Show K kathleen a t h I 1 e N norris 0 r r i s S says a s the roving husband bell syndicate features Fea who what I 1 1 you have to 0 do rhoda is to get gel it il through your head once and for or ill all that yoi ot hold all the cards dont throw down your hand call his bluff by KATHLEEN NORRIS 7 EXACTLY how much E hard conscious effort 1 I are you making to keep your home atmosphere normal in this dreadful time exactly how clearly do you realize that extraordinary goodness and strength and unselfishness are being demanded of every one of us that we are being given a test beyond anything our forbears ever knew we have to keep ourselves sane gane n a world gone insane and preserve for those about us and for or the boys when they come home something of the goodness and hero ism sm and wisdom that has made america what she Is anyone who recognize the s situation and rise to it is failing ailing america just as much as if he ie were a sentry asleep at his post but unfortunately there are a good many men and women who are drifting along in the old lazy way ma making king their concessions to the times only in complaints and protests against war inconveniences here Is the case of a husband and wife whose lives seem untouched by the world conflagration but aut who are obviously suffering from the nervous strain that Is over us an all rhoda Is 37 she has been married 11 years and has three daugh ers 10 9 and 3 years of age the middle iddle child Js is a polio case and will never be well rhodas band Is a dentist 40 years old and formerly a devoted husband and father ather especially close to tanya the he handicapped child A pretty nurse but in the last year rhoda writes me aae lew has changed he has hag grown irritable and silent at home ie is often away the cause is 1 a pretty grass widow of 26 who Is i nurse in his office there seems 0 be no question that lew is in actuated and while he of a divorce rhoda believes that that Is what he would ask if he be but held hed better not get that far says rhodas letter it would ruin ils his practice in this town where my father ather and mother are much be oved loved and he could hardly himself anywhere else tor for he is entirely deaf 1 I do all the work of my house with the older girls help I 1 bathe aalthe teed feed amuse my darling little and manage that my baby las plenty of tresh fresh air washing cooking dusting planning are all jp to me certainly I 1 show the fatigue Q and weariness that I 1 feel it at night I 1 am human I 1 get get tired impatient nervous know it but most ot of the time am the mother the girls adore ind and the cook and housekeeper that other ither women copy and consult mrs norris lew spends most of 0 ils his money on this woman he takes akes her home two miles out of ils his way every night and often takes akes her out to dinner they have een seen dancing they have spent nights lights together at the mountain inn present to her this year was a squirrel qu irrel coat I 1 have never had a ur coat he sent me soap and per ume and the girls toys toy and she picked them out I 1 6 P be absorbed jn your children A CHANCE TO LET DOWN I 1 the emotional stress of war effects everyone many find new strength unsuspected courage when crisis crisi 8 come oth others discover that the social upset gives thern them a chance to do what always s secretly cret longed do but refrained from because of public disapproval the 40 year old dentist discussed in in this issue issue is is a case in in point he has developed a passion sion for his office nurse a pretty divorcee of 26 she is going along with him taking his presents and entertainment his wife rhoda writes that she is is desperate she has thought of suicide his coldness and an d cruelty are driving her crazy suppose he was away then toi for four our days and I 1 think she was with him though his story to me was thai she was sick at her married sis ter s house he seems a different person he hardly seems sane we havee have alwawi loved each other I 1 feel as if I 1 t stand his complacency his silences his coldness and cruelty any longer but what life do I 1 make for myself tired feeling ac 2 years older than I 1 am with three children to raise on all alimony mony ive I 1 ve thought of suicide ive thought oj 0 everything im desperate tell me what to do what you have to do rhoda is ii to get it through your head once and tor for all that you hold all the cards dont throw down your hand cau call his bluff take the attitude thal tha dolly doily is being something ot of a fool a generous tool fool of bf course bul nevertheless a fool to take up with a married man partially deaf with three children wake her up in the night every week asking it if lew is there some patient wants him make yourself over with a new frock and a changed hairdo hair do appear happy be happily busy and absorbed with your girls almost rueful aher lew decides to come home for or din ner A pretty happy wife in pretty lounging pajamas laughing over a supper of milk toast and cookies with her children around her is a mighty attractive thing on a cold night resolutely refuse a divorce following these tactics you 11 find yourself happy again and happiness Is the one thing that draws a man back As he tires of dollys dallys charms charma they always do yours will begin to gain on him then treat the whole thing as a sickness a weakness which it Is and go tato lito a new re lation ship of confidence and affect tion with a changed man to men these adventures on the side are not nearly as important as to their wives he can have no respect tor for the complaisant dolly and what he does teel feel for her is not a lasting thing as everyone knows concede him this period of ir in responsibility in a crazy world and dont don t let it seriously jeopardize your lasting happiness and security |