Show I Kathleen Norris Says The Unfaithful Wife Bell Belt Syndicate Syndicate Features w Y I Ii i 1 J I I 11 a t o I li i I I it i The two boo young youn women have apparently been havin having a II pretty good lood time at dances theaters lut rs movies and night clubs with various admirers By KATHLEEN NORRIS AN N ARMY lieutenant 37 J years year old writes me from Wales where he has been stationed for a year to ask if he should forgive his W wife for admitted infidelity The wife Blanche Is 29 20 they have been married for 10 years and have one child a girl of seven leven Blanche Blanch lives In Chicago keeping house with another army wife who also alo has haa a little daughter The two young women have apparently been having a pretty good time at dances theaters movies nightclubs night with various admirers Now she writes her husband Clark that In this one Instance her affection for one of ot these men has gone Jone too far theman the theman theman man has left Chicago for the South Seas Seal now and has gone out of ot herlUe her life lUe but for a few weeks before he went away he and Blanche were lovers lover He Is a married man Clark writes me and Blanche swears that she never will fee him again nor write to him and that she Is ashamed of the whole affair A week after I had her letter which seemed to crack the actual ground under my feet I 1 had a note from the mans man's wife Informing me of the affair and that seemed to me meto meto meto to take away a good rood deal of ot the honesty of my wife's admission Letters Let tern from a good many people hint of It It and she he may have suspected that I would woold hear bear about It For the childs child's sake she asks me to forgive and forget and I confess that that is my Inclination for I 1 love my wife adore my child and have haTe lived all these months Inthe inthe In Inthe the thought of ot returning to our happy little home again But can a aman aman aman man ever trust a woman after an affair like this Will she do it again If U anyone told me that my sensible loving lovely wife was capable of this sort of thing I would not have believed it on oath lie He Erred Too One other thing the letter concludes concludes concludes con con- which perhaps may Influence influence In in- fluence your decision When we had been married about three years when Yvonne was a tiny baby I had an affair with a divorced woman woman wom worn an who worked In my office It went wenton on for more than a year when Blanche discovered it through the tho accident of my addressing her and talking to her on the telephone one day believing It was the other woman I ended the affair she forgave for for- gave tavo me and we never made further fur tur- ther Cher allusion to it it Should her generosity gen gem then affect me now I 1 feel foel It unfair to consider a womans woman's I offense offence of of- tense fence in this thIl matter more moro serious than a mans man's but I 1 do feel so 10 Do you Yes Clark I do Especially inthis In Inthis this thI case cau where the woman knew well what Ih she was wu doing doln It Isn't fair that rules should be bo different for tor women and for tor men and In a strictly moral sense they are not But by society they are differently regarded and differently punished and women from the beginning of time have had to accept the situ atlon It Is generally reco recognized that women have more self control control In matters of sex lex than men do do are finer in their feelings and wise enough to know that for this sort lort of ot weakness the they pay the e bill Sou So u j See how now you both feel TRUST DESTROYED The gnawing f fear ar o of f so many marri married d soldiers that soldiers that their wives may be unfaithful durin during during dur dur- in ing the lon long separation separation has has become an ugly reality for this army lieutenant He lle i is 37 and has been married for 10 years to Blanche who is 29 They have a year old daughter Blanche who is is now livin living with another officers officer's wife has admitted an affair with a married married married mar mar- ried man She says she is over h her r foolishness now however and is asking ashing for forgiveness While the has had fad at least one llin fling during his married life he regards his hi wife's infidelity as something more serious 11 He e is wondering whether he can ever return to the old status after the war now that his trust has been de de- destroyed that while a wise man may easily be snared by a woman Into a love love- affair a wise woman is much better better better bet bet- ter fitted to avoid the danger However that may be your only course is to forgive Blanche and wipe the matter as completely from from your mind and your memory as as you can Should any of these dear friends who who have turned Informer Informer informer In In- former ever allude to it it willbe will willbe willbe be enough for you to say briefly that you understand the whole situ situ- situation situation anon and that it concerns you and Blanche alone I Walt Wait Till You Come Home dome Whether you two can make a success of a marriage in which confidence has been destroyed on both sides Is a question but apparently apparently ap ape ap- ap harmony was reestablished reestablished after your infidelity a few years ago ngo and It may be restored again At all events it seems to tome tome tome me the wise thing is to wait walt until the war is over or until you are arc home again and then see sec how you both feel and how things go You will probably find your wife once again lovely ely and ln 10 loving your home and your small dau daugh daughter h- h ter everything to which a man wants to come com back Surely it Is more sensible to make this attempt at a afresh afresh fresh Cresh start than to return embittered embittered embittered lonely with no place to go 10 and no tics to resume reaume You will not be the only man who will have to make this sort of compromise when he comes home In hundreds of cases there will be mistakes to forgive stupidities to overlook In all aU cases there will be bea a deep chasm to cross the chasm between the old orderly way of living and the new conditions which none of us can foresee The dreadful chasm of war which carries carries carries car car- ries our boys bOYI away from home and andaU andall andall all aU the home Influences accustoms their young eyes to sights no eyes ever ought to see hurries hurriel them into hasty marriages hasty divorces hasty huty decisions They are going to need all oU that we ve have of courage and stability and code and love to bring them back It is for you and Blanche to contribute to this effort effort ef ef- ef fort rather than to increase the worlds world's burden |