Show Dr Dorothy Drothy thy s Di-'s Dix ix s 's s Letter Box I TO A GIRL WHOSE ROMANCE IS WRECKED BY liv AN UNWORTHY FIANCE NOVEL METHOD OF MAK ING A HIT WITH A NICE GIRL OF TODAY POOR POOR 1 WIFE WHO MARRIED A FAMILY GOAT EAR AR MISS hISS DIX DIX Fol For three years tILts I have been engaged to a young man who I belle believed loved mo mc very Cry much I have havo worked and all allany my any money has bas been laid aside to help bell furnish our home All my dreams have been of o the time Ume when we could have ha our own little home Then like a night night- nightmare r a mare came C me a dreadful revelation 1 I havo have found out that he has been drinking heavily and spending much of o his time with a dis dis- disreputable reputable woman If It we wo hadn't been engaged ao so long and K if 1 I were a little younger I could stand il II II but I am 25 and havo given ghen the five i best years of or my m life me to him turning down all alt alti i other dates so as to be true to him I havo have seen so many married men that are untrue to their wives that I am becoming cynical toward every man but I love housework ork and ci want a nome of my own Should I make the best ot of the tho situation or break the engage engage- engagement 1 mont ment and run the risk of ot being an old maid 7 MARY ARY tL Answer DOROTHY DIX If the young man Is leading a dissolute life Ills before what right have have- you to suppose that he will change and lead an up up- upright upright right life lite after marriage There Is II no magic In the marriage ceremony that alters niter a mans man's tastes taste or his principles principle or that tha quenches his hla thirst for drink or that changes a rounder Into a sober domestic husband And nd no woman should know this so 80 well as the business woman oman who knows how many of the he men she sho ho works with spend tho the money that is needed at home on bootleggers and who ileitis hes them so 80 often orten telephoning to their wives s that they are meeting a man from Oshkosh on business and wont won't be home to Lo dinner when she knows that they will be chasing around with some little flapper Clapper And this why do you even consider marrying a man who has hu betrayed your trust In him and who has shown that he ho has a partiality for loose women and drink You can can- cannot cannot not deceive yourself Into thinking that you can ever trust him or that there Is any peace or happiness In store for you youIt If It you marry him If you will use any common sense at ot all you must perceive that your lot as a competent well paid business woman is a better than titan it would be as a n. drunkards drunkard's wife wICe or a deserted wife wICe whose husband was off orr chasing other women You could not depend upon such a man even to support you OU and the chances are that after afler you married him hint you would have a worthless drunken husband to take care of oC Now at least you have your own money for your own use You may be lonely now but you do not spend anguished nights night with your heart torn by every demon of Jealousy knowing that your husband Is with another woman Naturally you OU are arc hurt and disappointed and aDd disillusioned but you should thank God that you found out about the weaknesses of o the theman theman theman man you are about to marry marryon on the safe saCe side of ot the altar and In time timeto to save yourself Better Detter a a. broken engagement than a broken mar mar- 4 At 25 you are still young enough to forget and build your life anew You have really only come to the time of life when you are capable of a big love You will forget this man and laugh at your early Infatuation for him and find some ono one on who v Is more worthy of you And believe ve me there Is nothing to be appalled at In the thought of ot being an old maid It is a million times time better to have no husband at all than not to have a good one DOROTHY DIX DEAR MISS DIX The DIN The boy with whom I 1 chum has a pretty sister whom I 1 adore Tho The other day when I 1 went to his home I tried to kiss her tier and 2nd she said to me rae Dont be foolish I wont won't stand for Cor that She is a a. a different kind of or a girl from Crom the other girls I know hat What would you y u suggest for tor me rae to do to win her COLLEGIATE Answer Suppose you try acting like lake a gentleman and treating her with respect That should make a hit with her be be- because of Its Mast flast of the fresh cause cauce novelty boys are aro so now now- nowadays nowadays that they make a nice girl very very tired Any youth who didn't expect to be paid for every courtesy he ho he showed her by being bein J permitted to kiss her and paw her overt ove would be regarded as nothing less than a Sir Galahad So I strongly line upon you The greatest flattery that man has ever been able to offer a a. woman is reverence It is mans man's chivalry that has appealed more than any other quality to women In all the great romances and the Im im- Impassioned impassioned love poems the hero bero has always been depicted depleted as wor WOl worshiping at his ladys lady's feet as cherishing the smallest sign of oC her con con- condescension as receiving her kiss as something almost sacramental Surely your readings In Jn college have taught you OU all this and it should teach you that the same method of oC wooing still sUII exists For the hearts of Nomen omen do not change and while there are a lot of girls so anxious for the attentions attention of boys that they will buy them at any price and submit to kissing and 2nd necking and petting there is not one of them who In her se secret cret soul would not prefer a boy to treat her with respect and who would not thrill to know that he has set her upon a pedestal and looked up to her Instead of looking down upon her as a cheap little plaything And as for Cor a dainty and refined gIrl one who iho means to keep herself unsullied you cant can't think how disgusted she is Js with a youth who tries to take liberties with her or what a 11 poor cheap sport she sh shI I the one who expects her to pay PlY for lor his condescending notice by letting him slobber over her So try treating a nice girl with reverence and watch her fall fail for tor it DOROTHY DIX DEAR EAR DOROTHY DIX DIX My My husband and I have been married for live five years ears Before we were married he lie supported his family Now ow they still look to him to Lo do it ft although he has three single brothers au an bodied able-bodied father Cather a married sister a young joung sister in college and his mother This makes such a drain on his salary salar that we have nothing All winter my baby had to get along with only two changes of or underwear and I went so shabby that I r was ashamed to be seen SE on the street I 1 am ant a work hard ilard tig saving woman oman anxious to get got along hut tut we can make no headway because my roy husband gives every penny to his family Wouldn't I be Justified in seeking a divorce from Crom such sucha a man A WIFE Answer Your husband hu band Isn't a man He U Is I nothing but the family goat and I honestly cant can't see sec why are called upon to be ed along with your child to his people Certainly it Is I a cruel and an unjust thing fo fop fo a man to prefer his family to his wife and children and to rob them of the necessities of life to Indulge his parasitic brothers and arid sisters in luxuries But nut many men do that thaL Whether It is family pride or because they hey love o their people better than their wives s and their own OVll children or whether Jt It is III because they lack the Ule courage to refuse to 10 be heM hell up any longer I dont don't know But Dut I do know many women who are vie vic r ims tims of oC this peculiar pecullar injustice on o their husbands husband's part I And I think that any woman Is foolish to stand for it DOROTHY DIX Copyright Cop by Public Ledger |