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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks ' By DOROTHY DIX, the World's Highest Paid Woman Writer Isn't life the contrary thing? Al-way Al-way stuffing us on the bread and 'meat we have no appetite for, and iholdlng back the sugar plum for jWhlch our mouths are watering! rlere'i a pathetic example of it, A young man writes mo that he is in in' e With S girl who doesn't loo him. and thai a Klrl he doesn't love H in ilovo with lilm. and he wants to know-how know-how to make the girl who doesn't love him, fall in love with him, and the I girl w ho does love him. fall out of love with him. Alas, poor youth, I am afraid tha there ls no reliable reclpo of the fol-'low-these-dlrectlons-and-you - cannot Ifull kind for winning a woman's (heart, as there ls for making sponge cake. A girl falls In love with a man Ifor a million different reasons, or for jno rea.-on at all. und why sho piefeis one man to another sho generally 'doesn't know herself. Sometimes a girl falls In love with a I man because he is a carpet knight Whose sl'qi matches hers In the dance, and who Is full of gallantries, and delicate attentions. Again, a brute who hands her out cave-man stuff sweeps her off of her feet. She mav if ill in love with a man because of his Isalntllness, and spiritual outlook, as I witness the havoo preachers ,make lamong tho fair sex, but sho ls equally J!ablS to become enamoured of a prof-illgate prof-illgate with a lurid past, and consider I that she has a sacred mission to re-froni re-froni him and lead him up to tho higher life. I And there you are, and nobody can tall you what is the winning way with a woman. For It depends, not alone on the woman, but on the particular mood she happens to be in. Ones upon a time I interviewed i bigamist on this ltal subject. He had wooed and won 27 different women, so was entitled to qualify as an expert ex-pert guide to the feminine heart, and he said. "Aw, any woman will fall for you if you will just talk to her q,bout herself " j I am Inclined to think that th' whole of the low and the prophets on how to make a woman fall In love with yon Is contained in these words of wisdom, and that practically any woman will fall In lo'v c with any man if he will keep the spotlight turned on her without Wearying, or growing tired. There are many reasons why this should be true. One Is that we just naturally admire those who admire us. For a man to show a woman that ho has singled lirr out of the whole herd of women as the most beautiful, the most charming," and fascinating) and desirable of her seTj proves to her, beyohd all questioning, that he ls a man of great discernment ,of rare taste, and sound judgment, all of which are qualities that must appeal to any woman. Secondly, ihe man who talks to a woman continually about herself. Immediately Im-mediately becomes to her the most fascinating conversationalist In the world Sho could listen to him forever, for-ever, and then beg for a few more words on tho same subject. The things that concern ourselves are the most Important and Interesting things on earth to us, and we never weary of hearing them discussed. The most learned scholar who ever Hvod, the wittiest man. the adventurer Who has had tho most halr-ratslng experience nnd tolls of them in the most dramatic manner, cannot en-i en-i haln a woman's attention as can the ricin who talks to, her for hours upon hours about how beautifully the hair i prows on the nape of her neck, and tells her how ravishing she looked in her new evening gown at the ball last night. Boredom Ls the great enemy of love, both before and after marriage When a woman begins to yawn, and look at jtho clock, a man had as well grab his cr.ndy box and go home, but no wom-jan'a wom-jan'a Interest ever flags while she Is! I the thrilling topic of discussion, and i that is why the man who talks to a 'woman about herself Is pretty sure to win out. She marries him in order or-der to get a spell binder for a life companion. Of course, there are other aids that I 'a man may bring tn his assault upon u. woman's heart Discreet gifts that Show thai It" bus remembered SOmo .whim or wish of hers, dolicato atten tlons that prove his desire to make j her happy, an Indulgent, and yet an' I independent attitude towards her; for', every woman tries to henpeck a man : ,and despises or respects him accord-' ,ing as he yields or resists Above all. making a girl feel that he 1v g dug to, J marry her, whether fdie wants him or I not, all these break down tho wall of a girl's resistance, and make her run up the white flag of surrender. I But most potent of u 11 ls juat making mak-ing her feel that she is i:, the one and only woman in the world. To bo all and all to some man is a mania, an obsession with the entire female sex. and any woman will fall In love with jany man who can convince h"r that she is the whole shooting match to jhlm. As for making r girl fall out of love w'lth a man, thut Is a still easier prop-'osUlon. prop-'osUlon. A little criticism will do the jtrlck. As a woman's love is born of admiration, so it ls slain by fault finding. Women will endure neglect, they .will forgive unfaithfulness, they will I bear with every fault and weakness of a man, and love him still, but let him criticise tho way they dress, and do their hair, or tell thcin that they arc getting too fat, or too thin, or cor-.rect cor-.rect their grammar and pronunciation, pronuncia-tion, and Cupid turns up his toes, and jit's all over but the obsequies. The man who knocks a woman, kills her lOVS with a bludgeon. It Is a brutal waj to do it, but effective After all, there is only one thlnK easier than winning a woman s love, and that is losing it. |