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Show HOW MANY TIMES a day do you say "No" to your children? chil-dren? Sally's mother overheard Aer daughter saying to a playmate, play-mate, "There's no sense asking my mother. She always says 'No.' " Thus prompted, the mother moth-er under discussion decided to count the number of "No's" she actually did deliver each day. And though she doesn't divulge her exact count, she says it was astonishingly as-tonishingly high. She then began to weigh the decisions she had made and . found that a good many of the things that she had forbidden could have been permissible at least with modifications. Sally Sal-ly couldn't play In the mud with her good dress on, but she could have come Inside first to change Into overalls. Saying "No," Sally's mother realized, real-ized, had simply become a habit. When we call a child to lunch and he asks, "Can we eat out under the tree?" we say quickly, "No, Dear. Hurry and sit down at the table." We give no reason for the refusal, probably because we have scarcely scarce-ly given the question a thought. But a child's requests are important impor-tant to him. And if he must be refused re-fused he can at least be told why. If it rained yesterday and the ground is too muddy for an "outdoor "out-door lunch, explain this. Tomorrow, Tomor-row, ypu may point out, will be a better day for a picnic. And if it is sunny tomorrow and the child still begs to eat his lunch outdoors, why not? Of course it may be a bit of extra trouble to load a tray and carry it outside, but a happy youngster loves to help. And often even a customarily disdained vegetable veg-etable is eaten with relish as part of a festive picnic. Sometimes we say "No" Just because a child's requests seem ridiculous. Bui . usually have chiidr " thing, them. One day Susa'' mot"er if she e dBJBSke. cowboy boot, ,0 sc '0;e re fem.nine little eir. i ruffled dresses, Susa d " ' ways loved L' " haU leather Mary jZ n Pll school. HerCowboehPl. for after-schoorp "quest baffled her',?'' until the child exDiL the boy who .ccupS' behind her kicked t l"" Rather than tattle to t ' had come up wlth s sourceful solution. Disapproving ,t often hag another J?' tage. It is likely from a great deal of eniL 11 our children. The pi fT ample, though fa troublesome, would obSf turned out to be fun leasta.nsteningandt' audience, children will b. T cUned to tell rZ thought,. The woV,t the eyes of the young, different and magically (achats Place. The chance to can be a mother's reward fort, ing to understand her child's I quests. From the standpoint ol line a No must be carefully sidered so that parents can i j to it. For there are times t undesirable activities must U checked. These are times to t, ' definite and firm. This ti pari ularly important in the early jP1 1 when a child is getting his la I ideas of human relations. Then a needs to learn that parents can a depended on to mean what s? , say. ' , |