERS-IN-LAW six lv DOROTHY DIX, i ho World's Highest 1 'a i s VV-omaii Writer L! fern (Copyright, 1920. by The Wheeler Syn- H1. dlcate, inc Flret: Thou shall not abide with yv tn' husbands people, lor better is u I - to bj foul flal alone th;ui a palace HI jj . itn thj In-lawi, H 1 roo Second Thou sh:ilt not '-nler thy I 1 121 huBband's famil) with a Chip upon H Mi thj shoulder, and thj Ioiuk girded for H V fifthi Rather ihalt ihou come thc-re- B p in mm the Dove of l'vaco. seeking a I roosllng pla. H P Third: Thou ahull not regard thy HHB f' rnothcr-ln-law as thy hereditary en- BMHJ f emy, but shall strive to w- her heart, even us thou strlvest to win her frVf eois. HH Fourth. Thou shult not forget the debt tnou ow est the wouuin nv iiu went through the pangs of hell to give tlice; a good husbana, neither shalt thou' V) hold thy hand from repaying lt- f Fifth: Thou shult not strive to H vj' alienate thj husband from the mother H who bore him, or begrudge ber one H jot oi title oi his affection. i HJ . Blxth; Thou shalt not wear the Hi look of an early Christian mart.v r I ,0 when i n. tvpaband tlsltetli bla mother hPH scl alone, or spc-akelli apart with her. HJ (t Seventh: Thou shalt ask thy moth- LHM h er-ln -low's advice, and sit at her feel K ;md learn wisdom f"i sh- hath taken E3HJ r the Ma degi eo In the University of BHH tn Ufe which maketh the M. A of a col- vHp .'i, brid to look an fool- hh HI Blghth: Thou shall speak words of H,n ku love and appreciation to thy mother- HH ' l Ir.-'.avv, lor the heart l l!ie woman HHj who bi given her son to anothei II . woman Is sore ana avhlng In her WaA i breast. T N'nuh: Thou shall ool forget thai sSS r thou thowest thy husband the qual- HHJS Itv of thy lovo by the way iu which HH- thou OOndUCteth lhHelf to his mother. H j pid if thou art tendei an-J loving to H hei be vii arise ai d t-i res thj name, HI U1 1 i icl' .. iu w hoso prlco , la above i ubioJ. oa, above mucA uat gold, aud slions shall vamp lilm in f vain. I Tenth: Remember th.t the day m,. cometh when thou also shall it among the mothers-in-law, and even a:i thou hast trented thy mother-m-liw thj daughter-in-law shall band it to Ihee. I These ilmple rules arc guaranteed to cure the most acute case of mother-lr.-lawltts with which any brido ma bl afflicted, for this palniul complaint j l Ids to gentle means when drastic measures fall So try it. youtig wives, i HHHH ou wno ure un against the lear-l H soaked problems of the ages that of H maintaining peaceful relationship with B jour husband's mother. H Begin by giving mother-In -law ab- V sent treatmonC Never go to live with H her. So shall you keep friends by 1 keeping off of each other's little pfJ- HjHI cullarltles. When a young man pops H (he question to you. and Incidentally HHsV mentions thai he is gOin to take you LHB I to live with mother, and that she will H love you like a daughter, say, Nay. HH nav. Augustus." to him. IHJH I ell him that you will wait until HBHHI 1 he can build a nest of his own for HW you, but that you are wise to the fact HHHHj i that no two women can loe the same HHHU man, and try to run the same house KufiVj I without coming to hate each other, HHHl and that you arc not foolhardy Fn$HI enough to undertake an experiment iHjHHI that only a couple of she angels could HHI lli Having put a prudent and likeable hr distance between jqu and mother-la- tyuBBI, lav.', put the good thought on her RHJHjjl Keep your mind fastened on her virtues vir-tues Instead of going on a Still hunt 4:1 ' af 'or n1' of h"r ftiults- Suppose she is overflowing with an Insatiable urios- l - ii that makes her go poking and pry- 5 - I , lng Into your cupboards and garbage can, and ask ou what everything ' cost. Just remember that tho old have no lr..erest3 In life except through their children, and that tho smallest thing that concerns her John la of more Importance to his mother than the rise and fall of nutlotiu. Suppose mOfher-ln-law Is queer, and CrOtOhet) and narrow-. Keep In mind that she didn't have vour advantages wht-n she woa oung. ahd that, after all. there must be something very noble and fine In the woman who has mined up a boy to be the sort of n gentleman your husband Is Ppr It's a boy's mother v ho groumls him In his principal of truth, and honor, and honesty, and chivalry Then apply to mother-in-law ah emolument made Of equal parts of love and uppreclutlon. Jt's wonderful how It workj, and softens up the most stlffnecked old lady. Ask her advice, ad-vice, whether you take It or not Got her to explain to vou her method of roaring children, and j. utilr.g up fruit, and making pie. crust. Iet her sae tnat ou admire her, and have an affection for her, and that you are grateful to her tor having bestowed be-stowed on you tho greatest gilt one woman cun make another a good h uwbund. Follow this treatment up with small dose of sympathetic under-siuiiding under-siuiiding Let mother-in-law set thst you realise that It if hard for hei to huv some other woman come first in the heart of the son who h;iB been all tho world to her for twenty-five o; thirty years. Above all make her know thut ou do not mean to tuke him from her. Encourage your husband to go to see his mother, and leavo them ulone together to-gether often There must be nu much a mother wants to say to her boy only After all. when a man takes unto himself a Wife he doean't cease to b-a b-a son, vou know, though a great many silly lnide6 seem to think bo. If mother-in-law shows sign of developing de-veloping a rlung temperature arid begins be-gins to talk wildly about your using your best china every day, or buying a new gown, quiet her down with a little of tho bromide of a soft answer Instead Of gelling huffy about It; and telling her to mind her own business Ijiter on you'll know just how she felt when you seo your son's wife wasting the money ho ha3 tolled so hard to make. Apply these remedies for thej mothefr-in-law trouble ad lib. as the doctors' prescriptions say. And espe-1 daily apply larger quantities of love, land patience, and sympathy to the ' situation. If the shock of finding out that sho really has a daughter-in-law who wants to bs friends with her, and who shows her some affection and ap-1 Preclatlon doesn't kill mother-in-law I with surprise, you will have the old! lady so hypnotized she will oat out of your hand, and believe you to be the I marvel of the nges |