Show MIRROR family can be of your too alose MIN D by lawrence gould I 1 W may blay brothers and sisters be too close closet answer yes once they have grown up on the whole the motives which make adult sons and daughters unwilling to leave home bior or unable to feel as close to outsiders as to one another must be recognized as backward looking such behavior represents an effort ato to preserve the security and hap iciness of childhood at the cost ot of jm issing the more adult satisfaction bof ot the ties a person makes tor for himself to feel it Is only your relatives that you can depend on is to lack lenough enough seu self confidence to believe ithac that anyone will love you tor for yourself or it it is not his duty to do so Is losing your gloves neurotic answer if it gets to be a habit it is a neurotic symptom though inot not necessarily a serious one for ethere is a purpose behind everything you do or leave undone and only a purpose that is more or less neurotic will work to your disadvantage the person who leaves a trail of gloves rubbers and hand kerchiefs behind him may have a childish resentment at being encumbered cumb ered or what he ancon throws away may represent a sort of sacrifice intended to avert iu ill fortune like the wine the greeks and romans poured out on the ground at their feasts AX may pain save a babas life answer yes says dr W hotter hoffer in the international journal of psychoanalysis cho analysis A baby Is kept from taking out his aggressive impulses impulse on himself by the fact that it hurts him to do so and this may save his life psychiatrists say for instance that a child in a temper tantrum rarely will bang his head on the floor hard bard enough to do serious damage because this would be too painful but as we grow up we learn subtler ways of hurting ourselves needless overwork or worry tor for example so that the pain barrier is undermined and if we are neurotic enough we may ruin our health or even coan commit at unconscious suicide |