Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday July 8 2003 — C5 FOR BETTER OR WORSE Beware snooping friend Sal'' J0OltyXftE0rMAllUzd ' DEAR ANNIE: Last weekend my husband and I invited aome Mends to come for a visit “Madge and Bart" arrived in die early afternoon My husband was at work and Madge and I decided to go shopping That left Bart alone in our apartment My husband and I have long suspected that Bart and Madge were snoops so I set a couple of booby traps before leaving I wedged a small piece of paper in the drawer of a file cabinet where a lot ofpersonal papers axe kept and another in my sewing cabinet When I came home both traps had been sprung Now I’m certain Bart opened these cabinets and I sus pect he went through all our drawers as well I know we should have locked up the personal stuf£ but during a recent move we lost the key to the file catenet My husband is livid and says he is ready to cut them out of our lives altogether but we have been close friends for IS years and I like them What would you advise? — No Privacy DEAR NO PRIVACY: Fifteen years of an otherwise good friendship is a lot to throw away No one is perfect Some friends gossip others pm loud one or two have spouses that annoy the living daylights out of you Now that you know Bart is a snoop don’t leave him alone in your house and besure to get another key made for dhy cabinet that contains personal or valuable items If this is Bart’s only flaw you can work around it provided of course your husband is willing DEAR ANNIE: Recently my wife of 17 years died from cancer We knew about her illness for the last four months of her life and used the time to mourn together I still grieve for her but I feel ready to move on and maybe even find another love The problem is I cannot move on if I am sitting alone in die house or attending these self-hel- p groups where people focus on overcoming loss I am perfectly capable of laughing and socializing and would like to get out there and do just that Is this normal and acceptable or am I in some kind of denial and need more time to heal than I realize? — Widowed in Winnipeg Canada DEAR WINNEPEG: You had the opportunity to go through the grieving process while your wife was still by your side This gave your healing a head start There is no set time frame for grief If you feel ready to socialize and enjoy life again by all means go right ahead ijgsssi M MiraenHM yowtt JcRU6ri'MDyauiieaEMMViKe mam v Jfrvi jkur GILBERT ARLOANDJANIS Lysine effective for some By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: Are you aware ofany evidence substantiating the claim that the only type of man who would have sex with a woman who is promiscuous (six or more partners) is one I with low read such a recently sfatement and would like your opinion as an inexperienced partners Also I’m troubled by your definition of ' ‘ promiscuous” as indicating six or more “conquests” While some women might fall into this category (if they have casual sex with mul- tiple men with whonitjro avoid emotional attachment) in this age of sexual permissiveness women may have had a significant number of sexual encounters by the time they reach middle age m It seems to me that problems would be manifest in other ways — for example by frequenting prostitutes or engaging in addictive behavidr such as drug and alcohol abuse Therefore each case should be individually judged on the facts and the pattern of behavior A male who enjoys a satisfying life with a woman who has “been around” may be experiencing a positive loving relation that is unrelated to As has been said before: Never generalize (This is one of my favorite aphorisms on a par with: Avoid cliches like the plague) well-adjust- ed self-estee- self-estee- - impartial party DEAR READER: First of all I’m not a psy- chologist so I can’t profess to offer an expert opinion Personally I don’t believe this claim Fbr one thing it’s far too general Although some men with low might be attracted to promiscuous women many other such males would — in my view — prefer self-estee- m GRIZZWELLS I JUST rows PST 1NTHESKK MARKET !! 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