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Show Kathleenjjonjsjglgi The Much Younger Husband Bell Syndlcate.-WNU Features. "What can 1 do to hold this yo.mg husband of mine, vhom despUe all h unkindnesses, I love so passionately? By KATHLEEN NORMS THE problem of Marigold, Mari-gold, aged 39, is that of a clever, successful woman wom-an who has married a man 12 years her junior. They have been man and wife for less than two years, and already Larry shows signs of restlessness. restless-ness. Marigold is frantic with helplessness and despair, all the more acute because she keeps everything bottled up inside her, and manages to keep a serene exterior before the watching eyes of the world. "When we were married," writes Marigold, "I was a different woman. wom-an. I am healthy, an out-of-door sort of type, and at 37 I looked at least 10 years less than my age. Some years ago my parents left me a small farm; I was just home after glorious college years when they were killed in an accident, and idly, in the first summer of loneli ness ana griei, i setureu a icw small-girl boarders. From - this grew my school, a school for so-called so-called difficult and problem cases. I have been unbelievably successful, success-ful, not only in a financial sense, but in the fact that I love this work, it is easy and natural to me, and repays me richly in friendships with children and parents. A Very Handsome Man. "Larry came to me three years ago as physical culture director. I knew he was less experienced and less useful than he had represented himself; I built him up. We studied his work together, he improved, he became a different human being. He is magnificently made and very handsome, and I fell in love with him long before he did with me if he ever did. We were married, and immediately Larry began his attentions atten-tions to other women. He opened adult classes in gym work, long country hikes that took place during dur-ing hours when I was not free. After the first weeks of blissfully deceiving myself I saw that no one woman ever could hold him, but I hoped to be his rock of safety and understanding through all the storms of his undisciplined nature. "After the loss of my baby a year ago I was ill for a long time. Not sick in bed, but rather dragging drag-ging myself about through my school duties, and not able to keep control as I should. Larry drew large sums from our joint account, and on one occasion signed my name to a sale of property without my authorization. At that time he moved to another room and he has not returned to mine. "Now he tells me he wants to be freed, to drive about the country looking up pupils for a much enlarged en-larged school, and dreadful as it sounds I am afraid that he would not be alone; I think I know the charming young companion of 19 who would accompany him, although al-though he tries to quiet my suspicions suspi-cions by saying that Miss M has an agency for children's books and would be stopping in many of the towns he would visit, so that accidental encounters would be very natural. "What can I do to hold this young husband of mine, whom despite all his unkindnesses, I love so passionately? passion-ately? I know I am not young and charming any more; I was never glamorous. But I am slim and tall A school for girls . . . j and clean-looking, and my yellow hair is untouched by drugs or gTay-ness gTay-ness yet. There must be something to me; the children love me, and so do their families. I am well again now, I'm not ready to be a broken, crying, wakeful failure as a wife. Help me to get back again." Don't Take Him Seriously. Help, my dear Marigold, has to come from within. When you make yourself a whole woman again, absorbed ab-sorbed in other things than Larry's physical perfections and love conquests, con-quests, you'll get him back. When you are always happily busy, amused, planning picnics for your charges, dressing with the old charm, enjoying the same old books and music, Larry'll see you as he used to see you. Stop the crying, reproaching lying ly-ing awake nights, analyzing. Nothing Noth-ing is so fatal to married peace as the long "reasonable" talks in which a man and woman hurt each other's feelings deliberately and systematically. Forget Larry Yes forget him. Listen to his complacent recitals absent-mindedly; have other things to think about If he goes off with the car, see that he hasn't too much money. Suggest casually that he find a job as phyS ical culture director in some other school. Explain that his flirtations are undermining yours. LauBh about it. Warn prospective LauSh that he is youthfully amorous agin 0thaerrWord3, beCme ur.elf again a charming, capable sue cessful woman, who knows how to Uve and help smaU un, no live on happier terms, who dr well and has many interests 4 sooner Larry drifts away to imn upon some other heart hi pose woman, the loonTV your moral, mental i , egain and Physical baUMe.P yCh0l0BlctJ |