Show Do Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Lette r Box I WHICH COMES FIRST AFTER MARRIAGE MARRIAGE ARRIAGE WIFE OR MOTHER HOW SHOULD THE HUSBANDS HUSBAND'S EARNINGS BE DE DIVIDED A SURE CURE FOR JEALOUSY EAR MISS SS Of fIX DIX Ot course a sons gons dut duty I is to his r DEAR D but docs doos the mere name mothel obligate hIm hlin to her of her r disposition or consideration for tor him Do Does s It mean that he lie should accept e eer er thing thine she says nays and docs does even esen though she causes hi his life which would 1 be a 1 splendid success to go on the rocks Should ho he resent re resent sent his wife and her family famil just because they do not kowtow to his hh mother and obey bet hei every esery wish FAIR rAm AND ANt SQUARE SQUAm v U 18 Answer After a man is married his hla greatest duty IS not to his mother but to his wife and on in incases cases where the mother Is of a tyrannical and overbearing disposition he Is If Just as muche much e obligated to protect his bIG wife from her as he a 4 would be to protect her from any stranger y who ill III treated her i not every mother Is unselfish i a enough to prefer her childrens children's happiness abo above abose e her hr DL DIX own There There are also mischief making mothers and Jealous mothers who to see their eons Fons prefer other women omen to themselves and ibo nho ho deliberately set es esto to break up their sons homes likewise there al ale e bossy mothers who must rule or ruin every esry e ery one connected with Ith them and who isho ho make theIr In law miserable bv bs their interference In all alt their at af fairs And there are silly mothers who make trouble between Ih their lr sons and th their lr wives Ives by continually pointing out to their sons their 1 Is es faults and mistakes Certainly a man does hIs hia wife a great wrong when he lets leb his mother make her miserable or tyrannize over her and he shows that he lacks strength and courage when he permits his I mother to prejudice him against his wife But Dut on the other hand it Is 13 to be borne In mind that most brIdes have haTe a perpetual chip on their shoulders and that they resent es e cry suggestion and word of advice from theli thelt mothers In law Likewise mot most brides are so jealous ot or their husbands husband's mothers that they gladly separate them from their mothers it J th they y could No man is us ever put in on as cruel a position as the one who IS torn between the two women he loves most in all the world and who must take sides with one or the other Happy he whose womankind do not fight over him as dogs over a bone DOROTHY DIX S S S 0 S SD SEAR EAR MISS Just DIX DIX Just what nhat hat division dh Islon should married people make of 9 DEAR D the husband husbands s a earnings For two years vears ears I have been In love Jove with a young oung lady who isho has many line fine quail qualities lies and I would not hesitate to propose marriage to her If ItI I I could get her to change bet hei mind on two ho lory sery Important One is that she Insists on holding the after marriage and aed the other is that she is not willing nilling IllIng to gh give gise e up the responsible business posItion she now holds although I have base considerable means and am n a successful business man m self amply able ablo to provide for a family I think this girl Is unreasonable What do ou think A READER 0 t Answer I 1 think you and the girl are very wise to settle these ques questions questions before instead of quarreling over them after marriage You like virtually all aU other men want ant a domestic sUc wife one who ho will make you a home All AIl fair and just and reasonable The girl girlis girlIs Is not domestic She Sho wants a career and she would rather pull off oft a good trade than bake a blue ribbon cake She has a perfect right to follow tollo her 0 own onn n Inclination but she should sta stay single No woman can be a successful wife and a successful busi busI- busIness busi- busi business business ness woman at the same time She Sha must give the beet best of her herself herself self eif either to her Job or to her husband and the other one will suffer No Man nan wants to come at night to a tired nervous office drudge No employer wants to pay for the servIces servIces Ices of a woman whose real Interest is In her pots and pans and who Is la giving one lobe of her brain to her work and the remainder of the time to wondering how the the tireless cooker Is getting along Ot or course sometimes It Is necessary for a woman noman oman to work ork both In- In Inside in sido In-sido side and outside of o th too the home but this Is always unfortunate Before Defore marrIage a girl has bas the right of ot choice holce between domesticity and a II ca career reer and she sho should make it definitely and finally for tor her own sake and that ot of the man she Bhe marries i As to the division of the husbands husband's earnings I should say that the wife should be given an allowance for the household expenses and a separate one for her own personal use These should be as liberal as u the husband can afford But the only case in which a 1 man should turn over his entire earnings to hs his wife is when he Is such a spendthrift or so impractical that he cannot be trusted to handle money DOROTHY DIXS DIX S S S S S SD SEAR DEAR D EAR r EAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am a young man and am to be ba married Inthe inthe In J the spring to the sweetest girl In the world orld I am making a n good salary ande and we ne could have a comfortable home but here Is my say problem I am jealous I have to work ork several nights a week seek eek and I go crazy thInking of ot her going to parties without me rae although I know eho sho lio loses Os me and Is true to me I fear that this jealousy will ivill wreck recI our home borne life lUe it we ne e marr marry Is there any an I C can cure myself of this fault R ST Yes Jealousy can be cured by using a 1 little will power and common sense It If you have haio any Intelligence whatever sou ou know whether the girl has good principles whether hether she Is loyal loval 10 al and honest or not If It she ii h hone Isone one of the flighty sort who nho Is mad for or the Hie admiration of or men If it she Is weak neak eak and easily cd It If she sho Is sensual natured If It she Is la lyIng and deceptive then she Bhe is not to be trusted Dut But by the same token sheI she I Is not worth north to be loved nor fit for tor vou ou to marry I f On the Ibe othel othet h hind nd If it vou ou knothe know knob the gIrl eirl to be all that is fine an and honorable and trustworthy why shy should you Insult her by our sus I willIn vicious She will be just as true to ou in 3 sour our absence as she will vill In 3 our presence hasto hato Just keep in Y YOW M mind this one fact that a woman who has ha Inthe to be watched is la not worth watching Also reflect on thIS thie In the end you are bound to trust your wife because no system of espionage is perfect Somewhere or other othor it Is la bound to break d down wn and any woman who wants to can outwit her hue hus- hut husband band So why not have faith In her to begin with save yourself the torment of Jealous doubt doubts and fears Try a little Coue on yourself and say that every day In every way I have perfect faith In the woman I I love DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1925 b bv Public Ledger Company |