Show ASK MOM Trouble at the chopping block Ir S A rA r r Kathryn Jones Campus Editor Dear Mom How do I get my girlfriend d to to start stan cooking She has an i aversion to the kitchen She Sh e 5 wont won't help me If it entails t too much prep she wont won't do it it What should I do Sincerely Hungry Dear Tired The sickness your girlfriend d I has is one I can relate to You u may believe your girlfriend i is s merely being lazy uncooperative tive and uncaring of you buthis but bu t this is probably not true Though eating is an obvious fact of life there are yes some females on this planet who really dont don't enjoy cooking We like to eat it of course but the idea of standing in a hot kitchen for hours on end cooking cooking cooking cook cook- ing up what should be a spectacular spectacular spectacular spec spec- dish is about a pleasant and desirable as cleaning out the bathroom toilet What I find interesting in your question is that for centuries centuries centuries cen cen- it was the woman who was portrayed as belonging in the kitchen like some sort of household appliance She was expected to cook even if she didn't enjoy it to have a hearty meal meal prepared for her r. r man the u minute he lie ewe walked I t through hr h the e door gor In this so called modem era of equal rights and opportunity opportunity opportunity there are some men who yet insist that the woman still belongs in the kitchen What is so fascinating about this concept is that more an and d more women are working outside outside outside out out- side the home bringing in pretty pretty pret pret- pretty ty hefty paychecks themselves and yet at home they are still 1 expected to cook time full-time for fo r their man Though the roles ar are e reversed in your case and you find yourself cooking your you s heart out while she may be sitting sitting sitting sit sit- ting leisurely on the couch consider this She obviously does not enjoy cooking like you do and the only way she may help you with this undesirable undesirable undesirable unde unde- task is if you give hersome her some room Ask her for help and with that help dont don't expect a fancy meal If she is comfortable comfortable comfortable comfort- comfort able with macaroni and cheese boxed be thankful you have havea a night off The next night- night your turn-cook turn something gourmet if you want but dont don't make it a contest rather an opportunity to share your love Be satisfied with her efforts and dont don't brag about your own She may not want to cook with you in the kitchen because she feels a bit her dated-her lack of culinary skills and your great dance You might even be the biggest bear in the kitchen that she has ever seen I can relate My husband calm and soothing soothing soothing sooth sooth- ing in most cases turns into something else when I try helping him in the kitchen I usually settle for setting the table For some years now my husband has been cooking the majority of our meals He loves to cook and I let him He hates to clean I can manage it So after the wonderful gourmet chef meal we pat our full tummies and he goes and watches television while I Iclean Iclean Iclean clean up the wonderful mess called dishes 1 1 T tK K y si f V j Do you have ai di difficult catt q yoo C y i- i i c t WK A Mom at you ho hoa i v away Globe b St r rf f |