| Show Child Training Old and New Modern Methods Conceded to Have Many 1 Points of Advantage Lectures Altogether Beyond the Understanding of or Little Ones Sara Bara and Mrs Sirs Daugherty Daughert were I talking Sara was wu engaged to be b. married and Mrs Daugherty her ber aunt was 1111 performing a last duty b by Installments from Installments from time to time giving her carefully thought out ad- ad vice Iee Today It had to do with one phase of The Right night Way lay to Raise Children namely The Right night Way to Talk to Your Tour Children It seems leema strange to me said sald Sara that so 10 many parents of todar to to- today day dar try trl to teach their children by old d methods Perhaps because the they realize that th the tb old people bad had the best ideas on child training said her ber aunt with finality Ever since your dear mother died and your lour father gave you to me to take care of I have baTe tried to teach you In accordance accordance accord accord- ance nee with the way wal my mother taught me But Dut It was too late You Tou were spoiled I could not make and the theone theone theone one word emphasized was 1188 make you U see lee right and wrong In their I light I 1 feel that I have bave failed tailed In the task your year father gave met but nevertheless nevertheless nevertheless nev nev- I have hIVe not altered my ideas in the least Yes Yel perhaps I was wrong many maDY times Aunty agreed Sara But nut you see lee my ml mother was strictly modern In her herr ways and It was only natural natural nat nat- ural that I became modern also however I 1 see lee no fault In being modern If It I ever have hue children I 1 Ishall Ishall shall ahall bring them up according to modern ideas Ideal We have pro progressed along alone other lines wh why cant can't we progress pro pro- cress gress In the manner of educating children at home I believe In giving I lag ing a child a g general conception of right and wrong and then encouraging encouraging aging him to work out each IndivIdual Individual ual real problem I 1 most certainly do not believe In purposely letting him make a mistake and then thea lecturing him or giving him him a whipping Just what do you mean by bl lecturing lee lec turing Sara T Inquired her aunt This demanded a reply so Sara answered frankly You Yon know perhaps per per- haps hape that to ver very young oung people a lecture seems seema to consist of lengthy expositions discussions and eloquent eloquent elo elo- eloI I quent phrases at phrases at least those are the grown up terms for what th the child chUd thinks of It It seems to him blur t to te have baTe no real conciseness humor frankness bone honesty sty o or clarity Lectures really are for tor the thi older the more advanced people are th they y not noU They are usually rio so far tor beyond the child's childs understanding that he be cannot grasp grasp their meaning however however how how- however ever clear door It ma may seem to the adult So of course he shows little interest Interest Inter Inter- est eat and receives little bene benefit t. t It we reali really want to help children I think we should talk with them not at them I begin to understand your our point of view said Mrs You think I 1 often lectured you ou Instead of ot talking with you I know now why you yon didn't want to ba be bothered with your old Aunt Aunty and her silly amy talks talk I the the talks were lectures lecture But nut I 1 hops hope you realize that every everything thin I 1 said ltd 14 was 1111 Intended for your lour bene benefit t. t l I 1 realize that Aunty This real talk I Is going to be a revelation te to both of ns ua 1 I believe Now Now to to continue our lesson lesson- l let t me roe see ace If It 1 I can state te your Idea clear ly continued her ber aunt The friend 1 ly talk In the majority of cases se Is t. Ute the best way wal to correct children and tl to give alve them advice and in that talk you ou should have some lome humor although al at- though not enough to subordinate explanation ex ox and fact It must also alia be concise frank sincere straightforward ward ard honest and clear It must not be about the child but to him him him-a very verI important point to remember when tall talking ng to your children If I understand you IOU correctly That is II exactly what 1 mean mean Aunty but may we change talking to your lour children to talking with your lour children It should be I 1 think a conversation a a friendly chat Tb nIe cou confidential talk with a child Is good to lecture him Is II harmful The more I think about it It Sara Sall the more I realize reaUze that your lour Ideas Ide are correct It Is la too late to practice practice tice them on my ml niece but I 1 hope bope you will stick to them and give lITe advice ad vice nce to any children who are ever is la your lour care can I will was trU Saras Sara's hurried reply for the doorbell had bd Just juat run rung lad and she ahe was expecting her fiance |
