Show kathleen norris says the same old lottery bell syndicate features feature e an DOUG F 1 judd is home for lunch every say day and I 1 have no help by KATHLEEN NORRIS HOEVER said I 1 marriage wit WHOEVER is a lottery said it a long time ago for I 1 cant remember the time when I 1 familiar with the phrase naturally it mean anything to children nor even to youth for young lovers feel gerfe perfectly atly confident of each other no lottery about it they know but later on after a few years of matrimony wise women recognize the truth of the old saying for every wife gets good and gets bad out of her bargain but the good the good she expected and the faults she presently discovers even in the most perfect husband arent in the least the faults about which she so lovingly and jokingly teased tease d him when they were only engaged A woman named tanist quinn writes me about it like a million other american girls tarda married a serviceman last year she had known him only seven weeks when she became his wife and at that time think that he had any faults at all hes a flier and while all servicemen possess a romantic attraction for or women fliers have a special glamour tania admits that she has been unusually popular that a great many of the boys wanted to marry her and she says she made special stipulations before she would consent to say yes to judd she must have her own separate room he was never to be home lor for lunch they to have a baby for or five years at the end of the first year they were to have a frank talk each telling the other the 10 qualities or habits he or she most disliked in his mate and if they were not able to come to a fair agreement then they were to separate flier filer agreed to terms judd rather weakly it seems to me but perhaps he was too madly infatuated to be reasonable agreed to these absurd terms he and tania were married and he flew away now he be Is home again to stay because cause of a foot injury ingui y he can cant t fly any more but has lieen een placed as an instructor at ai important post of course I 1 was derfl perfectly aly delighted to have him safe at rome says banias letter but everything came out differently from what I 1 expected and I 1 want to know it if I 1 the right to claim the old promises from judd space is terribly short here we have one room and a bath and tiny kitchen promise one judd is home for lunch ever day and I 1 have no help promise two I 1 am elpe expecting eting a baby which makes me s simply imply furl furious 0 us although thou ghr have no doubt I 1 will love it when it comes promise three and when in june I 1 proposed that we have that long talk and see how we really felt about things judd only laughed he the slightest notion that he Is failing me to so terribly and has broken every promise that he ever made me I 1 think that if he was sympathetic I 1 would not care so much luch but I 1 am away from home borne lonely not a very good housekeeper and feeling miserably sick all the time and I 1 just go about resenting things and crying not my idea of marriage at allt well this letter with its unconscious revelation of prolonged adolescence les cence would be funny if it were not so pathetic life has taken hold of tanis end and made her a woman to in spite pite of herself and she ne like so abrupt a treatment but one cant quite blame judd after his scalding scald lne experiences in the war his HUMANS constantly CHANGE human beings are constantly changing either for or better or worse worm rules of behavior cannot be laid down by one human for another to follow that is the mistake made by the young wife in the situation discussed t today 0 day by kathleen norris this young lady laid down dotan certain regulations that her suitor was to follow when tv hen they were married ile he followed them and she is discouraged cou or raged ged marriage is not a cold blooded proposition to be pa planned a nned and worked out according to a formula this young lady is finding this out no no husband or wife can be expected to remain the same year in in and out they change bid hidden qualities are developed some good and some bad months of hourly danger his heroism and his injury for not taking too seriously bardas high schoolgirl conception of what true mating between a man and a woman Is men changed by marriage take it as a law you girls girl who are jumping so gaily and cor confidently into marriage his faults and it his Is virtues his tastes and his bis dislikes will all be a complete surprise to you whether youve known him a month or ten years the frequenter of night clubs and dance halls wants to settle down with the newspaper and the radio the waster of money who bought orchids and candy and champagne tor for you before you were married turns out to be a miser at heart the flatterer turns silent and unresponsive the big burly outdoors hero Is afraid of getting his feet wet but on the other hand unexpected generosities helpfulness wisdom knowledge patience have a way of appearing too the man who seemed blunt and unappreciative during courtship days amazes y you u with roses on an anniversary the man who slighted your family develops when he has joined it a feeling of real affection for it the man who want or like children becomes the most infatuated father of them all good comes as surprisingly as bad and anyway its living its life so when fate offers it to you take your lottery ticket like the rest of us |