Show Kathleen Norris Says Fl I Your Marriage Is W Worth Saving Ben Bell Syndicate Features u 1 5 r- r Iw f ETS N abo r ie rest i r rL Sep L r s b r a. a 1 mop w ne neurn led haj urn b CIS i y Feat t 0 49 a aV V. V he pall L f emper t l my J. J more His is argen led of d Dorothy is a completely changed creature and I dont don't want leant to take on a stranger n r f m my wife She and my mother are arc like two tuo girls together c eo IBY By KATHLEEN NORRIS Mile tr has es T MAY take you six months f if it may take you a year toof to toof of re re- I 1 Jj rebuild when that man of id nd i 1 ours urs comes home but marl mark mar- mar l in k is worth six months or age ge s it it elve months of doubt and hears hea ain True marriage is a mirand mire mirI mir- mir I e what h le and to cheat yourself out ideas d' d wonderful years of corns corn's companionship com corn s IS both and planning just P cause thin things s are difficult now h hod S ol d an expensive mistake trial te Im completely bewildered d u tes William Ma Martin tin in letter t cast c a er flat at t illustrates this point Ive I ve re r e essic b r jeen en two Y yea years ears s overseas When I s eft her my wife was a sweet shy st 1 WhO had no friends in my home own and cried bitterly when she gt erne e a to join my mother for my ab- ab hipp ence ceo ce Just before I left Dorothy aL ad the sad experience of losing a ae de i e I a rt born t born w-born baby so that my memory eating f her is of an exiled scared tear- tear er I bashful little thing w wS who assured S ships Pi e a j that she could not hold her head the m ip p at all aU until I came back ret reI tJ j Completely Changed it of t f Wen ell I got back six weeks ago crop co nd if y you U ask me Id I'd just aS soon subs turn to France Dorothy is com com- a fal d changed creature and I Id Irude rude rc e ii d dont don't on nt wan want to ta take e on a stranger for fory he P y wife e She e an and my mv m mother ther are rent i like c two girls together laughing all allu r c lt the he u time me e. e They play cribbage every I i e gabble at every meal and m ot off of to work still chattering They work ork time part-time in the same foundry KS liS S Dorothy has picked up a lot of o 0 net nee 4 friends ends most of them daughters of owes ames y mothers mother's old crowd she wants o OH op e to go on week-end week parties where wherein in In she he is a great favorite and she wants to have them in for impromptu im im- 5 prom p suppers and games She's 0 perfectly amiable about everything r rah nib anxious to make me happy says e e shell she'll give up work the minute Im I'm Ime e established hopes well we'll have a lot lote lotof e C pt 5 of children someday thiS someday y this doesn't uld sound so bad I wonder if Im I'm getLing get- get ting Ling over to you what I mean be Wi u t I mean that a man likes to be bereal greil real a important in his own house he likes he bear to have the say If I suggest this e Dorothy is all aU attention what would t 1 i en eit I like to do Well VeIl the truth i is s I dont don't want to do anything except sit around I dont don't even want m my Y mother or wife near me part of nag 1 the time tune I always wanted to take a forestry course but after two years ears of college I quit and got a aJob aso V Job so I could mar marry ry Then the war new came e. e I have no money now and of I Ill I'll 11 be darned if I want my women als i to support me Shall I just g get et out IP o of f their lives go off somewhere aai and work it out it-out out myself irI No by no means do that Bill dye Your marriage i is s worth saving with such a woman Instead of running 1 t away ay as so many of our People do today work it out yourself yourself but but at home rr I think you'd make those two a women supremely happy if you anvil an an- vil flounced that they had to support you y u until you finished y your our forestry g study Your government will help you and all it will amount to will foe be that they take care of themselves them them- r i selves selves for another year or two of Then to go work with a vengeance vens ven ven- s and see how fast you can i beat bea beathe eat the regular term time i The moment youre you're hard at work t the he whole world will change for a k r Jr 4 Finish your forest forestry course i HOLD ON A LITTLE WHILE Another returning soldier has found his wife changed When he left she was teas timid and shy and depressed by the death of their first child Now she is gay and happy interested in parties and entertainment and quite a asocial asocial asocial social favorite She lives with his mother and works in the same foundry on a time part-time shift The two women get along very well and are always laughing and gabbing While Dorothy is affectionate and anxious to please she is s no longer dependent and clinging William feels somehow that she is a stranger n not net t the woman he thought he lie married He wonders wonders wonders won won- ders i if f he should try to make a ago ago go go o 0 of f t this ns marriage may maybe b e he thinks he laid had better get out o of f it for the benefit o of f both himself himself himself him him- self and Dorothy He lie left college in order to marry her and now he wonders i if f it were the sensible sensible ble thing to do The separation and the experiences o of f war ivar change both husband husband husband hus hus- band and wife replies Miss Nor Nor- ris One will mature more than the other but when there is no f fundamental disagreement time will harmonize the differences and the original happiness can be regained you Work is the supreme panacea There isn't going to be a household in America in the next year or two that doesn't face this or some more serious serious problem The problem of our physically maimed and wounded isn't going to be the worst of it it'll be the mental the nerve the psychopathic cases that put a heavy burden on us all Lift Lilt your burden off the great total by accepting the unexpected gaiety and independence ence of this w wife e of yours add to toI her capability her completeness a anew anew anew I new capability and completeness nf nt f un ur own o VoL J yo vu Normal Pattern Will Vill Return Once youre you're well started and the first baby likewise the whole pattern pattern pattern pat pat- tern will fall faIl into normal lines and this restless dissatisfied resentful phase of home-coming home will seem only a dream You have the materials materials materials mate mate- rials for an unusually happy marriage marriage marriage mar mar- here dont don't throw them away Postwar marital problems present present present pre pre- sent every variation of trouble to which human hearts are heir The returning husband who grows beyond beyond beyond be be- yond his wife and finds her unexpectedly unexpectedly unexpectedly dull less pretty less dear than he remembered her The wife who hardly knows the boy with whom she danced so merrily into wedlock and who doesn't like him much on later inspection The returning returning returning re re- re- re turning soldier jealous of his baby The waiting wife wile all ready with plans for divorce The criticisms of her because she lived with his mother or because she The discontent because she worked or else she The wounded problems problems problems lems and the problems of the maimed and the blind Make a fresh start Bill an and solve yours yourself |