Show B build bild on oh faith and trust writers opinion Is that vows to keep faith and to be honest are arc all that may reasonably reasonably Reason abl y be exchanged at matrimonial altar dy by HELEN in the NOW new york world telegram mrs virginia cogswell announce announces 9 that tant she Is disillusioned about men and marriage why she be she says she bho wants to terminate her seventh marriage to take back your heart seven times Is a procedure monotonous enough to bore anyone while mrs Cog swells altitude Is not difficult to u understand the contention remains that it sporting of her to tell girls girl dont marry I 1 not every one tries seven times without finding a satisfactory husband by a little premarital pre marital consideration a man and woman can often determine whether the chemical allure which drew them together has a chance for survival certainly no man and woman though their marriage score be seven times seven must continue the nuptial relationship when love has vanished and expected ba back dictates of sound bound judgment good taste and health suggest that such people at least live apart first of till all two enamored human beings should determine whether their affection for each other Is real or or synthetic it Is best to fashion wedding garments only when love Is all wool a yard wide guaranteed not to shrink fade or run compatibility mental physical and spirl spiritual lu la an important marital prerequisite people who have been reared with a common background who have a community of tastes and interests who have studied the same game textbooks and found the same answers to their problems have a much better chance of success than those who represent different worlds adoration la a nice part of love but when there Is nothing but a tender emotion it Is surprising how quickly small differences can toughen it two people who believe that they can follow their own interests apart from the affection bestowed bestow cd on each other soon find that the moments of worship in each others presence presence bine lot their savor anybody can worship a honey colored idol on a shelf or admire a colored glasa winlow window in a cathedral but when you ou marry you sou must observe that the object of your devotion cant sit forever on a pedestal probably the greatest mistake that people make Is to take tile the marriage ceremony cei emony literally two people promise to love cherish and protect ench other until death parts p arts them the first vow w should be cut no one can promise to love loe anyone else forever we can promise to keep faith faath to be honest and honorable to chereih our affection to guard it and nurture it buts but it if it passes with the spring or summer all we can do la Is surrender with ft ath grace we cannot blink bank on finality in ili any human relationship the bible which says sas that two people shall become one flesh makes no mention of one heart or one soul after till all marriage cant succeed if love Is held field with bonds it has to be a voluntary offering we cant restrain the wind the tide the rain the spring or love loe love loe most of till all it comes and goes at the givers bidding but love loe is not as variable a quality as we may suppose from this fre freedom edoin of disposal when two peoples hearts click and those two are understanding and compatible and respect each eacle others freedom ns as inda llinus llin ls the chanced are that love will last A marriage built on a cornerstone of possessiveness possess heness may topple in ili the first high wind but one erected on falth faith and trust will stand although the waters rise the winds blow and the storms come the last few years sears of economic sacrifice and struggle have taught youth south and youths parents too that it Is considerably more important for two people to be able to laugh together weep together and plan together than to have frosted rolls in the cupboard and several cars in ili the garage marriage has to be woven from spiritual stun stuff rather than material or it will fall down seven times out of leveni seven 1 love ie in brief cant be put on a mercenary standard it requires respect more than adulation if having come to marriage prepared mrs cogswell found unhappiness in seven seen instances fate has played lier her a distinctly raw deal we dont blame her at all for warning other women against the glorified state but it Is nice to know that most people nae have had better luckl |