Show II F Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Lette Box ADVICE TO THE MOTHER OF FOUR CHILDREN WHO CONTEMPLATES SUICIDE SHOULD YOUNG OLD MR TWO SEVENTY-TWO MARRY MISS EIGHTEEN WOULD A BEAUTIFUL GIRL WHO IS VAIN AND SELFISH MAKE MAIE A GOOD WIFE FEAR DEAlt BEAU MISS DIX l DIX I am 26 years ears old have been married seven years ears L and have four children When I Iwa was wa married I believed my nay hus bus husband band to be he very nearly superhuman but he be has ha become 80 so low S as a to actually get drunk After Arter seeing him maud maud maud-i i l k linly intoxicated crying and pitying himself I S B 1 I simply Py c cant can't t respect or love him hina Also he hee e t tells me that i ho he is sick 1 of marriage and if c 5 he gets the chance chanco ho will take some other ether woman out He doesn't seem eem to realize that I too would iko Ike some pleasure r ronce once In a while and that I am starved for Cor affection There Is a young oung m man n who la Js 4 eiF very y much In love with me but I care noth- noth j i log for Q him j and Q lire life g has g become such uch a ar r m muddle that the tho only outlook I see Is death deatha I themI I I love my babies too well welt to leave them themy- themy motherless so I plan to take them with me but before beCore I take this desperate step I will willa await your advice and I shall do ilo as you say DESPERATE DOROTHY DI DIX Well Will if you do ill as a I say uy you will not buy a bottle of p poison lson Instead butI you will purchase a railroad ticket You will go away but not by the sul suicide route You will take tak a perfectly ordinary sleeping leeping car to some tome pla place e where you can an rest reat and get your your- yourself self elf together and get a clear perspective on your life What's What the matter with you i Is nerves Too many babies In too short a time tim Too mu much h staying at home and lack of amusement Tao r o much brooding over one You have become morbid and cannot see things fairly and square ly You have lost your grip on yourself or else Plse you would not speak ot of doing such a wicked and cowardly thing as killing yourself and your children because you have to face a few Cew disagreeable problems In life 11 To begin with of o course you were disappointed In your husband It If you were silly enough to place him upon a pedestal and make a little tin god of him Every woman who lets her Imagination run runaway runaway runaway away with her good Rood hard horse sense has her bitter hour of disillusion disillusion disillusion sion when she finds out that she Is married to just an ordinary faulty human man But If she ha has any Intelligence she calls call alls upon her sense of humor to come to her rescue has ha a good laugh at herself and junks junk her girlish dream and makes the best of her yoke mate Moreover in in tine e she comes to see that he ha h is 15 probe probably probably ably a lot easier to get along with and suits her hel better than thana a romantic hero would have done You are disgusted with your husband because you OU have seen hint him intoxicated Probably every other woman feels the same sam way under similar circumstances But If every woman who has a husband who drink drinks too much killed herself the world would be one vast graveyard If It your our husband has haa ha only recently taken to drinking the chances chanc's are that you can stop him from doln doing it by persuasion by appealing to his affection affection and by using usine a little tact tact It If you cant can't stand tand it it you ou can divorce him which will certainly be a less crime on your soul out than wholesale murder I I should say that the crux of the whole trouble I ii that you you and your husband have gotten on each others other's other nerves and andall andall andall all that you need is td ta tc be separated for a month or two Try that and my word for It you will have another honeymoon And send the young man who is In love with you packing Thre Thare is always danger that an unhappy wife will listen lieten to the purring purring of a tame tarn cat some day when she sh is ia particularly disgusted with hep he h husband DOROTHY DIX e S S C CEAR DEAR EAR r EAR I MISS DIX I I am ant a young old man of 72 Have two married children I am desperately In love with a vivacious and pretty gIrl of ot 18 16 She sa-s sa says that she loves me dearly and would be willing to marry me but my children strongly object and say ay that all that girl wants is my property What do you ou a advise 1 ROBERT S Answer I I urge urge you to listen to your children and to held heed their warning for if you marry this young girl you will wil bring your gray hair in sorrow to th grave Do you have the sense and courage ge to face fac the th truth truth Dont Don't kid yourself Into thinking that you are young at 72 n You are old and no young girl girt marrel marres an an old manfor man for tor anything except his hi money money- She Sh isn't lant in love with you It l Is impossible that she Should should be there for for there is nothing in age that appeals to youth An old man may be enamoured of a young girl Her beauty her freshness her high spirits spirit enchant him but there Is noth- noth nothing noth ing nothing in his wrinkles his gray hair his rheumatic Joints his hil failing faculties that appeals to her Consider what a lack of ot congeniality there would bo be bet een you At youAt 72 our ideas are fixed You have your our own notions notion of propriety they will wll seem scent absolutely medieval to a 8 girl of ot It IS At 72 on one likes to reminisce about the past Yo Your r stor stories es will wll bore her to tears At 72 one on likes to sit lit by the th fireside of an art evening but but at 18 1 one on wants want to run around to Jazz parties and night clubs and have hav wild times There is no possibility of 01 o happiness In Inthe the thed marriage of an old man and a young girl Dont Don't try IL It it DOROTHY DIX DEAlt ryAR EAR MISS DIX T DIX I am In loe with a girl who riho Is I very beautiful J but very ery vain and selfish She Is constantly boasting of her con con- conquest conquests quests quest among men and reminding me of how pretty she is and how superior to other girls sirls She has ha an nn idea that the world must pay her homage and ah she takes tales everything that Is done for tor her asno ae ai as no more than her due She Sho never considers anyone any one else l e In n any way Do you 1011 think such a girl will make maka a good wife HAROLD Answer The Th worst possible wife Harold A vain selfish woman will ruin the life lif of an any man who la is I enough to marry her Such a woman makes a sl slave sIye ve of ot her husband husband and thinks that he h li should consider it tt a privilege to spend his bis days toiling tolling to make mak moneY to gratify her whims and desires Sh She expects to be always flattered and nd she seeks admiration from everyman every man she meets i She Sh never has but one love and that Is I herself And when her beauty goes she ahe h becomes a peevish fretful com corn complaining old woman who has ha nothing left in her to appeal to any man DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |