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Show I Dorothy Dix Talks I HOW TO SELECT A WIFE I By DOROTHY J I X . the World's Highest Paid Woman Writer S A young man aked me if I can tell him how to go about choosing a trite. The first bit of advice that I should give a m. in Contemplating matrimony is to sit down and have a quiet session v. Ith himself, and try to find out just what qualities he desires in iho woman v. ho is to be his life companion Let him classifly his own preferences, and then go out and seek a maiden who fills the bill. Certainty it Is rank idiocy for a man to marry without having taken the trouble to find out the sort of a wife be warns whether he desires his wife to be a society woman, or a home i keeper, whether a saver or a spender.' whether be prefers to sing hymns with S pious wife or to go to the races wiih sporty one. Wotld Full of Girls. Now the world is full of charming girls, any one cf whom would make some man a good, suitable wife, ami '.he trick is, for each man to find his own partner, instead of getting the other fellows and having to go through the divorce court in order to exchange. Success in marriage is merely ,i question of gen ing into your own class, and staying there. The Business Woman. Suppose, for instance, a man a sensible, practical man who likes a ' well regulated life, run on schedule time. Let him go wooing among the i business women. The business woman is level headed and reasonable, and her husband is guaranteed again hysterics, hys-terics, and unfounded jealous reproaches. re-proaches. She has learned to look at I I f- as it is, and not to demand thej impossible. She knows that a man whose mind Is cumbered v.iih weighty affairs, and' whose hands are full of a big deal, should not waste his energies on fool-' ish household errands. Therefore, she will not ask her husband to stop on ; jkr hii way downtown to match a pie of elephant's breath chiffon, nor will he exppct him to walk the baby at I nighl, when it has the colic. Good Choice For Ambitious Man. The business woman is also a good Choice for the ambitious man v. h wants to get on in his business and have an A-l rating m Bradstreet, fori having earned money herself, she knowe Its value and that every dollar is baptised in blood. She will not be hoodwinked b servants, or healed bv tradesmen, and having felt th fret and in-.- of business that wears the strongest nerves to fiddlestnngs, she v ill be more tolerant of a man's impatience, im-patience, and easier to get along with than the purely domestic woman who thinks that going down to the office every day is nothing but a picnic. But the business woman Is no wife for the conceited man because be Ifl accustomed to forming her own opinions opin-ions and acting on her own Judgment, nd ny man is a little tin God lo her Nor is she the wife for the domestic tyrant for she has celebrated her .ourih of July Declaration oi Independence Inde-pendence '.nd lets no nun tell her vhen lo get off, or where she gets on. Neither will she snll the stingy man for she has experienced the joys of' !n-r own pocket book and will insist on fair divide of the family income. The Fussy Man, The man who is fussy about bis eaf ing and who likes (o dress the salad a1 the table and has his own Chafing dish recipes should marry a domestic girl who likes lo eook They could ndver really bore each other for hun cer is r pas,icn that springs eternal in the human brea.-t. and they will en-1 joy an Idyllic existence Inventing new dishes, surrounded by a perpetual aro-1 ma of connubial b)is: and good cook- i inu- The man who has no sporting blood in his veins, and who wishes to play safe, can make no belter choice than , a widow. When a man marries a young girl he is undertaking to guess 1 a conundrum because she is still an unknown proposition. No one can t Ii what she will be. In ten years ihe lit- ! tie figure he admires so much may have degenerated into scrawninese or the adorable plumpness may have be-1 come fat. But if he marries a widow he knows precisely what he is get-1 ting. She has arrived W hat she Is going to be in mind, and character, j dliu iJ3i t iJ ii DUO mi r.iu; i . ,iuu r. , he takes no risk. She is the one ; safe bet in ma'rimony. The Adoring Slovc The man who desires an adoring slae for a wife should choose a spinster spin-ster for a wife. She may have refused re-fused any number of good chances in her youth, but as "-!) si es age eoni-lng eoni-lng on, and a lonely life staring her in the face, and realizes that her last J call to the dininu car has sounded. She I is filled with undying grat tude to the man who has sense enough still to rec-1 ognize her charms and marry her. She Is the true husband spoiler, and j for the man with " ways," who likes to be coddled and fursed over; for the lazy man who wants to be waited upon hand and foot; for the egotist who as pires to playing Sir Oracle in his home and who asks nothing better of life than a wife, who will burn incense at his feet, there is no choice equal to that of a woman of what is diplomatically diplomati-cally called a 'certain age.' With all of these tips staring him in the face and everj woman wears a tag around her neck BO that he who !iuns may read lo what class intellectually intellec-tually and sympathetica!!) she belongs be-longs it looks as if no man should have a difficulty in picking out a wife with whom lite would be a grand 957i i I song unmarred by discord. But he does, and the way ihe world plays j at matrimonial cross purposes would be funny, if it were not pathetic. Congenial Tastes Secret cf Bliss Congeniality of laste is ihe secret of domestic bliss, for one must have j something on which to found an en during frii ndship after the f-rc of passion pas-sion has burned Itself out, yet, few .men ever consider this until they wake up in find themselves out of love, and i into a life sent' nee of companionship With an incompatible temper. ' ver was there a more untenable theory than the one about the attraction attrac-tion of opposites. The people who jar U8 are those who will agree with US, not someone who will contradict us Bomeone who rides the same hobby i ha i we do, and who will enjo cantering can-tering along at our sides. Hence when a man picks oul a gir! for a wife who has the same religion and polities that he has, and tLC same taste in cooking and musical comedy he ma;, approach the altar without a tremor of fear, for he has picked the right one lor himself. She's in his class. |