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Show Kathleen Norris Says: Tie Strangest Problem Bell Syndicate WNU Features. L : 1 "Keep Cyrus with you. Give him this next year wholly; reading to him, doing his lessons with him. By KATHLEEN NORRIS "vUR problem is a very I 1 peculiar one," writes V Jean Morgan from Hartford, Connecticut. "Both Howard, my husband, and I are teachers, but we haven't been able to find any solution to this particular puzzle. "When our first-born son was two years old we lost another an-other son, an infant. Our grief was great, for an injury to me just before the child's birth cost not only his life but the possible lives of other children chil-dren I might have had. We determined de-termined to adopt a baby girl. "We went from place to place, finding a great shortage of girl babies. But in one place we did finaUy find a weazened baby boy a few weeks old, with a mop of fine black hair. The unfortunate little fellow made an immediate appeal, and we brought him home as a baby brother Tony for our own small Cyrus. "As the baby grew the dark hair disappeared, giving way to beautiful beauti-ful chestnut curls. With his big black eyes, warm brown skin and irresistible irre-sistible smile we discovered that we had a child who literally stopped traffic. Gay, endearing, intelligent far beyond his years, Tony has from the beginning eclipsed Cyrus, who is a somewhat timid, quiet child, not jealous, as far as we know, but willing to let Tony win all the prizes and be captain of all the games. Tony Attracts Attention. "Howard and I have scrupulously tried to balance the affection and attention we give the two, but visitors visit-ors always single out handsome engaging en-gaging little Tony for especial notice. He is quite unconscious of his charm he is now eight years old but we feel that there is no question that his enthusiasm and plans discourage Cyrus from making mak-ing any attempts of his own. "Cyrus has a lovely, generous nature, na-ture, but Just of late both his father and I think that he carries self-effacement self-effacement too far. We want to entourage en-tourage him to self-expression and , Individual interests and friends, but he seems already to be solitary in his tastes. "Now my husband is going overseas over-seas and we are giving up our big country place and plan to place the boysJCn boarding-schools. For Tony I have no misgivings, but I am wondering won-dering if Cyrus does not need special spe-cial understanding and possibly special spe-cial handling. Our original purpose in finding a 'little brother' was to make Cyrus happy; it will break both our hearts if this very brother is the cause of any real injury to his spirit. When the boys go to school I will take a five-room apartment in the city and perhaps find war work to do until Howard comes back." Keep Tony from Cyrus. I think the time has come now when you must separate the boys, perhaps for years, certainly for a long time. Find the right school for Tony, not too near, and see that he has "Tony is quite unconscious of his charm ..." SON COMES FIRST Sometimes the most generous gener-ous and seemingly sensible actions result in unexpected difficulties. A rare problem faces the mother in this article. arti-cle. She adopted a baby boy to be a companion to her little son then two years old. Unexpectedly Un-expectedly the little orphan, Tony, sickly and undersized as a baby, developed into a handsome and charming child who quite outshone Cyrus. This mother watched her . son Cyrus, retiring and unselfish unsel-fish by nature, gradually give way before the engaging little waif, Tony. Now Cyrus is ten and Tony eight years old, and she thinks it is time to think of her own son's best interests. Her husband is soon going overseas, and she is planning to put both her boys in board- j ing schools. Miss Norris points out that this is not just the right course, j I 1 1 occasional weekends at home, and plenty of affection and amusement at those times. In summer put him in a camp; he will always find friends. If you can, discover before the fall term begins some family whose own small boy is in that school, go see that boy's mother and make with her a financial arrangement arrange-ment that will mean that Tony spends most of his holidays there. This will not be easy at first, but you owe it to your own son to see it through. Don't put Cyrus ;in boarding-school; boarding-school; keep him with you. Give him this next year, wholly; reading read-ing to him, doing his lessons with him, taking him off with you to the mountains or the shore in summer. Let him know that he is the dearest interest in your life. You may be amazed you almost certainly will bn amazed at the way this shy, backward little nature will develop de-velop under the stimulus of games, books, work, meals with you alone. You are fortunate to have this particular par-ticular opportunity to give him his chance. j Be careful that the boys them-' selves have no suspicion of what is motivating you and what your object ob-ject is. Above all don't let Cyrus feel himself an object of pity or solicitude. You can simply enough give him reasons why Tony goes to one school and he to another, if indeed, in-deed, at the age of ten, he will ask for any reasons at all. Unwittingly, you did your own boy an injustice eight years ago. You were in no way to blame. In nine cases out of ten it would be otherwise; other-wise; it would be the true son toward to-ward whom favoritism would naturally natur-ally turn. But real brothers have to be separated sometimes, and these foster-brothers will both be better apart for a while. When you and Cyrus are alone you'll find your boy, and he will find his mother. Women Crew on Diners The buffet-parlor car service on the Canadian National Railways' main line between Halifax, Nova Scotia and Sydney, N. S., has three women as a crew supervised by a male steward; one is a buffet-cook, another a pantry girl and the third a waitress. Heretofore, men were exclusively ex-clusively employed as dining car crew. The women who are replac-; ing the chefs and waiters are attract ing considerable attention. The 1 waitress' uniform is edped in ma j roon, with nron to match. j |