Show Kathleen Norris S Says The Run Hit Hit and tit an Run Marriage Relented Released by Western Newspaper Union l iTC V J f t 1 I r r i h I H Hf f t a wv J EN Any two young persons could work their way to successful marriage if the husband had been taught the solemn responsibilities of matrimony and the wife I were a well-trained well young creature who takes her mar marital vows vow seriously By KATHLEEN NORRIS TAR AR conditions have haveA WAR A certainly put marriage marriage marriage mar- mar in into to the hit- hit run and-run ca category says Judge Robert Williams Jr of Suffolk Mass Frequently now he adds we have cases in which it is admitted that the couple saw each other only once twice or three times before they were married Often there is no such thing as I want you to meet the folks The first time the parents see them is when they are brought home as in- in laws Court authorities follow tollow this up with the statement that marrying on ona ona ona a mere speaking acquaintance was the cause of at the frightful jump in divorce statistics nearly 2300 last year ai QI against 1500 in 1940 Twenty three hundred hopeful young hearts no no twice that many for lor boys' boys hearts can break too wrecked and embittered and pointed It is a fearful total of unhappiness unhappiness unhappiness un- un happiness it is something to make older married folk think Where are we failing falling our children that they can leap into the most serious relationship humans can canI know so ignorantly so lightly and I often otten so fatally For fortunate second second second sec sec- ond marriages dont don't often otten follow on mistaken first ones Sometimes the scars of at the original failure last a lifetime And if It a child or children children children chil chil- dren result from these or miss matches they start life on most unfortunate unfortunate un un- fortunate terms Blamed on War Var Well say the mothers and fathers ruefully this is one of ot the tragedies of war The youngsters are demoralized and excited Young men have been torn tom home and college are to be sent to far farand farand farand and distant countries perhaps never to return Girls are prematurely prematurely prematurely pre pre- maturely matured by the atmosphere atmosphere atmos atmos- phere of chance movement emotional emotional emotional emo emo- crisis dramatic situations With so many chances surrounding surround surround- ing the future girls and boys plunged ahead absolutely without thought Maybe he wont won't come comeback comeback comeback back for tor years Maybe the war I wont won't end for tor a long time Maybe they'll live in some foreign country after atter the war Maybe this and maybe maybe maybe may may- I be that but not often otten the sober probability probability probability I ability the truth Not often otten maybe hell he'll come back without a Job Maybe we wont won't like each other when weve we've seen each each other more often otten Maybe hell he'll look very different to me out of at his uni uni- uni- uni form Maybe he wont won't immediately I get a good job after the war and well we'll face tace the necessity of ot living on I the family Maybe he ought to meet my mother and father first Maybe I hes he's tied up with some girl in his I own state state state-or or with half halt a dozen girls in half hall a dozen states Maybe Ill I'll fall tall much more deeply with some other man while hes he's away Maybe Maybe Maybe May May- be Ill I'll have a n baby immediately and have to give up a good job and start taking care of ot the baby All these possibilities have come true for hundreds and hundreds of r 1 t 4 1 t Boys hearts can break too JOYS AND SORROWS OF MATRIMONY As was Wa anticipated hastily contracted marriages entered into under the stress and excitement excitement excitement ex ex- ex- ex o of f war tear are breaking up at a frightening rate Miss hiss Norris points out that it is partly partly partly part part- ly the responsibility o of f parents who have failed jailed to impress upon their children the seriousness seriousness seri seri- o of f matrimony and the necessity for various adjustments adjustments adjust adjust- ments ment by both partners The m misery and heart-break heart o of f these divorces can hardly be calculated Miss Norris says Young lives live are often permanently permanently permanently perma perma- wrecked because those who have once failed jailed to find happiness in the married state the first time are frequently unable to make a success of a second marriage The early scars scar remain and doubt and distrust arise easily Our parents and grandparents under understood tood the problem o of f marriage better beter in many ways nays than ice we do They entered entered entered en en- it determined to make mahe a ago ago ago go of it come what would rash young couples In New York a 1 afew afew few months ago a girl asked her chum to go with her to meet her husband who was invalided home She had seen him about a dozen times in all and was afraid she wouldn't know him These quick marriages are dangerous dangerous dangerous dan dan- enough but the real danger lies in the quick divorces I If our boys had been somewhat schooled in inthe inthe inthe the solemn responsibilities of hus hus- if U they had been taught gentleness patience courage faith in themselves that they hardly knew these wives girl-wives of theirs it would not be so serious a matter Making It a Success If girls went into even this thi hig hig- sort of ot marriage persuaded persuaded persuaded per per- under all the Ule surface excitement excitement excitement excite excite- ment and hysteria and passion that any marriage may be made a success success success suc suc- cess i if the wife determines that It shall be Any two persons granted the first physical attraction that hurled them Into matrimony as ns a start could work their way to a successful successful successful suc suc- marriage i if the husband were possessed of ot the aforementioned aforementioned qualities of character and the wife wite were a sweet sensible well-trained well young creature who meant the great promise she made when she said I tl do The glory of golden wedding days has shone on many a man and woman woman woman wom wom- an who hardly knew each other when their hands were united My MI Myown Myown own grandmother at 17 was summoned summoned sum sum- to the library to meet the theman theman man to whom she was to be married married mar mar- ried on the same day Of at clean strong Irish stock on both sides fides neither the principals nor the devoted devoted devoted de de- de- de voted parents had bad any misgivings as to the outcome If Il we trained our children more carefully for the great duties of ot the marriage state it would not matter so much who they married and there would be many fewer divorces among them I OVER MADE CLOTHING Making over garments for smaller small small- er children is more than merely cutting cut cutt ting tang them down to size Colors pattern pattern pat pat- tern and weight of fabric all need to be considered in such cases Fabrics Fab Fab- I adults wear may be too heavy 1 for tor a small child If Il the material is not light enough in weight to be comfortable use it for some other purpose Avoid stripes plaids and I prints that are too big for the child When planning a over make consult con sult suit the youngster Most times its it's just the little things thIng that make clothes acceptable to children |