Show kathleen norris sa says YS do you know what you want dell bell syndicate feature r 41 va TAN s we y did carpentering painting gardening built walls walk and window boxes and a bathroom and had more fun than we ever had by KATHLEEN NORRIS 0 OME women know what athey SOME they want others only know what they dont want the difference is that between happiness and unhappiness failure and success the negative attitude destroys the positive attitude always constructs the woman who only knows what she want talks to you somewhat like this yes yea my dear we unlucky bakers er are still in the same came dreadful apartment apartments apart mentI I 1 dislike that school intensely but im keeping the children there and theres no use moving harrys worried about bills and he says weve got to acono economize in ize if we wa expect to find a better place tut but you simply cant these days no hes bes still tul with miller and miller Ire dreadful adful they kiy pay the lowest salaries in town but theres no help for or it its bills we seem haunted by bills I 1 hate them as much as anyone but what can you do this woman hates everything in her life her house her clothes her m meals eals dishwashing and ironing and and she does nothing about it presently she begins to blame biame her husband for the whole thing she convinces herself that the she never really loved him and honestly feels that any change would be for the better she simply cant stand things the way they are any longer so another home goes a on n the rocks simply because the mother and wife takes the negative instead of the positive attitude cure Is in your tour heart if you happen to be one of the women who want iny anything thing she he has haf but at the some same time formed any definite picture of what Is itie he does want the tha cure lies entirely in your own heart and mind this Is one of the miracles of life and it is a pity not to take advantage of it in other words stop thinking of what you dont want and begin to think of what you do it sounds simple but it takes some courage some imagination some consistency to begin once you get started everything lj is smooth sailing your husband bornes becomes not an obstruction and aa enemy but a partner the things you dislike in your life be awne only so many upgrades to be passed on the road when you got get to the top of the slope you get a aner view we have pulled ourselves up by our own bootstraps says a mans letter which reached me this week everything was going wrong with toss tass and me when she wrote you your so much older olde advice sounded rather romantic and impracticable at first but we tried it you said first arst to look the money question squarely in the eye this was hard I 1 wasted in my way and tess hated any supervision of her expenditures but we faced it decided where we could cut and took our two boys then aged 7 and 9 into our councils my salary was a month with no rent to pay our bills bill totaled 2400 it seared scared us and we w decided that tess should take part time work until they were paid this ended the divorce idea wed both been entertaining in a halfhearted half hearted sort of way the boys spending money came cama down with a rush we paid off all but in bills in six months and began to wf we teem seem haunted by bills bill t A NEW ATTITUDE many women are dissatisfied with their lots there are always some problems that are hard to solve some difficulties that seem almost anka unbearable attires at times As miss norris points out most women know what they dont want but few know clearly exactly what they do want the difference in attitude can make all the difference between happiness and misery isery in two letters quoted in article bring this out the first is from a woman woman who is complaining about everything ery thing the apartment the childrens school her husbands salary the other letter is from a man whose wife had asked miss norris fo for advice some time ago this couple was drift drifting ig toward divorce e they were just tired of the friction occasioned by life in a crowded apartment and by the expenses that seemed always alwa YS greater than they had expected they decided to try the plan miss norris outlined after a few months they were out ut of debt A little while later they were able to pay down on a little place in the country buy government bonds we talked ot 0 f nothing but a small country place cost around and one day we found tt it shabby in tor for years rattier rather remote but priced a at t we lumped jumped at it it did painting carpentering gardening built walls and paths win dow boxes and a bathroom and had more fun than weve ever had in our lives that was two years ago were out of debt now the new bus line runs by our corner comer weve been offered for our property and dream of selling everything rosy now my salary Is now and tess and the boys sell sandwiches and mugs of coffee tor for 25 cents all day saturday and sunday to passersby down under the trees at the gate last season they put more than in the bank end and the boys college expenses are safe fate we were a negative unsatisfied crowded family in a five room flat four years ago a family that knew what it want but had no idea what it did we ve were still crowded in debt worried unsympathetic when we sat down to facette face fac ethe the situation and begin to say we do instead of we doret dont 1 now we are independent strong our boys normal happy youngsters and my wife and 1 I 1 more united than we were when we were bride and groom weve lately been joined by a young lady who takes it for granted that we think her more precious than the koh 1 noor diamond and she Is right this is a true letter and the fact is true too change from thinking what you dont want to thinking what you do want and watch your life shape into a similar miracle |