Show kathleen norris says pamela wants to be popular bell syndicate service belu 0 i ED u az R S 40 theres one girl and one man taho are breaking my heart by KATHLEEN NORRIS AMELA wants to be popular P PAMELA she works downtown in a lawyers office she maintains a bachelor girl gir establishment with another girl she is 26 pretty enough smart above the average but not popular my manner shy because i take good care it shant be writes pamela but way deep down in im shy I 1 know men like my looks but a lot of them are shy too I 1 guess except the married ones the only attention ive ever had is from married men and that mean much the younger men in id our office and I 1 could fall in love with at least three of them will stop at my desk to dictate a letter ask me if ive se enthis picture or that recommend a good murder story it if they see a book on my desk and then pause by some other girls girl a desk for three or four words that drive me perfectly mad with bewilderment and I 1 suppose jealousy je aloisy I 1 mean they will say to some really less attractive woman fun at that crazy restaurant last night it or crazy about the new hairdo or how about tuesday honey too tense among men why dont they do that to me but of course I 1 know why I 1 know im stiff awkward stupid with men I 1 clear my throat and get red and an d say things I 1 dont mean to them my clothes are right but just a little TOO right clean neat dowdy correct when I 1 ought to shut up I 1 giggle and chatter and when I 1 ought to break a silence I 1 can do nothing but swallow and stammer but girls like me and I 1 know I 1 amuse them and as I 1 say married men always seem to understand me and I 1 can talk to them now what I 1 cant understand the letter goes on is the sort of 9 girl irl who attracts men and always has lots of attention they seem to make no effort brainless little tools fools who cant spell are trotting off for or lunch with the nicest men in the office murmuring and blushing and having a glorious time resents being overlooked theres one I 1 mean to get this tar far but I 1 may as well admit it theres one girt girl and one man who are breaking my heart the man Is my immediate boss but in a corporation po ration as enormous as this that mean hes so very high but hes sweet and big and clean and smart and I 1 like him terribly the girl Is named lola ashes an uneducated noisy little thing with badly dyed hair in a wild mop but whatever she is or he likes her and she can actually play fast and loose with the dates he tries to make with her maybe she can go tomorrow night maybe she cant it if he marries her she will wreck his life leave him in a lew few years and take his child with her and it seems as if I 1 bear it wh why y WILL men tall fail for girls me like that and never see other girls who really have background and education and code and the love of home and family behind them well an old old problem pamela and until men solve it reno will continue to be flooded by pretty empty headed little wives who think nothing of breaking vows and ruining childrens lives girls uneasiness affects men alen your predicament Is not a new one either you say your manner I 1 is not shy but shy or not it is awkward and uneasy and that infects infect et men instantly with something of the same discomfort perhaps you think too much of the impression you are making on them and too little of the innate qualities that your manner represents charm I 1 Is 1 an elusive thing to describe because C use it means very real qualities it means heart soul mind character training self discipline with enough of these things any woman Is equipped to face ace life and its changes confidently she KNOWS she will find friends win win the man she wants make a success of herself cultivate charm but in your case I 1 worry about these casual and temporary conquests ignore them for the time being and devote yourself to the cultivation 0 of f charm get interested genuinely in life and life will get interested in you charm means personal freshness pleasantness of manner alert understanding der and sympathy for everyone about you it means that when you are sitting at your desk idle for a moment between tasks you are half smiling it means that you keep up with your reading on current topics and keep away from tactless controversy and loud voiced expression of opinion if you happen to be made of crusader stuff that is of course something else again crusaders rarely have charm to attract the man you like to you make no visible effort but whenever you get a chance to speak to him have something to say that will immediately draw his attention from the tact fact that he and that rather standoffish miss brown are actually talking together years ago a certain shy little member of my family used to start off to dances after asking me seriously tell me three things to say to my boy think of three things to say to yours if it is only you caught in that downpour yesterday or Is this new time schedule going to teen rdean you have to take an earlier train from pelham or did you hear the nice news of the smith baby it will answer the purpose and if after a monosyllable monosyllabic reply you have to begin again plunge in courageously my sister and I 1 were in brooklyn when that storm started my mother lives over there you know in the library neighborhood we live in town but mother expects us every saturday and so on easily and carelessly just as if you were talking to a woman until he picks up the conversation again act friendly unembarrassed it if the shy woman who feels eels stiff and tongue tied with men could only remember that talking to a newly met man is just like talking to a new woman acquaintance her whole manner and attitude would change girls like pamela never dread meeting other women they know that their approach will be friendly Iri endly and unembarrassed try that same friendly lack of embarrassment upon the man you want to attract pamela try it on all men and at the same time deepen your own character into kindness interest tinder understanding der ot of those about you and by the infallible magic of charm you will not only get your mai man bh but ut everything else you want in t the e world |