| Show 2 Brides' Brides 2 Cents As they prepare for their own nuptials two of our writers sh share re their first steps of wedding planning process Experience is the best teacher So to help newly engaged women everywhere weve we've asked a few of our writers who are in the throes of planig planning planning plan- plan mn ning ig their own weddings to share their thoughts on the first things they did after getting engaged r rk i rAH rA- rA H P l. l J. J J tI k f t r L Different styles of wedding planning work better for different people How many mallY people will you invite to your wedding Anna Hirsh 31 Portland Ore 1 11 I thought more about trying to make everyone else happy then myself It was a serious hindrance I figured that if there were things that I could do to make my future laws in-laws happy my own family happy my friends happy then then no problem You always hear that the wedding isn't for you its it's for everyone else The problem then became that nothing was getting decided and it turns out outI I much liking the way it felt like my wedding wedding wed wed- ding was turning out It wasn't feeling like me I quickly began to realize that maybe I actually did care about what kind of wedding I had even if jilt it was wasa a simple and mellow wedding I now feel that your wedding should be for you first and foremost because its it's not a day to just get over and done with 2 21 I started looking at bridal magazines and planning books Its It's good be because ause it gets you in the wedding frame of mind and you can see what's out there You can see how fun and magical and special it itcan itcan itcan can be On the other hand it can really stress you out because these magazine and books have made weddings a big business They tend to tomake tomake tomake make you feel like you are already behind in your planning that there is so much to do that it has hasto to cost a fortune and that there are too many det details s to count I would say to enter into that world with a grain agrain of salt Try to relax and revel in the fun run of looking at pretty pictures instead o of thinking about what you have to do next 3 31 I called or mailed e-mailed everyone I know and told them the news That was a great idea dea Hearing peoples people's words of love support excitement and even advice was absolutely fantastic It made me think about why my fiance and I want to get married in n the first place Mary Fons 28 Chicago 1 11 I did NOT call everyone in my address iress book and scream I got engaged We didn't do some big announcement right away because it did seem like a private thing See BRIDES Page 4 r I BRIDES continued from Page 3 Of course now that w were we're re planning stuff and sending thc save cards and its been a couple months since since he popped the thc question involved in a way But at first it was just so natural to us that we were engaged making a big announcement just 2 We picked a date I realized pretty quickly that until you have a d date tc you cant can't do much of anything You cant can't book a space a church a photographer ete You cant can't contact bridesmaids or invite invite i Grandma Date first plans second 3 We went and got a ring ring- There wasn't wasn t one at the time of the proposal because h he was was just that in the moment that that he hadn't even planned to pop pop the question that night Im I'm n not nota t ta a demanding girl but it was very important t to me to have havea a ring right away It makes an engagement official that's all I J dont don't care too much about bling or jewelry b but t I do care about a arite arite arite rite of passage in my life Plus I know what I like so it didn't take long at all to pick one out And Im I'm happy |
