Show 5 r V W COME contE TO TO HEARTS HEART'S HA YEN VENI t With Wilh BETTY BLAIR Attain of ot tho the heart bert and kindred problems ONLY will b be discuses In Sn th this thU department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should be addressed to urns BETTY BErry BLAIR HEARTS HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side aide of the paper It n Is necessary that you app append nd the right name and addre but butth th these e will be held beld In strict confidence and will wUl by no menus means DI appear pp t In print Ed BOY FRIEND DISAPPOINTS Dear Miss Misa Blair It It ILlS Is a great relief nUd to o Ilave someone t in to whose tars ears we can spill our trou Iron bles Lies My 1 cup seems to be overflowing right rIght now For a year ear I have be been In Lu Jove love with a Tel very wonderful boy He has be been so nice Dice to tome me that I thought he Jie loved m me although ho he has haa never told me me so 10 in so M many words There Is 13 nothing In the world as sweet as hIs occasional kiss br or caress It has hasteen been teen my hope that I might be bo good goodenough goodenough enough or interesting enough or his his his' is Ideal Ideal or or whatever it ft takes tomake to tomake make mat aman love you yon and wont want you yon always that always that he lie might want well well want me rue for lor better betterS or or r. r for lor worse But Bat Miss Blair have Just discovered ered that in spite of the fact lad that be he has been telling me he was not stepping other girls rids that t right under my nose he has been doing so It was my mT complete faith in him that made me sue believe In him entirely The queer thing about It Is that one one or of the t Iris ith is my best friend I 1 haven't confided my real feelings to this girl girland lrI and Mid I suppose since he has been beell te telling her how crazy crary he was about her that she thought she was WM his girL uL Last week k this friend confided In me mc about the boy She likes someone someone someone some some- one one else a lot better beiter and has bag Ja Just t been letting this boy In on an occasional occa occa- pd petting ng party when she be didn't have Juve another date I 1 could have fainted when she told me Die all aU his this It just about floored me I couldn't even enn speak for a Do few minutes 5 but she rattled on and c didn't notice the ef effect ef- ef feet fed her wo words Iud had on me Miss Blair this has upset me sue until I T can neither cat nor sleep It is on my fly mind continuously I dont don't want vant to th see are him after this deception and yet ret J I will be heartbroken If I 1 dont What shall I do I 1 cant cans ever be the same ume toward him again agal 1 and yet I J Ilove Ilove JJOe love JOe him with all my heart and soul nu But it Isn't po possible ble is it U. U that ho he could love me and act this way If there Is Is' Is anything you ou can say sai J to make snake me sue feel frel better please say It I have bare thou thought I was in love before beron bat but nothing has bas ever affected me like Jike this I want to say all the m mean n things T lean can think of to him things s sI I would never ordinarily say at allAnd all dL And yet the next nen minute I want to take him In my arms arms' and cry uy m my heart L out In hi my love for him I guess you ou think I am terribly foolish Please help me THE IN 1 T wo would ld like to be able to get down downto downto downto to rock bottom on this question y with th you u. u the In and y yet t if I Ido Ido Ido do in the small space allotted I am sure I shall be misunderstood It is true that many men can condition the love response by substitution and by sublimation it would seem far tar more successfully than can decent women Take your own case lor br In in- in II stance It would be an of cf possibility that you could flee to the I arms anns of 01 another man for comfort I even In this hour of distress yet the boy friend under the stress of sex rex attraction can enjoy the arms of more than one girl However we who stand on the sidelines side aide i lines like to believe he Is not really I in love with any girl when he can b behave have in this manner We like to keep our old and believe that i love is a sent heaven gift for which we WB must live to be worthy for which we must practice all sorts of Inhibitions i for which we must sublimate in a worthy manner And we like to have our men behave in like manner We like to think we nr are am the one and only true love of our loved ones one's life That whatever other affairs affairs' he had hed th there ther r was something sadly missing miss miss- ing which we wein we-in In the full tull abundance of our nature and our affection can supply And alter after all aU what is is' ulcer nicer than to keep this belief bellef modem modern psychologists notwithstanding and to continue continue con con continue i to build civilization on this basis It was certainly not in giving way ay to all the urges that pos possessed mankind that civilization ha has haz been built If It primitive man had continued continued continued contin contin- to exercise his urge to to steal and browbeat his weaker brother and his wife we certainly couldn't be very tar far advanced by now So little girl continue to believe belleve in the bo boy friend In spite of his vagaries keep uppermost in your mind his fine traits curb the angry v. v words help him to see sec that control is a finer species of human action than is license and that greater happiness happiness hap hap- comes from such control Try to condition your emotions with reason Teason for angry words can only Increase e your own unhappiness unhappiness' The boy friend may not really reany be in love Jove with either of at you yet he will respect you ou it if you play your part with as much reason as it is possible for you t to td exhibit And it is surprising what time can do to alleviate hurts hurls and also to reconcile people to the death of ot the romance that once held them bound FALL PAL COLORS Miss Dear BI Blair lr Will you please se tell ten me mc what are arc the predominating fall colors Many thanks PAT According to Paris and New York Yolk modis browns are to take the lead head for the fall faU talmud and winter r season African can can brown Irown Biskra brown plum brown a leaf dead-leaf brown chestnut and sepia brown are the newest shades Other similarly rich colors such as coppery and bronze shades are aro excellent There Is a rich dark coppery Persian red and a adeep deep Persian Per Per- sinn shin green that Is 15 also much In favor LUNCHING WITH WIm EMPLOYER Dear Deaz Miss BI Blair Ji I am very much In need of your jour our advice I have just recently accepted a 1 new position as AS' stenographer My l' employer has Biked asked me twice to go ID out to lunch hunch with him and I have bave made excuses both times Did I do doright doright right I certainly dont don't want to of offend offend offend of- of fend him bin Thank you STENO Since you arc holding boldIng a subordinate subordinate subordinate nate position you did exactly right to offer adequate excuses for or not lunching with your employer If a girl held a Do responsible position and there were matters of business to be discussed and no time ice hours in lii which to discuss them them- It would be quite all nIl right for her to accept her employers employer's invitation to fa lunche luncheon n. n Under average circumstances circumstances circum circum- stances It would be courting criticism criticism cism clam were such a habit babit to be etab BALD SPOTS TREATED Dear Miss Blair My ly little mUe boys boy's hair Is coming out oot in bald spots which do not seem to be growing new hair Can you advise me what to do Thank Thank you PARK Consult a Do specialist to determine whether this is areata that thatis is afflicting the hair If It t co so home treatments may be given Paint the bald spots with mercurochrome after giving hot oil treatments the regular shampoo and of alternate te warm and cold water One should not become discouraged if the bald places are not covered within a month or orso so but should persevere with the treatments Send a stamped self-addressed self envelope en for our circulars cir Treatments of Dry and Oily OUy Hair and General Shampoo |