Show r I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box SHALL THE YOUTHFUL WIDOWER WHO CANNOT LOVE AGAIN MARRY THE GIRL WHO LOVES HIM WHAT CAN SHE SHEDO SHEDO SHEDO DO WITH A STINGY HUSBAND WILL THE GIFT OF A FUR COAT FROM EMPLOYER BE MISCONSTRUED DEAR DEAn MISS I DIX un am a young manof mau of 24 a wIdower I am very settled and detest the dilly flapper with her her lipsticks giggles and parties There Is 1 I girl who lovea who loves me very dearly who Is quiet dignified thrifty a good housekeeper and cando cando can cando do all the things that flappers cannot do She Joves j tho home and the fireside music flowers and children chil- chil chile e dren and those are the things that I most desire I 1 admire her and enjoy her company very much but when my wife died my heart died too and I feel that I cannot love this girl as she loves me n Another objection to this girl Irl Is that she Is very 4 4 J short I am nearly twelve Inches taller than she Is Do you think if it I married her ler we would be happy X X X X Answer j Certainly the girls girl's girl height eight should be no nobar nobar bar to your union unless your ideal woman Is a daughter of the gods divinely tall Most men prefer the pocket Venus type of Dl woman and If you will notice when a aman aman aman man Is particularly particular fond of the woman to whom he Is married he always speaks her as My little wife no matter even If she is of Amazonian proportions As for your feeling that you OU have buried your our heart In the grave of your our first wife and that you will never be able to care for tor any woman again that Is the pessimism of youth The very young al- al always al always ways take views of o everything and believe e that every ery mis mis- misfortune misfortune fortune Is js fatal and that no sun will ever er rise on their night of sorrow But we who are old and have seen much of life who have outlived sorrows and outgrown disappointments who have said so often This is the end of all happiness when it was wal only the beginning beginning of better things we know that the human heart Is the most resilient of all created things If at 44 you had lost your wife you might say that your heart was broken and that there would be no more love for you In the world but at 24 a lost love lovo is Just a broken dream Your lour love for your wife wile however beautiful and complete it ft wa was was I Just a boys boy's love It t was nothing to the passion that you will willbe willbo be able to feel leel some day for tor a woman who meets all al the needs of or your OUr mature manhood and for this reason itIs a dangerous thing for lor you to marry a girl who come up to your O l Ideal but does docs not fire your our fanc fancy Ot or course marrying a girl who ho adores you OU has Its lIs advantages because It enables you OU to assure the grand pasha attitude de In your home which Is always alwa's gratifying to a mans man's vanity The wife who loves Ions her husband better belter than he loves her is always his slave e She Is s always as breaking her neck trying to please him His august word Is isher isher her law and she Is as humbly grat grateful ful for a little kindness as a starving ing ig dog Is for lor a bone But In love It is more moro blessed to give than to receive There Is nothing more nauseous than rom lips we do donot donot donot not care for and the affection we do not crave bores us to ex- ex extinction ex extinction Especially is this true with men and so I think it is isa isa isa a dangerous experiment nt for a youth of 24 to conclude that he has lost all power of loving and to marry a woman on the I platonic basis He will want something more of life than just justa a makeshift wife who is a good cook and saves his money DOROTHY DIX e An MISS My DIX DIX My problem is what to do with wilh a stingy husband I am married to a man who is rich for tor the community in which we e live but I do all al of ot my own housework and sewing to save the price of a servant senant and pinch every p penny My husband refuses to tomako tomake tomako make mako me an allowance and buys for tor me himself only the tho plainest nee necessities in the way of or clothes In all the years that I have ha been mar mar- maried married ried fed I I have never Dever had a dollar dolar that I could do as I pleased I have never had a pretty dress or hat or any of oC the little luxuries that women women omen craVe crate crave I 1 I-do I do not try to have any women friends or to go anywhere because be- be because be because cause I am so humiliated by not Dot having tho the proper clothes and being aule to pay my part of ot the expenses What can you Oll do with wilh that kind of ot a man MRS S Answer I Not much I am afraid because a man who loves love money better than he does his hil hi wife will always sacrifice her toI's to his Is cupidity The only woman I ever knew who dealt successfully with wilh a tight tight- tightwad tightwad wad husband was was one who after vainly trying to get an allowance front from him we went t out and got herself a Job as a cloak model Rather than have the general public know how mean and fisted close he was he gave his wife enough money to o dress upon I often think that the best way for the average woman to todeal todeal todeal deal with this question is il to go on a strike Any woman who does deem the cooking and cleaning and baby tendIng and buying and sick nursing and the million other odd Jobs that It 1 I requires to run a home comfortably earns the wages ol or at least three or four servants in addition to her board If her husband refuses to recognize the value of her servIces servIces servIces Ices and to give her a penny of her own to do with as shoo she pleases she sho is foolish not to turn put out the tho gas under her cook cookst st stave ve throw down her broom and walk out and refuse to do another lick of work until she can get a satisfactory adjust adjustment ment of the money question It wouldn't take long to bring bringa I a man to terms if he had to wrestle with the problem of cook cook- cooking cooking ing dinner for a lot of howling hungry children when he got home from his work But Dut of all the mean things that a 1 m man n can do to a woman the very meanest and most contemptible 13 for him to lure her into marrying mar marrying him in the belief that he be Is going to be generous gener us to her and that she he Is 15 going to be his partner and Ih fifty re in his prosperity and aud for tor hi to take all that she cat cah can give Ive him and then to begrudge her the very ery food lood she eats and the very clothes on her back It is the lowest down confidence game in the world Nor Is there anything meaner than the man taking all the work of a womans woman's hands work so great and anil incessant that no money cau really pay for lor it and then refusing t to give her even oven a dollar as her just deserts Money she has earned herself too loo The only way to deal with tie the tightfisted tight husband is to avoid getting him and I urge every girl who is thinking about marriage to have a i definite financial financial agreement before she marries as to what percentS percentage c cof of the family Income is to be behers behers behers hers DOROTHY DIX DEAn DOROTHY DIX Is DIX Is it right for a working girl to accept a afur afur fur coat as a present from her employer A certain young oung lady tells me her opinion of me will bo be ery very much changed it if I take it but I can see no harm in it and am sure no ties would be attached to it JERRY Answer Your friend Is right A deep dark suspicion would at at- at attach tach tack to such a gift and nobody would believe that such a present was Innocently given or Innocently received This Is a hard-boiled hard world my dear in which there Is nothing for nothing and I think that If you accept the fur coat from your employer you will have to pay a pricy pric that will bankrupt you And the first payment will be bc the respect of all who know you There Is nothing so terrible as tho the fact tact that most of o the girls who go wrong do not take their first step on tho the d downward downward path through Ilove love or passion Nor are hey betrayed Into It by villains I They fall through love off of of f finery through the desIre for silks and velvets and furs and jewels They literally sell their souls for a yard of chiffon I entreat you not to make this sorry bargain DOROTHY DIX Copyright b by Public L Ledger Company |