Show kathleen norris says marital mix up ben WIM iria tures Q 0 I 1 ell 1 I met harvey instantly greas rush ol of surprise pleasure and affection went over me ond and in the old way I 1 was in his embrace in a second by KATHLEEN NORRIS HEN I 1 divorced my WHEN A husband four years V ago writes marylee johnson from sacramento we were both more or less undisciplined frivolous persons we had been married 11 years everything seemed suddenly to go dull duff and humdrum there really seemed no reason for our staying together there was no quarrel we simply decided one morning at breakfast that we would be happler happier apart and margot and I 1 left for reno two days later for a few months the change and freedom were an immense relief elief r to me I 1 lived with a woman friend who had a daughter maggots Mar gots age and took a job when my friends husband came home unexpectedly from overseas that arrangement naturally ended after some months of 0 uncomfortable shifting about I 1 married again aga in somewhat hesitantly I 1 felt much less sure of myself at 34 than at 21 and although phil is everything that is kind generous intelligent industrious yet I 1 know that I 1 have never been truly in love with him he was SO 60 when we were m married a captain in thi the regular service he has bar now been overseas tor for on one year and sometimes like many other wartime brides I 1 dare say I 1 feel as if I 1 hardly knew him well here is my problem one that has cost me many days and nights of bitter worrying tour months ago walking downtown with margot who Is now 12 1 I met harvey instantly a great rush of surprise pleasure and affection went over me and in the old way I 1 was in his embrace in a second he seemed as happy as 1 I and mar got perfectly remembered her adored father as a matter of fact she has visited for some weeks with him m and sal 4 his mother every year and we had bad a happy reunion harvey now also in the service as a lieutenant commander took us to lunch one of the pleasant est hours of my life it wit was 8 foolishness you can guess the rest we were always friends we never disliked each other our parting was all foolishness is and a mistake we three belong together and we know it now harvey will be stationed here for some time he be adores his bis daughter he be makes himself cheerfully at home in my apartment and yesterday for the first time he suggested that I 1 get a divorce and that he and I 1 be remarried iphi philis 52 he has always been a thy shy and lonesome mars man he be has no family that a woman like myself could love him always seemed seamed to um him a miracle his letters are devotion itself you are the on one thing in ufa lit that I 1 care for he h says over and over you are the only person who belongs to me the only one I 1 can call mine it if he were not in the picture if I 1 could be all harveys again I 1 4 akl what shau I 1 do think I 1 would never ask another favor of godl god I 1 but how can I 1 desert phil who stood by me when I 1 was lonely and troubled what shall I 1 doa do what would be the best thing to do the answer marylee is of course that you never should have divorced your husband in the first place divorce ought to be so serious so terrible an affair especially when there is a child to consider that it could not be considered except in a grave crisis adequate reasons for divorce should shou 1 necessarily n dat be so fundamental that t h there could never be any question of returning to married life on the old terms marylee after 11 years decided on a divorce simply because there seem any good reason to stay married she has reached one ol 01 those points when married life drags on monotonously mo nothing exciting happens a woman has a good husband a lovely child food and clothes books and friends in the most pio prosperous s and secure c in the world but that enough she wants thrills changes travel relief from monotony so she breaks up her home tries office work gets bored marries a good quiet mar man who Is longing for companionship companion shir and domesticity meets her first husband again and falls under the old spell and then naively asks advice as to what is the right course to pursue there Is no advice that will help heir anyone so unstable in character II 11 11 II years of marriage were not no enough to establish marylee in a strong decent useful manner of living nothing will she will probably pro baLly divorce phil and remarry harve but that wont solve the problem when the war is over harvey will present the same dull old problem and marylee Mary less will be no nearer a realization of the true secret of happy living than she la Is today |