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Show & . ; ' jgl 1 I 2?H E'GRO WN-UP BOL 1 I a FF f 1 'V muchs"mnath' have most i ll J I "'Ives with the weaknesses of I ft I 1 I lhelr ,uls,baml8? J low much un- 1 PI dcrstnndlng of the boy in a man's g V nature? 1 ' A while ago a well known woman writ- IJ er uttered herself on this subject to the IB ffect that most mcn always remain boys Ijf' j at heart. She Instanced this as one "of rK the reasons for a failure of comprehenr w ;V eion between husbands and wives, de- t i clarlnsr that whatever their respective. r ages, the wlfo Is always older, always 3 i rooro grown up, than the husband, who I 1 retnins Indefinitely the nature of the boy. 9 ! I am Inclined to think thatslie may be i E f right, and that perhaps a failure to grasp I J this factsj at tho bottom of the troubles I A that too frequently arlso between mar- I ried people. f V Tho threadbare saying that " love la I I A of man's life a. thing apart; 'tis woman's III whole existence," applies to marriage as I I well as to love, and the woman's way of 5 I viewing matrimony often differs radi-I radi-I j i cally from a man's Idea of it. To hor It I I 'j means settling down; a complete change t ,' from the sort of life she- has led before i ' To the man, in many circumstances, it ! 1 v incans a change of dwelling places and it an addition of responsibility In tho way rr of Increased expenses, ibut it does not Dj f- Imply a- soveranco from his former mode IE -j of living. Ho still meets his men asso- II I elates in business; still pursues the kind If f of work he did before; still holds his in- j terest In sports. His wife and home are Is L adjuncts chiefly. II ' L With the woman It is. another matter. IB ' I. . Taken from the life of her girlhood, IE I ; which may cither have been free of care II ' or which possibly Included self-support, it ,f with no other Incumbrances, she is- made jli the head of a heme, the manager of her ij husband's finances, tho housekeeper. I i maid of all work, and, In time, mother I and nurse, Tho girl friends with whom I sho was Intimate hjo her occasionally, t, but their occupations and amusements have remained unchanged, while hers 1 have altered essentially. Her very out- 1 look on life is other than what it was in the days of her singlehood. No wonder I sho grows up quickly and attains ma- iurltj in a short period. I. 'I am not quarreling with this state of I affairs merely referring to it as a fact. K The only point concerning it with which If I have any fault to find is the wife's in- ftj ability, in many cases, to recognize that m) her husband, cither b nature or condl- ij lions', holds a different standard from her fl own, and a standard which sho should ac- l cept If she wishes to make him happy i and, incidentally, herself A man is not I'l a woman In trousers, and the difference I between the sexes Is something far doep- II er than physical or even mental variance. fa Txok at the matter of his games and Jf relaxations, for instance. I havo known h a number of women who awed me by their t knowlcdgo of the nice points of baseball, ft but I have yet to meet a married woman of any age who felt the keen Interest In 5 Fports of any kind which would lead her r to stand to watch the records as men of all ; cars will gather to scan the baseball reports They do It not only when contests con-tests of International Importance are ? holding the attention of the country but also when games of comparatively little l value are under way. ; i, Consider also the question of outdoor L recreations of another nature The man ' who has loved fishing as a boy continues I to cherish it as a man and will take hlm- fsclf off as eagerly with his rod and line at i(i as he did at 15. Only a few months ago I was talking with a rather distinguished physician ; who was pressing his W mark close. " Where du you go on your vacation, doctor? " I asked. His face kindled at once. "I have Just heard of a stream up In Canada where they tell me there Is some really romarkable fishing." he said. " A i ' friend of mine tried It last year and told t mo it was wonderful in this day to find a place Where there was such fine sport. I shall make a bee line for It the very day my holiday begins, and I am looking forward for-ward to It with the keenest enjoyment." ' This interested me especially, because he was the third man In a week who had -j made an answer somcthng like this to my qucr as to how he would spend his vacation One was an overworked busi- 'l neBS man; the other was a tired lawyer j k and all three had repeated In effect If not ' In exact words the phrase of Simon Pc- '( lor. "1 go a-tlshlng." I instance these '. . three, but they aro onlj the most re- 5HE BECOMES THE HEAD OFA HOME .THE HOU5EKEEPER- ,rvAID OF ALL WORK- AND IN TiME MOTHER AND NUR5ET cent representatives of a class Clergymen Clergy-men aro usually ardent fishermen, und the devotees of the sport come from every profession and line of work. "What woman would return with such zest to any amusement of her childhood If she had a holiday choice offered her? She has become a woman and putawny childish things, but the man seldom roaches this stage, St Paul to the contrary con-trary notwithstanding. When lie does he lias lost one or the best things out of life, one of the things which help tu keep him young and give him nn Interest Inter-est beyond his work. So I tcpc.it that it is an unfortunate condition of affairs when a womun falls to appreciate the otcinal boy lurking In hrr middle aged or elderly husband and feels that he must take account only of serious things Instead of that she should cultivate the child In him to the best of her ability and never condemn or crush it How often does she live up to her duty in thlb respect N"ot only In a lack of sympathy with his desire to go fishing or boating or canoeing or to follow baseball scores Is the wife at fault -She has a tendency to Insist that he shall take his pleasures pleas-ures In the samo way that she docs, a proclivity to fall to comprehend that his life and hers, his occupations and hers are so different that what maybe recreation recre-ation to her is more or less hard labor to him. Look a moment at his work and at hero. Ho Is In an office all day, occupied occu-pied with tho problem of monoy getting, subjected to ail corts of rough expediences expedi-ences and hard knoekB, from which he comca homo tired1 and longing for something some-thing of totally different naturo to draw his mind from tho problem? that havo engrossed it during working hours. Let us stop Just hero to say that not for a moment do I deslro to bollttlo the trials of the woman or to maito out that her life has beon a bed of rosea. I grant willingly that sho lino had troubles of her own; that tho small annoyances of domestic affairs havo fillod the forefront of her day; that countless little worries have harassed har-assed her and told upon her. In a way the tribulations of her experience havo been Just as Insistent as his but they havo been dlfforentl Now and then sho may havo been able to snatch a few minutes' rest. Sho has had constant change of occupation; she has gono from ono room to the other, from ono duty to tho other; thero has been variety in her pursuits. While Ihey have wearied her and worn upon her they have not sapped her vitality as has tho work In which her husband has be.cn engaged drained his. Sho lo quito willing will-ing to talk over -he ovonts of tho day with him It docs her good, In a way, to rccapltulato them and review them from every point of discussion and glvo a full account of them. He, on tho other hand, unles3 he Is an exception to tho general rule, wishes to leavo his ofTtco behind him and all tho cares appertaining thereto. He wants to forget It. Once In a while thor may be somo problem he wouldi llko to submit to hl3 wlfo, but usually he longs to let a curtain of oblivion drop between him and the day's work, to far as this is possible. Plenty of his worries he can't get away from, but ho would tell you, with somo Impatience, that It does no good to "talk them over and that he would llko to think of something more agreeable for a while. Just as a chongo from "what he has been doing all day and will have to do again all day tomorrow. The wife may bo so dead tired as sometimes some-times happens that she craves nothing so much as a quiet evening's rest and an early bed. But If she wishes to go out, she Is quito as likely as not to look with pleasure at tho suggestion of somo eoclal function for which sho will put on her pretty clothes. How many men who have i 11 111; 5 iliiilll passed their first youth -want this? Don't ; jnil' they deslro either tho'eame sort of quiot l If ovoning sho does, with tho addition of a h newspaper and a pipe, or the chance- to MlU go to somo amusing "show" which will 'ml I supply a complete change of thoughts? ' ,f$iff They may not have lees vanity than ISBI women, but they Jo not yearn to "climb , l'M into" their dross clothes or to attend ' 'M some formal affair. Thoy chooee inetead jlllnP a musical comedy or an amusing play or 1 'fM somo ontertainfng moving pictures. Not 'lUiSI for them Is the uplift dxamal MlSil "I am so dlsajjpo'.nted," a wlfo be- lil moaned herself to mo loet winter. "I iflfi' had made out tho loveliest plan for our WWII sooson's amusements-. There were to be MM several Shakspearean plays given and liHBli thrco or four of Wagner's operas, and I Wil thought It -would bo ao nice if wccould I 'will got season tickets In advance, so as to be -JkoIiI auro of good eeats. And do you know 'M jij that when I suggested Lfcroy husband Just AW W howled? He said he bod troubles enough flliS!' all day long without being carried off to W Jij highbrow ahowa In the evening- that lf lB fi anything with Willie Collier or George Mflllll M. 'Cohan camo to town I could count on 'm f j him. but not for thoso really good plays m '3 and operas. I can't understand his way jt ,j of looking at things. I get tired, too, but J Aw Ijl for all that I don't want to lose a chance jl Iff i to Improve myself." JfS l There Is just the difference. The small S boy In t'ho man arises rampant and -IIm h doesn't wiffli to bo Improved. The hard ' ',iV fr work of the day has sufficed him for ef- : IF f fort, and when he leaves his office or his iij store or his' other place of buslnessand iljjf la told he lsto bo amased Itlsamueement , !'ii (,1 he oeeka and not sugar-coatcd amcllora- ' jS til Hon of hl3 mentarlty! , m jl Tho woman who makes a ihappy hu3- j ! j i band and who Jb herself a happy wife f ' ' Is the one who follows tho Uvoand let live fr W principle and permits him to be enter- pjfe,' j talncd in tho way that suits him best I If I 1 not in the way she thinks ought to suit j j ' him. George Eliot It was, I believe, who '1 i uttered tho profound remark thatadif- I illij) Ij ferenco of taste in Jests Is a great strain ky upon the affections. So Is a difference of J, 111 tastes In recreations. Too .much is asked i ft (jl In domandlng that a wife shall herself 'vj be thrilled by fishing or baseball or mu- inIiI I slcal comedy because of tho appeal one M" HI or all of these mako to her husband, but I ijjjl II she may at least acknowledge that he has j Mi ml a rJght to take his pleasures as he ' ' Sjlji chooses them and not altogether upon her f tJ J selection. ( J 1n :"?8I |