Show I Ka Kathleen Norris Says The Plan Plait That Saved a Marriage Bell Dell Syndicate Features f t t r t f rD 1 r l' l Y t I y 1 1 I hIl i H R AM- AM I Those who make a o plan now ore now ore going to find profitable opportunities I I By KATHLEEN NORRIS r of marI marriageS marriages mar- mar I I are wrecked every ev- ev J- J Jery ery trY year because husband husband husband hus hus- band and wife have no plan t There is nothing like a plan mind begins begins begins be be- 1 The moment your gins to work on it you feel a anew anew anew new interest in life The minute minute minute min min- ute a man and woman unite on a common object in life to toward toward toward to- to ward which their hopes and andI I thoughts turn they are dealing dealing deal- deal ing ng a death-blow death to the vague- vague Jess less jess discontent criticism emptiness that tha t so often t swamps married happiness It may be a plan to build a house It may be a plan to get out of debt It may be a plan to arrange for the professional education of the adored boy who Is presently coming home tired in soul and body from the fighting front It may be a plan to have a baby or adopt a baby or acquire a little farm or study Spanish and live in Mexico after the war ar Whatever it is If tf it lifts husband and wife out of the disillusioned contemplation con con- of everyday humdrum living and gives them a wider view of a happier world to come it saves their mutual love and respect and perhaps makes secure their lives and their childrens children's lives Think out a plan Make it ex ex- ex- ex Make it a dream plan Begin it with If It we could have just what we want after the war Tom what would it be Clear away the obstacle of debt now start the sacrificing sacrificing sacrificing sac sac- and saving that will bring it a about bout There Is no woman alive no matter matter matter mat mat- ter how brained scatterbrained or how beset beset be be- set at this moment with all the conI confused confused con con- I fused conditions and obligations and difficulties of a world at war who annot Cannot pull her life right into shape with with a good plan There is no marriage marriage mar mar- marriage on shaky ground today that will not be steadied and safeguarded by a plan After the war each one of us Is going going going go go- ing to fall into one of two categories categories categories cate cate- gories those who go up and those who go down Conditions will be bei i pretty much the same for everyone but to some they'll spell ruin and to toI I others a n new golden era of success r r Those who are counting upon post post- wartime to pull them out of debt to supply them with more money f to bring home from the front ex- ex service men who will contribute to the family support are going to be bet t fooled Those who make a plan I now who bring their affairs into a condition of complete solvency are going to find very profitable avenues ave ave- avenues for investment very gratifying i opportunities to secure what always I Is in wait walt for thrifty Americans- Americans prosperity security success Women Active e In New Fields t Make your choice now Thousands of American women are doing things r today that they never did before Life has changed for tor us all and only those who realize that are going to tofit tofit tofit fit into the new plan Looking back now on the time l before the last two years I 1 think I 1 must have been asleep all my life writes Mary Perry from rom Texas I 1 married young and always took it for granted that Walter would make the money and I 1 would spend it We had four children In seven years and through those years a steady burden of debt and discomfort all allbut allbut but swam swamped ed our marriage I would f. f have bave left him but I had nowhere to togo togo togo go and he certainly would have deserted deserted deserted de de- me but for the children and andr andt r the Impossibility of supporting two r t u I lu I II Ii I i A 4 place in the country CHART YOUR COURSE Making aking plans and working J them out together is what holds holds' I marriages together says say Miss I Norris It is aimlessness vagueness vagueness vagueness vague vague- ness o of f direction that brings disillusionment and finally dis dis- aster Clinging to some objective objective objective I tive meeting and conquering difficulties achieving little successes successes suc suc- will put zest and purpose purpose purpose pur pur- pose into any marriage and make mahe life worth while living again Any sort of plan may do but a high ambitious one is best Something worth striving f for or a goal distant but not entirely entirely entirely en en- out o of f r reach ach will lift you Ou out o of f yourself and make little little little lit lit- tle difficulties seem tant The plan may be to save enough to buy a house in the suburbs or a little farm It Itma ma may be to provide for the education education education edu edu- cation o of f children for a profession profession profession pro pro- it may be Le merely to get pet out o of f debt and start afresh But whatever it is a plan is a stabilizer an inspiration in marriage Whatever you do dont don't just drift hoping that the future will ivill take care of itself It wont won't establishments It was an unhappy time for us both When your letter came I read it to him she goes on and we decided decided de de- rather doubtfully to start all allover allover allover over again and this time with a aplan aplan aplan plan for ourselves our children and our future We moved to a cheaper place in the country we began to save money we went in for fruit trees and a Victory garden we checked up every month upon our affairs af at- fairs and our gradual approach to the dignified beautiful living we both wanted The plan Is In its month now finishes Marys Mary's letter and it has saved our marriage There is nothing in the world so stimulating as to know where you want to get and to start |