Show Kathleen Norris Says The Girl 11 With It b No N 0 Boy 0 Friend Bell Dell Syndicate Syndicate Features 1 i t c cI I I V i aoua Join a language Russian cuss class Russian or Spanish You'll meet interesting people of 0 all ages at evening classes claes By KATHLEEN NORRIS u T SIMPLY am not interI interesting interesting inter- inter I I esting and I know it writes Georgia Carter from a Georgia city I a am m 30 I have a good job I live i ia in ina ina n a nice apartment I have no family and I am completely uninteresting Oh and I amnot am amnot amnot not bad littie little little lit lit- I feel like Galsworthy's tle tie man Am I alive L Life e roars on all about me Girls are crying their hearts out t over soldiers gone away they are welcoming them back house hunting house hunting job job hunting hunting having babies The newspapers newspapers pers shriek with headlines I In our town we had a big fire a abig abig big flood political changes o othe of f the most drastic sort sort none none of it touches meMy meMy meMy me My friends are married They Y have babies I smile at all aU th the e babies But even the babies are no not t ts Interested and as for the husbands s well well I have sense enough to keep kee- a out of their way way- I dress nicely ea eat eatwell eatwell t well have a luxurious bed and a pleasant room and at 58 I will ll have enough money saved and invested Invested In in- vested to give me a modest income e for life lile Am I not lucky I So lucky that I seriously think of suicide Years Years ago mother used to tell teU ll me to Interest men by getting them L to talk It makes my face lace hot to remember remember remember re re- member how often I started Into kite o bright conversations about law packing meat-packing planes real estate bulldogs The man would look a ame at atme atme t me blankly answer in a monosyllable monosyllable lable Table and turn to the girl on theother the theother theother other side I simply cant can't do it Afraid of Future Those years between 30 and 5 58 e fascinate me Theres There's something g rather scaring to a woman of 30 In looking ahead Perhaps its it's easier r at 40 What shall I do My job i is s superintendent of the mail mall order department department department de de- of a drug firm I have e about 20 girls under me They all A know the answers better than I do Earlier In the letter she says s that her father was an Invalid fo for r many years unable to stand noise e or the presence of strangers an and d that when he died In her year her mother sank Into an Invalidism m I almost as complete So Georgia had no youth no Joyous joyous Joy joy- Cu ous girlhood of home entertaining g and home security No wonder she e Is still and awkward d with men fumbling about for fo r subjects In which to Interest them and knowing or balf suspecting hall g In her uncomfortable heart that t the simplest thing in which to Interest interest interest Inter inter- est them is herself hersel And you have to be interested In n yourself If U anyone else Is to find fin d you Interesting Georgia So sto stop p trying to attract outsiders and attract attract attract at at- tract yourself to yourself to yourself There are many ways to do this They all sound flat fiat and unconvincing unconvincing but you only have to tr tra try y a few of ot them honestly to be reborn reborn reborn re re- re- re born Into enthusiasm first for your you r own life lUe and then for the lives all about you Get a Country Place Td rd get out of at the two-room two city ci ty apartment and find some sma small ll place In the country near town Bu Buit Buy y It If U you like It enough as ai well now w and as at that future date when you will have saved enough money for your old aId age Enjoy it now and andin andIn andin in your old age too You'll never neve r find yourself at a loss for conversa conversa- l J f d b c 1 think seriously of suicide J I A NEW APPROACH Many young people i in big cities cant can't seem scent to fit In in so- so dally daily They are fairly successful successful success success- f ful in business or professional life but they go on year ear after year ear unable to attract anyone who could possibly be considered in marriage So they remain single Eventually they drift into their thirties Then suddenly ona one day there comes a panicky realization that flint the future will not take care o of f them that without vigorous trying they are f facing ac fac- acing ac ing a drab middle age and sad lonely old age Such a situation is presented in a letter Miss Norris reprints in today's paper A girl just turned 30 has a good job anice a anice anice nice New Y York orT apartment good clothes in fact practically practical practical- ly everything She says she is good looking well educated and agreeable Somehow nevertheless nev- nev all the men she meets soon turn to someone else It just seems impossible for her herto herto to be interesting no matter what she tries to talk about Miss lUiss Norris advises this unhappy unhappy un un- happy girl that she must take a new approach try to get interested interested interested in in- to in something herself She could go to evening school for instance There are arc always intelligent people taking night classes and onto amo her classmates class mates there are sure to be some sonic who would be glad to number her among their friends Another Another Another An An- other possibility would be to move to a small place in the country just outside of town Here she could develop new interests interests gardening gardening poultry raising perhaps Soon she would have a host of new ac ac- She would neVer never be at a loss lass for something to talk about either cither tion when you can talk of your fireplace fire fire- place the things that will and wont won't grow In your garden the difficulty In getting furnace oil aU and a secondhand second second- secondhand hand refrigerator and the ridiculous kitten that has adopted you Get some picturesque clothes even If it you haven't nerve enough to wear them anywhere except in the house Ask an occasional office friend to come out to lunch some Sunday and warn him or her that he or she may have to help weed Join a language class class Rus Rus Russian sian sign or Spanish You'll meet Interesting interesting inter Inter- estin esting of all persons ages at evening evening evening eve eve- ning Spanish classes Then budget your time as well wen wenas as your Income Three hours in the thi garden on Sundays extra jobs about the house written menus for the week church just so much r radio dio amusement and one or two letters or your language lesson written to radio music late in the evening When youre you're thoroughly absorbed In all these new activities you'll discover dIscover discover dis dIs- cover that someone else is too The man who came out to help you weed will want to come again your new friend in the Russian class will ask you If it he may not come and do your language study with you a neighbor neigh neigh- bor bar will step over to borrow a hose and suggest a movie And you will be so absorbed In your own Interests that you will be amazed to feel leel deep gratitude when you have a whole evening to your your- self I |