Show II G e Gc O p b O 4 F a t I 4 0 t 0 n 1 c CrA Li L J II I m Y IE I eo 4 I P V A AThe I Y f 1 r ri i 1 1 i J t i 4 of r y t c I Ir Iy I i n l Q r a r The Cafe and Education Edu of d Children 1 the t r a at 1 1 I Object in a Womans t S i i e ices Constant i j Sacrifice but bat Insures final pinal ini Happiness I n By tie E STI r The T t Greatest a e Operatic 5 G t ifs I 1 Contralto Cont C of the Day bey I THERE is to my mind no subject so o vital 1111 about which one may write as IS that thaI on which I have hc been asked to express my lilY opinion Children I 1 What would the world be without them By y f them the time perpetuity of the race is as assured and d on their upbringing the progress progress ress of the world depends Although the superlative importance of brining bringing brill up I children properly has been realized for forages forages forages I ages there arc are no rules to 10 guide the young parent the only principles to be lie followed arc are individual ones and the mistakes of one generation arc are often passed on to lo the next through h an unreasoning un unreasoning unreasoning reasoning prejudice possessed by some leople against anything that is is not old ey Chill ca tI Iz l lOf 1 Of course every child born into the world I has har its own on individuality its o n nt ni t wits i ts lS of of character ch These Thc e have hac to be alt with as occasion demands and I Y should be the subject of deep deco study pt P the th part of the parent But is is it not strange that while there have hac always been numerous nUm rous instances of this sort of thing the average parent is inclined to lo tov v regard a special mental twist as nothing I more nor less Ics than Ihan a childish whim f bothersome and annoying to the parent but not worthy of serious serious attention In fact do not the majority major ly of parents nowadays absolutely fail to realize the great responsibility ty that is theirs and andare andare are arc they not therefore to be b held ac JE countable for many man actions of ot of their oil off offspring spring in in after life I have perhaps passed rather suddenly to the point of what I have to say but butt buti i t l it ft is is a point that has always been upper uppermost uppermost L most in my mind min when thinking of O f chil chilk ch children l k dren One who will seriously serious consider i the possibilities of the proper training F of children and the decrease in crime crime and f r wretchedness such training would mean r will agree with me that there is IS no other topic so worthy orthy of earnest attention I 1 The next generation will be bc exactly ex That hat the children of today todar arc uc Should we not strive str c with a ith all our might to make it a better generation than this thus one should we not seek seck all the aid and ani anif f counsel that we can obtain on this most important subject Rules Runes Possible The statement that there are no rules to guide parents needs explanation There can CIn never be a set of rules by which children may ma be brought up p bc he bet t r 1 cause cause there will always be individuality to reckon with both in the parent and andin andin andin in the child Of recent years there has ha been heen a tendency to advancement that has much hutch that is good and much that thatis is bad in it ItI It I t is absurd to think that every ever child should walk alk at a certain age that a fail failure failure ure tire to tall at the age of eighteen months is a sign of lacking mentality Never timeless there are many mothers who nho noticing that their sons do not progress as rapidly as their neighbors nei endeavor r r to force progress The Time result is is none nonet t the less disastrous because not realized r by those who arc are responsible r Aside from front such matters as these I there are arc many things that may be Ix sub subject subject k t to regulation I have hae a 3 larger family than the time majority of women in int America and I have always found that C e r t in ill a great many man things the same treat i ment brings about the same ame r results no not fc i t matter how different the children may maybe maybe F be individually Before my m first child f entered the world I realized that I was wast t accepting accept ns a great responsibility and for forr r that throat reason no sacrifice has seemed too toot t great for me meTho meTho J Tho Ilio Ordeal Ord Ll of or Motherhood I was at least to an extent prepared for the ordeal through h which f I was to I pass It is a long long ordeal lasting from before birth hirth lI nh until the years ears cars of f discretion dis discretion have c been heen reached by lIr the lie child and there arc no periods of immunity l Unceasing watchfulness is is the keynote of good motherhood hood Selfishness we vve arc are told frequently is the dominating influence of our tine time Motherhood admits of nothing of the time kind Always the child should be e the first consideration both on the part of the time mother and of the father There will be discouragements ement without number num number ber obstacles innumerable Always there will be opposing influences to overcome but no battle can be he won save owe through fighting and thoc those who would reap victory in um in having haing brought into the world orld a man or a woman of whom hom they the may be justly justl proud must struggle unceasingly The Time peace of old 01 1 age ge will be he all the sweeter tho Force During all my III fight against adversity which lasted until my In coming coning to lo Amer America America ica ka in in 1898 S only nl eleven years ago I had bath to provide for a large huge family of chil children children dren My point of view therefore is not that of the carefree woman whose material wants arc amply provided for Many times has the task of feeding clothing and educating my m boys bos and girls g seemed my m power and frequently fre frequently freQuently was a continuation con of the struggle despaired of I knew that I lowed owed to my m children the very ery best that thal I could give gie them in in every cery way wa I 1 dreaded to contemplate that they the should have hae to 10 go into the great great world handicapped in any my manner While 11 hale perhaps ps I did not realize it at atthe atthe atthe the time I know now that it was the time in me that hat t spurred me on onto onto onto to work and plan tp strive onward and upward through all those cars cir is is to my m mind round born with the child Unfortunately there arc are cases in ii which it dies from irom lack of nourishment nourish nourishment nourishment ment or is is superseded by simple affection affection tion through being choked by hy the time weeds of selfishness distrust and So many man mothers who ho have hae loved their babies come only to care for their boys and girls And so many man parents who have hae exer exercised exercised exercised all the unselfishness their thc r natures were capable of in in behalf of their boys OOs and girls have hae grown careless in their attention to the welfare of the time youths and maidens of their families Con Contrary Contrary to general opinion though it may maybe a abe be I hold that there is is no dangerous age ase of children From the time a 1 baby is is born until the thc young man or woman gains a full knowledge of the world and the ability to think for himself or her herself herself herself self and to rightly all ages arc dangerous Mr W Own Experience But to return to my In Be Bc Before Before fore I came to America all my had been under my m constant personal care I 1 believed my m duty duly lay fay that way and I have hae never neer had reason to change my m opinion Naturally my burden was wasa a considerable one for I was a busy woman and my family was large lar c Still StillI I did think then and I r do think now that the natural duties of a mother can cannot cannot cannot not be delegated to another without disastrous dis disastrous disastrous results It was this belief that caused me to nurse my m own children always even when playing plains an operatic engagement Many times my m baby hab has been in my m waiting for me while I have been responding to an m encore When I first set fool foot on oit American soil I decided to establish sh a a home here ultimately ul mat ly and educate my m children on this side of the Atlantic American life institutions and md characteristics im impressed impre im impressed pressed pre sell me greatly and I became con vinced that this country had before it the greatest future fu future future ture I should have taken this step had hadI I been childless vj How Flow much greater the reason when I Ico could co ul d offer its boundless possibilities possibilities to my boys I l ll 4 l d Kother Hother tho Childs Bet Het Friend In III bringing brin up my children I have always endeavored to inculcate into their minds at an early age the feeling tit tl t they the could depend upon me for everything and amid consider me mite in in every way their best bet and truest friend I kept Ic t them with me virtually all the tine time As I have hac said I alone took care of the eight ci ht Hof of them unassisted isled was with them in health and aud in sickness in joy jpy and in mn in sorrow sm row I never permitted my m profession to interfere with my m duties toward them and for duties I always h ays found time Had my m financial circumstances been otherwise I should not have hac done dif differently differently Poverty did not permit me mc meto meto to engage eng a 1 nurse even when a child was sick and in man many instances I stayed up all night to be at the bedside of my beloved one and still went on with my m work as a usual And the public pub public public lic never neer knew knot As A I 1 look at my family famil now I naturally feel happy and satisfied W If Ii I am a good mother as people choose to call me mite it it is is because I main maintain maintain tain lain that women of the stage should be he married that marriage rounds out their art ut that it is the goal for which every woman should strive and that mother mOlher motherhood motherhood hood is is the crowning glory of woman womanhood womanhood womanhood hood The satisfaction of a work well done one is is a more than sufficient reward Children an Incentive During my upward struggle the faces of my m children were the great incentive to hard work and consequently I r may say that I owe to them all that thal I am to today toa today day a I wanted to rise wanted to 10 be great wanted the first rank among sing singers singers in iners ers the better to provide for them than and that they the might have hae what I thought necessary for them themI I am ant sure that had I had no children I should not have accomplished what I Idid Idid did accomplish and anti so 50 in in molding their future I made my nay m own and I am con convinced convinced vinced that every woman can can do o like hike wise no matter what her calling callin no matter mailer what her station in life The molding nS oJ oJa of ofa a character is the thc prime object of ex existence existence and there is nothing that shapes the character so thoroughly thor thoroughly and along a l I o 0 n Ii 1 g such stich good goo lines fines as a 1 worthy motherhood I Tho Importance of or Diet In bringing up a child t I lay la particular particular particular ular stress upon health proper food and md proper exercise Adherence to a plain diet of simple foods such as milk a good Ilea deal of fruit meat once a 1 day good soup once a day and plenty of vegetables temperance in everything together to ether with cleanliness good water light clothing cl th and fresh air I consider the best prescription for good health To medicines m of another character I have hac a strong str n aversion I r t N t I I i if irEi r 4 f rEi y o oa e It r j j a 0 h 1 lh r U o f a 7 fJ rt rt It o r MADAME SCHUMANN HEINK 1 r Aside from ministration to material wants the training of a a young life is is a serious matter demanding constant at at attention tendon lention in a child is fre frequently based purely upon and too severe punishment will breed I fear and distrust laying the foundation I for an insurmountable barrier between I parent arid and offspring I always dc de demanded solute absolute al obedience ence and at nl all I times good goo conduct and an I sue suc succeeded in making my children realize that hat their own welfare as IS well as a their theiron own on comfort depended upon obeying me mite and behaving properly Once a child is brought to realize fall into ways 1 I this thi it will proper made it a rule never to punish my children severely but for wrongdoing I 1 deprived them of sonic some pleasure This subjected them to no indignity as thrashings thrash thrashings ings sometimes do with sensitive chil children children children dren and the lesson is better learned Ilind I find ind indI I r required the truth at t all times and in in all circumstances and amI I did tot not punish a child that admitted its iti it transgressions Children I have found arc are very cry cr sensible and even at an In early age arc are arcOlen open Olen conviction to if one will only take the time and pains to explain But alas alasso so many man mothers arc too teo Co busy bus I h Irrational Punishments nb Grave very grave mistakes mi takes arc re made b by parents in modes of punishment for trivial misdoings A harsh word roughly spoken a hand laid none too gently on a little shoulder a push or a slap all arc are calculated to impress a achild achild achild child with its own on insignificance insi to create in the little brain the time thought that there is an inequality between he tween child and parent that may never neer be overcome When a child thinks think thus who can say what deep thoughts thou enter a t little lillie ones mind at It times limes it commences to draw within itself to live lic its own on life apart from its parents With this comes and after afterward afterward afterward ward each tacit reprimand no matter mailer how ho thoroughly deserved is regarded as but another engagement in iii the perpetual impossible fight light between en forces hopelessly hope hopelessly lessly and unevenly matched Thus little by little lillIe the boy or the time girl grows away from fro III those who should I be his or her chief companions and con confidants confidants I c v I I I I Th The Childs Drain Little beginnings 1 Imaginary as is it may seem scent it is ms is not impossible that some great crimes have hae had their true origin in unjust chastisement meted out to a child Small things affect us older folk how much more must they affect afT eel a growing frowin sensitive brain open to new thoughts and new ideas every ever instant of o its existence and put putting putting putting ting on each act observed a construction on naturally narrow and based in in many man cases purely purel on sentiment and seldom all senti sentimental sentimental sentimental on reason rea on For children arc are mental and their reasoning if reason r they do has lias for its objective point an nn ideal I These little brains of our children which treasure a 0 kind word so long and retain as carefully the memory of a I wrong some day they the will have hae to think out questions large with wilh import and on which the welfare of not one person alone but of many litany hundreds may depend HOW rIat then is the responsibility that rests with mothers and fathers who arc are charged with the training ol of these brains How necessary that we w should try to sec see two to t o points of view at atthe atthe atthe i the same time and always so that no nc vagrant agrant train of thought may a be started starlet in in the little head I seldom sel om had to resort resort to corpora corporal punishment I am very err glad to say a though thought I admit that there arc are occasions when it is necessary ry My II childr n |