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Show "-vwwHnmwianiaimmaaBaBrwaBBiieaBBKaaBmej0eBBjeNMXBrvewaMe n MH 1 - -.- -T . .. . ,my , . ... .EMjBnn The Marriage Vow- :. WHY SOME WOMEN AVOID CUPID 1 JBB DY MISS DORA MAY MORRELL I jfHH Many women will not marry bo-causo bo-causo they prefer to keep their individuality indi-viduality ns thoy cannot If thoy wed. Thoy do not euro to change their on-tire on-tire scheme of living to suit some mnn. Thoy aro RolllBh? Perhaps, but at loaBt they mako no ono olso tho victim of tholr fault. Tho law In many Btatos so discriminates discrim-inates ngaliiBt woman that it la an argument against marrying to thoao who know anything about It. Tho man, generous follow, Bays nt hla wedding, "with all my worldly goods I thou endow," nnd tho wlfo who bollovca It finds to her surprlBO that so far from being tho recipient of all his worldly goods ho ovvnB oven tho garmouts she wears. Tho woman who sees her assistant's as-sistant's salary drawn by tho worthless worth-less husband with whom sho will not llvo, but who can llvo on hor earnings, earn-ings, is not llkoly to think well ot a condition which pormlts tho Injuatlco; sho who rends of a child willed away from its mother for no bettor reason thnn tho mnlico of an angry husband Jb llkoly to dollberato a llttlo; for if nature teaches anything or provcB anything, It is that tho child is tho mother's. When tho lnw gives children chil-dren to their mothers it will do much to mnko women wish to mnrry and to becomo mothers. It may socm doubtful doubt-ful if theso points In tho law would keep any woman from marrying, but they havo. It Is truo that woman loves hor frocdom, porhnpg tho moro that It la jo now to hor. Sho renllzos na no man enn tho blessings which havo boon his for ngos to work na ho will nnd climb whero dnrlng lends, and sho longs to work, too, and to climb, to mako herself something to tho big world. Sho loves tho possibility, of this power so well that Bho wiUnot resign U for an unworthy claimant. Vlio man who turns an enrnoat woman Irom tho delights of' congenlnl work and Indopcndenco must bo a mnn I whom sho loves more .than Bho doos herself. No lmltntl6n innn nttractB tor, for alio counts tho cost beforo iho owna him "lord nnd niaator," nnd in aplto of all; the talk about tho in-lopcudent in-lopcudent woman and how, sljo hna jhanged fr'om tho "clinging vino" va-floty va-floty aho la llko her of nil bygone lays in that 8hb never does love unlll hor heart' tolls her horo la ho who la ord over hor. Women hnvo so long been forgiving to man's infidelities that It may bo Bafli surprising to bo told that thoy havo flHH kopt women from mnrrylng, yot the HaaaH atntoment la true. Thero nro women flHHfl who havo what Is called Instinctive flBHfl vlrttio nnd who hnvo no comprchon- flBaaaBafl slon nnd can have none of tho nvorngo flaaaafl mnn'a point of vluw. To such a one j BH it is monstrous thnt a mnn can be tin- iflaaH truo to her boforo mnrrlago na after. HbbbbbI She knows no rcnaon why ho morn iSBH thnn sho should Book Illicit pleasures, i ' H Hjflfil Thoro nro always in womnnlj flpH womon two motives in marriago liafl strong within them, and It Is often an lpH actual pnln to act counter to thnm, BB First of nil la tho dealre for children. H After a woman hna ronched 30, unless aaaaiB sho la a shallow creaturo alio rogroti paafl that aho does not know motherhood . HH A French woman onco anld to tlia B writer: "Of course, marrlago la a HH necessary ovll. Womon don't expect HH to bo finppy with tholr husbands, but jiH then thoro nro tho children, nnd one pfl lives again In thorn, and hna Jpy even aaHH with tho sorrow of years;" and the aaaBH woman who is childless loses all this, J her birthright. , t mBm Then nnothor inducement to tho. ' H self-supporting woman toward matrl- aaaaBB mony is tho deslro to belong to some- H body, It la not that alio wants a homo ' HB of hor own alio hn It na tho fruit B of her labora and tho Indcpcndoncfl JH for which alio pnya tho prlco; It la not 'H ovnn for tho eako of mnn'a aocluty, iaH H Theso two Influences within womnn- J H kind fight for man, and clthor or both . JH is often stronger thnn hor plcnsur Ifll In hor work, hor lovo of Indopondonco, H nnd nil tho reasons combined which H koop hor alnglo. Thou weigh tho bal- jH aucO yot moro with a man whom slid H admires, honors and lovoa, nnd thoro J H la but ono roaaon why woman doos H not mnrry sho can not. Thoroforo, H If man wlahoa tho dnta concerning r H matrimony and cducntcd women to H chango ho haa simply to mako hlm H self tho mnn whom n woman of mind, B heart and charactor will deslro, and .fl I surely It la better to bo chosen na s 'H lino typo of highor manhood than ai HH tho payor of bills, Tho man, not hit , '' i. -B money, la tho compliment such u X''" T) -l womnn pays him when aho censos to v -. ' H bo tho woman. who doea not wish to JB marry.' Lot thoro bo moro men of thnt sKJ3H stnmp and tho woman will bo tin, B known who doos not wish to mnrry, B (Copyright, by Joseph II, Uowlcs.) H ------i |