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Show i i t 3 Miiniiia.r II ifi i'rnrr S I in I ii'ic It Si'diiii i y I tJ ll.m.-st .. U lt'.VH MISS l):l. I Imvc tn-rii going llh a slit for tlvc yrr ami litvr her in a rrrtitiu wny. Sho lovrn me ami h:s ulvt-n up evrryont lc In ttii" wortil fur me. I feel thai It Is my duty to miirry her ami Intern! In-tern! to ilo so. Itut I ;int you to tell m If 1 am tlolui; tlie rlKht t lit i ir . I know that I can he happy with her alone hut none of my frlemU like her am! she does not tit la well with the people I've always gone with. She ami I have BRreed to get married and then If thiiics do not work out well, to separate after a year's time. I think this Is the only fair thini; to do. V. M. 1). AVSWT'.K The lady must be U-fire.! U-fire.! anxious for matrimony if she's willing to make nil iweement of this sort. For even the most Infatuated In-fatuated sweetheart would he loath to undertake marriage on such a cold-bloodedly pesimlstic basis. It seems to me you're nskinR for trouble In planning a date on which you will separate by mutual consent con-sent if things don't work out well. Under the circumstances they're bound to work out badly. With both of you watching the calendar and reminding yourselves that every day brings you nearer the possible moment of separation, you will ( hardly have time to set used to each other or to learn how to com- j i promise. j After fire e.irj, '. .If. P.. A'' i Amtc uherher yuu're i.if('"'r "" I firl yau Une or uiiA the riemd J I tihose opinion uorrv you. lirrv by ) this time your allexumce to your i jueelieorl nu alicntlleil the a''rcttons of your imitation friends anil eft you uith a pretty good idea of uhich relationships rela-tionships art most precious. The friends uho have stuck to you in spite of their being oppoird In your fiancee are point on uith their loyalty through your marriage and everything else. You have no cause to uorry about them. Neither should you worry about the crowd you know whose standards stand-ards demand a different sort of sweetheart for you. Their praise or blame cannot affect you except superficially. su-perficially. There Is no case on record rec-ord of a man's giving up his true love In order to please the opinion of some superior group and finding find-ing that the crowd's approval compensated com-pensated him for his loss of a sweetheart. DEAR DORIS DENE: I have quarreled with my husband and j left him because he prefers his ; mother to me. We lived with his ; j mother up till last week and then ; j I left. My husband is still with her. ; I His mother can't stand me and I made my life a torment. I love my ; ' husband and want him to be with i me always. But apparently be doesn't care enough for me to give ' ! up his mother. S. T. ! ! ANSWER Just a minute just a j minute! You're jumping to conclu- j sions so fast you haven't time to see where you're going. Because your 1 husband doesn't desert his mother in order to follow you Is no indication indica-tion that he doesn't love you. There may be any number of reasons for his behavior and you ought to consider con-sider some of them before forming such an unfavorable opinion of your spouse's brand of devotion. In the first place, he may feel quite rightly, that you should have talked over the situation with him reasonably, before flouncing out of the house in a temper. Your sudden sud-den exit may have hurt him so that his pride prevents his following you. Did you honestly give him a chance to understand how strongly you felt on the subject? Now the man of the house may argue that you knew before you married that you were scheduled to j live with Mother-in-law and that j since you married on that understanding, under-standing, you're not playing fair now in walking out on the job. Isn't it true that you knew what you were in for, when you married a man who perhaps had to support his mother? And if your husband is his mother's moth-er's only standby, he can hardly be blamed for refusing to desert his big responsibility without a good deal of consideration and planning. Wouldn't it be selfish of him to throio over his mother, and fly after you, regardless re-gardless of her feelings? If you'd been uise you wouldn't have created a situ-alion situ-alion in uhich your husband uas left in such an aakuard position uith both contestants. The romantic lover of fiction might have dropped everything, and torn after his departing wife, pleading plead-ing with her to return. But the sensible everyday man who feels his duty toward his mother keenly, who believes in fair play and reasonable rea-sonable treatment is slow to forgive for-give the tempestuous darling who has thrown his life into chaos with her abrupt departure. He may love her deeply and tenderly yet feel that her own action has made it impossible for him to help her immediately. If you honestly feel, S. T., that the right is on your side, and that your leave taking was warranted from every point of view, have no fear since in that case your husband hus-band will assuredly come after you to make peace. Life alone with mother will not prove a satisfactory satisfac-tory substitute for the devotion of a loving wife. And the man left to endure such a dismal substitute will have a chance to figure out the rights and wrongs of the case. BeU Syndicate. WNU Service. |