Show kathleen norris says liven up the fhe dead forties cell furm n INN ki m IN 0 74 1 P L 3 f little trips like this may malt well come to be the ha habeas bitas well as the delight of your lives by KATHLEEN NORRIS ma put ut the whole thing R ply writes a woman from kansas ic city my husband is tired of me in every possible way he shows it and I 1 am wearing myself out wondering why I 1 im in just the same as I 1 always was our children and our home are just as pleasant we have no money worries in fact the death of a wealthy aunt a year ago has given us a comfortable feeling that in the future we can do anything in reason for our boys and our girl for months now however paul has been rude to me smiling in a superior way tt if I 1 express an opinion giving an exclamation of 0 impatience if I 1 ask him to hand band me a book or close the door sneering at my friends yawning elaborately if 11 I 1 take him to a picture play or concert and openly expressing before the children who are 12 14 and 17 his contempt for mothers notions over and over again the letter continues my eyes fill with tears and I 1 go about for hours with a hurt feeling in my heart I 1 know there another woman I 1 know paul would be horrified at the idea of a divorce but his superior scornful attitude is hard to bear it if I 1 appeal to him he rises quietly and takes himself and his newspapers to some other room have you any suggestions as to the curing of a mans bad manners I 1 will be 40 next year the prospect of the years ahead is a very terrifying one with my companion a person who obviously is bored and impatient with every phase of my character and my interests paul has not kissed me for months he has made me no more generous allowance because of his legacy he says he wants to leave that intact because we may need it some day I 1 never have been extravagant but of course I 1 would like the feeling that certain luxuries were now in reach once I 1 hinted this and was ungraciously asked what on earth I 1 wanted now we always have been considered a devoted couple can you give me any reason why a man should change so BO completely and like to hurt the person supposedly nearest to him my dear josette I 1 say in answer there really is a reason for this and although it is not a very good one it is potent in many mahy a case beside your own paul has been a good steady man tor for all his 43 years he has been self respecting responsible admired he has worked hard to sucic succeed eed in profession home society he has been priding himself on sons and daughter good wife security reputation now he realizes suddenly that the forties are not like the thirties to in the thirties a couple is still on the young aide side children not out of th the e nursery college days still close in memory dancing and downtown parties still in the picture the forties change that to his consternation paul realizes that by george the next thing Is the fifties he cant believe it hell be a grandfather first thing you know and hell still be tied to the same old J josette witia with the little weaknesses and the tiresome traits he knows so well paul has been rude to ta me ins BORED HUSBAND A man who has lived with his wife and family for nearly 20 years reaches a saturation point at which he h resents the rut into which he jias has fallen consciously or unconsciously ho he harbors ill feeling against his loved ones miss bliss nonis advises that it is a womans comans task to inspire a zest for life within her husband when he reaches the doldrums of the forties she can accomplish this by pervading enthusiasm for travel vacationing adventure her husband will be gr gripped pe by her fever for elci excitement ted and they will experience delights whick which they thought were impossible in the dead forties in pauls case there has been another potent factor too that legacy those thousands to be saved and spent on the kids schooling are they no adventure for him no freedom just the routine ot of office and club and home just getting older the psychopathic PsYchoPath lo discomfort of this time Is recognized quickly enough in women but it Is by no means confined to one sex it is a little premature death it Is a w wind ind from an unknown country blowing coldly across ones dr dream cam that youth quite gone adventure new loves new scenes may be close alican paul really want anyone but you he fool enough to think that any pretty 18 year old who would break up his home and deprive him of his children would be worth bothering about he knows all about that bald spot on the top ol of his head and that extra girth but he desperately wants excitement change and spoiling your reproaching him your tears will get you nowhere but get one or two smart traveling outfits and plan to drive to canada mexico or california next month persuade him that home office children can very well spare you both for six weeks convince him by your own enthusiasm that this matter of sacrificing everything to the childrens future needs Is all nonsense you will find in your companion upon unknown roads and in little wayside inns the joyous young paul you known for some time that you look pretty and feel eel adventurous and want to go off just with him alone will work miracles f tor or his hurt vanity he has been jealous he has been feeling unimportant por tant he has been wondering w hats the use of this extra money little trips like this may well come to be the habit as well as the delight of your lives it Is part of our great american tragedy of divorce that hundreds of lost marriages could be saved if men and women could learn to rediscover when years have w worn orn away the fine edge of their re relationship a tion ship the joy of being alone together again sea serpent story BOSTON A sea serpent reported seen by witnesses off nahant jahant august 16 1819 really may have been such a monster perhaps the last of the species the marine bist historian orlan edward rowe snow believes records show that james prince marshal of massachusetts who viewed the monster through a spyglass estimated it to be about 00 feet long ile he said the serpent traveled like a caterpillar |