| Show kathleen norris says the woman who wont forgive BU bell syndicate features Fea turf ak ft tie the goodness lust just old fashioned goodness that is patient with a 4 sometimes disappointing husband with exacts exacting ng children is what america so 0 o desperately pera tely needs now by KATHLEEN NORRIS NA MARGERY ARGERY writes me CURRY from plainfield new jersey that tha t she wishes she could forgive a person who once has injured her she says cheis she is so made that she cannot and that her married life is bein beag g destroyed in consequence this is the purest nonsense to assume that you cannot forgive an injury ury or ini justice in this life is to proclaim your yourself self a person of limited intelligence incapable of growth margerye Mar gerys story Is that her hus bus band was deceiving her about in money for many years for 14 44 years bob sent 50 a month to an old woman who worked for his big mother as housekeeper seamstress nurse when the old woman died bob bobs office secretary commented to mara margery upon upon bobs generosity and margery forgiven bob yet she keeps a cool civility going before far the children but she has moved out of the room she and bob have shared for 13 15 years and as bob says that unless this sort of foolishness stops stop s hell get out tor for good matters have reached a serious point and margery in floods of tears has written tor for my advice trust Is gone to think that while I 1 was s saving a v and economizing and do doing 1 n g without things she wr writes les bob all the time was supporting an old woman who had no claim on him at all end and never saying a word to me of that extra a yearl year he has been a good husband and we have prospered t thought myself a few months ago the happiest woman to in the world but now I 1 feel that I 1 never can trust bob again and what Is love without trust unfortunately I 1 im in so made that I 1 cant f forgive or give IU ill bear anything while people treat me fairly but once im angered good what a strange thing Is the smugness of these div alvea e s who boast of their moral and rn mental limitations who gloat over the jealousy lea lousy or extravagance trava gance or hot temper or the hardness of heart that cant tor for givel give 1 this is a form of childishness that makes it hard bard tor for me to answer margery curry patiently but I 1 cin can tell you one thing margery g cry that lif unless iless we keep changing growing improving we humans settle into fixed forms and a part of us dies when you say that you are made that way and that its a characteristic of your family never to change or never to learn to forgive or never to gain control of the hot temper of which you are all so secretly proud or never to develop character enough to live within your income and pay your bills honestly you are ann announcing bouncing that you are among the fo folk ik who are incapable of becoming civilized real women do forgive real women are re ashamed hamed es of any sue such boast astvat as that their tempers are uncontrollable or their jealousy too deep rooted to be cured real women grow up in peril A good goad many thinking persons now are anxious ous about this tired old war worn wom world and with good we must leam to forgive ACT MATURELY mrs curry cant forgive her husband I 1 for or deceiving her the deception was this bob who is a successful and dutiful husband Jias been sending 50 a month to an old woman who was his mothers nurse he has been keeping this donation a secret for 14 years what makes margery so mad is to think that while she was skimping and savin savi nr f bob was passing out this dole to a woman w ornan who had no real claim to it But worst of all thelast the fact that she was kept in the dark ark on an important family matter for so long haf ha shattered her faith in her husband the old bond of faith laith seems to be ripped apart and margery apart cannot b bring ing herself to face the situation in all other ways U ays bob has been nearly perfect fact the sudden discovery of this secret has ended marg erys happiness miss norris replies that we must all for forgive iv 0 a and nd forget in this th is case it should not be so hard seeing that bob was acting ir from 0 m what reconsidered he ke considered the highest motives mo tives gratitude to his mothers nurse that he could not afford this generosity is another matter the real issue is whether ther margery can act like a 4 mature woman and overlook a matter that aller after a all 11 is not very serious reason unless we women learn to forgive and forgive and forgive forgia e things will grow worse unless we learn to deal honestly with our lives there is na no hope tor for us unless we face ace our problem lemd each woman her own and acknowledge them and study them and master thim them with the good of our men and our children our community and our god in mind civilization will wili suffer a setback from which it wont easily recover it is i no longer a question of an individual woman saying that she con cant t do this and cant do that the demand Is for or actual heroism the heroism that sweeps aside slights and injustices with the mag magnificence nill of a strong character the courage that endures dull days monotonous duties tiring responsibilities bili ties because it is out of that quiet fidelity that a great nation Is ii built the goodness just a sheer Is e er old fash cloned goodness thatis that is p patient allent with a sometimes disappointing husband with exacting child children refi la Is what america so desperately needs now what she needs now as she needed servicemen a few years ago Is an army of wives and mothers each one capable of solving her own problem and willing and eager to solve it and by so much lifting the staggering load of the nations anxieties and burdens if instead of these courageous women she gets the margery curry sort the whining crowd that cant forgive cant live honestly cant stand marital disappointments cant put up tip with the every day difficulties and disappointments ot of life we are in a badway bad way indeed |
