Show Kathleen Norris Says For of t lp Sake o of Tomorrow Stick Slick tic It t Out Den Ben Syndicate Features i w S S 11 t d 1 r 0 t lU t I j A B 6 1 W H 1 1 J rJ v S n s V II 1 f t tC J J I f f I C u. u Tr 5 51 1 l ly j f 7 1 tl I Its It good to have hate a sturdy graying old friend beside you to say Look I I here c kid were we're not SO 50 yet W Weve We've some swell years ahead 11 flows How's ow's for driving I to Mexico next month By KATHLEEN NORRIS are brittle M MARRIAGES affairs these days We older persons looking on can see the difficulties difficulties difficulties of young husbands and wives and suffer with them If gallant sturdy little Bets decides decides decides de de- de- de that she simply cant can't stick it any longer we are apt to be sympathetic Not that we weare weare weare are happy over the young di divorces divorces divorces di- di not that we approve of that way out but out but we cant can't help being sorry Bets did her best we say She really tried She was learning to cook she loved her little apartment and the baby but Kenneth really was impossible Crabby and critical critical critical cal and wanting her to entertain his friends when all she could do was struggle along with the housework housework housework house house- work and then of ot course drink drink- ing Oh Db yes he did She never could depend on him and when hes he's drinking Ken hen Taylor can be horribly horribly horribly hor hor- disagreeable Its too They started off so much in love and all aU the time he was away Bets wrote him and sent him pictures of the baby and all that But since he came back I dont don't know everything seems to be going wrong Kens Ken's family are lovely lovely lovely love love- ly people too everyone admires old Doctor Taylor But you just cant can't do anything with the youngsters youngsters youngsters young young- these days Bets says she still sees Kens Ken's good points she doesn't feel revengeful or resentful or anything any any- thing Its It's just that they cant can't make a go of it it il Divorce Like Atom Bomb This story is so familiar as to be boring boring or or rather terrifying These facts facts and and they are facts in every great city and every crossroads village strike at the very basis of our whole social system Divorce is socially a very atom bomb no group can survive it Il It splits into fragments families friendships little little lit lit- tle tie boys and girls never to be united again We waste millions on privileges for tor our children but we deprive them of rights Now since the success or failure of ot a marriage lies much more morein morein morein in the hands of the woman than the man it is to young wives that I address these reminders However your husband fails tails you however serious his faults it pays you to stick it These are hard hardtImes hardtimes hardtimes times on nerves perhaps the hardest hardest hardest hard hard- est since history began You and your husband are both under a astrain astrain astrain strain that your father and mother hardly knew and your grandparents never dreamed Your marriage has survived the fever of the greatest war of ot all time But it is in that weakened and bewildered condition that follows fol lows raging fever You are beginning beginning beginning begin begin- ning to pay the bill for world de de- Everything is against you housing marketing expenses taxes Costs are at their maximum the accessories of modern living flowers for the hospital gas for the car school for tor the twins paint for tor forthe forthe the house theatre tickets railway tickets long-distance long telephone charges toys hats bats taxi fares having having hav hay ing tag the rugs cleaned and keeping your membership In the club club all all these pile up on your desk in the shape of to too familiar bills embellished embellished embellished embel embel- with the little hand pointing to please remit Combine this with trying weather Taffy's poison-oak poison and lie lle can be horribly disagreeable THIS WILL PASS l' l Young oung married people are under unusual str stress s these days The unrest naturally following following following fol fol- fol- fol lowing a great war keeps everyone every every- one edgy Little difficulties develop develop develop de de- de- de into quarrels There are plenty of real hardships too like the housing shortage and high prices for food and other necessities Many couples have to live with relatives always a situation where frictions are easy Add to these the changing changing changing chang chang- ing attitude toward family responsibility responsibility responsibility re re- re- re and the mutual obligations o of f marriage and it is easy to see why so many unions are heading toward the break To those who find the strain hard to bear and who are looking to divorce as the way out Miss Norris offers some mature advice She points out that conditions change generally generally gen gem for the better Children grow up and demand l less s time and worry husbands settle down and get serious about earning an adequate income Other troubles pass away with wit the years In middle and old age sas sa's says Miss Norris the wife who endured endured endured en en- dured the hard early years is rewarded She Size can enjoy the triumphs of her children the tile companionship o of f her husband husband husband hus hus- band the security o of f home and a cluster duster o of f friends asthma mothers mother's visit the breakdown o of the refrigerator and you have the makings of more than one hot quarrel more than one evening evening evening eve eve- ning of sulphurous silence more than one rapid decision that it just cant can't be done Troubles Lead to Quarrels We dont don't see anything eye to eye any more Bets says shaken and tearful but deadly decided too Hell go to his mother Ill I'll go to Nevada with Ann Im I'm sorry We both tried But I couldn't live through that scene at the country club again If he doesn't respect me he might respect my own moth moth- er Im I'm done But husbands grow up Conditions change Children emerge from ir irresponsible irresponsible irresponsible ir- ir responsible burdensome babyhood Kenneth gets a better job his self self- respect awakens The twenties arent aren't all of marriage nor even the thirties There are the forties coming and the fifties You'll be glad some day that you didn't deprive your small boy and girl of ot daddys daddy's friendship You'll be glad to have your man beside you when Billy Bill goes off oU to college when Tatty Tally flutters out outto outto outto to the upstairs balcony of some big comfortable country town home and tosses her white bouquet to her bridesmaids Comradeship counts then Its It's good then to have a sturdy graying old friend beside you to say Look here kid were we're not 50 yet Weve We've got some swell years ahead Hows How's for tor driving to Mexico next month Weather this bad time if 11 you can Change yourself and thus cause him to change Plant in your twenties twenties twenties ties the shady scented flower garden garden garden gar gar- den that Is a happy marriage in middle age |