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Show THE SENSITIVE GIRL She has a hard enough time, goodness knows, even among her family and friends, for her feelings feel-ings are always being hurt by some of them. But when she goes into the business world it will seem to fairly bristle with thorns, so many will be the slights she will apparently receive. Most of the wounds of the sensitive girl are self-inflicted, only, unfortunately, she doesn't know it. When she gains this knowledge her suffering and her tears will soon cease. It is wisdom that is slow in coming, for you can't make the sensitive girl believe that the slights directed her way are not intended. She is so sure in her mind that her grievance is just that argument argu-ment is hopeless. Indeed, argument is hopeless most of the time with the sensitive girl. If you number such a one among your friends or in your family, try to change her way of looking at the world, instead of arguing with her that her grievances are groundless. Try to get her to see that the world is too big and people too busy to be occupied in thinking up ways to hurt her feelings, and that in the main people are too kind to do such things anyway. The idea that people are continually shooting arrows her way comes frequently from an overdeveloped ego. She believes other people are thinking as much about herself as she is, and their words and actions she misconstrues as directed to herself, when the probability is they never had her in mind at all nor thought of such a construction being put upon their conduct. This is particularly true in business. Business people are entirely too rushed to mince words or to consider how people may take what they say. The sensitive girl is extremely foolish to think every unkind word, every slur about poorly done work or slowness is directed at her. Rest assured if her work doesn't suit she will hear directly from her employer. He won't beat around the bush about it. And she needn't torture herself with the thought that he is whipping her over somebody else's shoulders. shoul-ders. Common sense and a philosophical spirit are good cures for sensitiveness. But these are the very qualifications the sensitive girl is apt to lack. The best thing to help her is to mix with the world and with people, to get a big, broad .view of life wherein she will see how extremely small she and her affairs are. This will gradually give her a saner and more rational viewpoint, and.her extreme sensitiveness will disappear. She will become much happier, much more companionable. The sensitive girl should endeavor to get this view of life, for she is making herself wretched over things which in the main do not exist, for most of the slights and wounds to her feelings are imaginary, not real. And it is a pity to spoil life with imaginry ills. 'a |