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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks j By DOROTHY DIX, th World's Highest Paid Woman Writer NUMBER TWO Among my acquaintance is a young1 1 woman who morrled a wtdOWOf wltn I whom she is very much in love The j man la a model husband, tender, kind. I devoted, and he provides hi- v. iff with la hen ut i ft) I home, and all the other I comfort of life. Nevertheless, the woman is bitter-1 ' ly unhappy, and spends much of her! time in tenrx hecain. nhr Imagines I thai her husband loved her prede- sors better Hinn h does her. Imagine rny Buffering, ane walla When he speaks o her, as he often j doea in my presence. ne will avail j tell me of places they went tOfrether, I and of things they saw and did. Bv i er,- word is like a knlff. blade In nr. ' heart, and 1 think It will kill me." Queer( isn't It, how far some poo-J I pie Will go to hunt (ir trouble.' This! ! poor woman is letting her morbid fear I of h ghost rob her of all the happ!-1 ness that a lucky fate has baatOWOd 1 'ipon her, and h hasn't enoush gumption to raaJhM thst the wife' 'hose only rivsl is a dead one ought 1 o be down on her kneev thankmg Heaven for Its mercy to her. It Is the woman whose husband' fancies are straying off after living pb tures who h c got something t worry' about, nnd grow gl'eell-eyed , over I i Certainly a woman who marriea widower, and tbn torrnentf her Inn-- band with htr jealouay of his first Wife, cloos not piny th-- gante. She , knew what she was doing. She knew i that her huoband had ic ed another I woman, had married her. hud tried to he a good husband to her. and had : mourned her death when he loot I he! What poor ideals of honor, and I loyalty, and a man'a duty to hio wife.; la woman must have If she expects' I her husband to blot out even thoj memory bf this other woman who' j gave herself to him. and did her 1 1 1 - l.termoet to make hlro happy, vs'ouid I the woman who wantfl her husbatid to t'orgel his fh'Mt wife as OmplOtel) i as if she had never lived, like to think that if she, also should die. in a few-months few-months time ho would cense to re-1 member her. or their Hie together'.' I know not. Even the woman who Is) moat anxious for to- husband to be, disloyal to I he memory of his first j M Ife wants to behove- that he would be fai hfui to her memory, and thwij II h- died nobody could ever quite! ak her place In his heart. Thl:. 1e lousy of the first wife by) the second wife la very common bo- causu every woman yearns to bo a nmii s first love This is an LmpOO-l alblilty to all exrept the cradle snucch-rs. snucch-rs. if .i womafl innrrlcn a man who Is out of his teens, ehe may be very Mire that there have been other wo- j men before her. for a man's h : ' - like a hotel kept on the HSuropoan' plan that entertains many transient I guests before his wife takes a per-1 manent lease upon it. rlbe difference between marrying a bachelor, and a n I dower is that the 1 bachelor wipes off his elate before he Is married, and his wife has no means of knowing who preceded h-i In his affections, whereas the wlf- I of the widower has got a line on him. Bha knows the name of the woman he loved, ami therefore has a tangible subject on whom to center her JeM- ' ousy. This being the r:-.9e. It 1. Of COUraO, unpardonable stupldltv in a men to Continual! singing his wife's prals-s 1 to his second Wife BhC would rather, be flayed With scorpions than ha e him tell her In.-, blesaed he bits been In getting two suh good wivea, or1 tha: aha makes us good pie his first Wife used to make, or even that the roaeon thai he fall in love with her was bees. use she reminded him col much of his sainted Maria. He thinks, poor boob, that he is, ah owing her whal R faithful aottl ha ins. and paying her a compliment, j and it never occurs to him that she h s to sit on her hands to keep from i throwinK the crockery nt him. and chew her tongue half off to prevent her from screaming at him that there J Isn't a woman alive, or dead, from Lucresla Borgia down, that she' wouldn't rather be like than his f,rst j v. i:.- Yet the women who so bitterly hute I these poor dead women should in nil Justice entertain kindly feeiinga tD. I ward them, for they owe them a never I ending debt of gratitude. They wore ' the matrimonial plonkers who vent before, and blazed an easy road for tha aecond wives' feet. Widowers are proverbially Ihe preferred risk in wed-; lock. They have be. n enlightened disciplined, broadened, humbled, chue-toned, chue-toned, house broken, bv their first j wives, and the second wife profits by the labor of fcfo 1 On the flr-d wife falls the burden not only of the struggle to help h i husband get on his feet financiall) but the fight of teaching him that even a wife has some rights a hus-band hus-band hOS tO respect Therefore, prac-tlcally prac-tlcally ever?- second wife has more money to spend, ami iv better treated than ihe tirst wife waa and tor this also No. 2 has to thank S'o. 1. A to which wife a man loves beit, th-it depends . i. :'ne individual cave, but nothing would do more to cast a i cmant!' halo Wer his first wife than for hlB second wife to be forever w repine rep-ine tears of Jealousy over the departed lady. Let the second wife comfort hoi-S'li hoi-S'li with this fact that it does not matter whom a husband loosed In tho post. It's the w omen he loves at present pres-ent that counts It's better to po Jhe lost love than the first. |