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Show 11 AvOid Beginning of ( Iff -m Strife Cause of I iff UUarrelS All Disputes r;hf U , if J Dy HELEN OLDHELD. V l r""1! CENTUJIY ngo, in the crn of elopements, when, beejuise of I.' ,i I I ner ensy ninrringc lows, persecuted lovers regnrded Scotland I LJ 118 l0 "lnonn8cd Innd," nn old dominie, who, from hit) point K III ESJ vnntngc just ncross the border on n much traveled highway, ' if J NEtPI ,C( nlliny nmtrinioninl knots, used to present the brides" of ! ' I I liis innking With wlmt lio called "a card of counsel for con- fc MrSvH uct ninrril' nc first ',cm 011 wn'c" wns: "Avo'd ', JK . RVmJlI "le ')C8mil'"fe' f piorrcls." ja !: ggjjlj r0 jGcr ndvicc could be given, then or now, to n newly ; weddgd couple. King Solomon, with all his wisdom, ncyer spake truei J word than (hat "the beginning of strife is like the letting out of water, Iff ' therefore leave off. contention before it is meddled with." Host quarrels. conjugal or otherwise, begin with trifles, and lot "Behold how great tit a 'firp' a little matter kindleth 1" Avoid disputes. "It is the first step . W- which, counts.' for which sound reason, do not take it I . An old man, who, as a criminal lawyer of many years' standing, has Mj vido and deep acquaintance with human nature, used to tell his dangh- Wt tors: "Make up your minds to the fact that your husbands are but men, K although they are gentlemen, and take heed how you provoke them to mt anger. It takes two to make a quarrel; never be one of the two, and re- T W member that your dignity best is preserved by silence when you are pro- ', E vdked. Never .forget that you take your husband for better, for worse, E and if, which lieaven forbid, worse comes, at least bear it like a Christian H gcntloworhan. You will find the recipe in Matthew V., beginning at ;j verse 39." jlE j ' There is no bit of wisdom which prospective brides and grooms moro .jar,, profitably may take to heart than that while quarrels between lovers who Stl ,' aro still a-courling may successfully bo patched up as good, even better - Ijjg ? than now, provided always thai, neither of the lovers meant malice, and Jill . also that both aro affectionato and forgiving of disposition, the genuine . lijl ; matrimonial family row rarely is followed by kisses, until there has IB been heart burning which scars, and acid bitterness of spirit which long ' Igg endures under tho sweet of reconciliation. A tempest of tears and temper M , not often is ho forerunner of clear shining after rain. On the contrary, vffsfl it by far is more likely to stir up lasting dissension and anger. mm It is a well established fact in physiology that a severe wound, how- BE ' cvcr thoroughly it may bo healed, scarcely, if ever, fails to leave the ad- (I'll jacent nerves, in a state of intense sensitivness for life, unless the oppo-'ffw oppo-'ffw i site result takes place and they sutler permanent paralysis. Something of a like nature frequently happens in tho case of a serious quarrel be-j. be-j. If tween two people who should be all in all to each other, each in honor pre- Wi ' ferring tho other. . Mr ' , There is no sweetness in lovers' quarrels which compensates for the Mm'' sharpness of their sting; ono might as well preach the advisability of Wml ' breaking a'bit, of, rare china in order to mend it with somo wonderful ce-inent ce-inent which' .shall make it stronger than ever. In this world there aro I I ' many risks which it is wiser not to incur, and true it is that: , jj ff ' , ' "To bo wroth with ono we love '' . " - n" Doth work like madness in the brain." . ' xfi How can it bo possible that love of any sort can be made moro prc ! ' cious by ..disputing, and wrangling, by contradiction and continual dis- ffu , agreeing? 'During tho days of courtship it is possible that it may pass 'lip for playful' teasing, when hearts are soft and heads even softer; but after 'wEj marriago there 'is danger that each will be ready to assert his or her ' lRf? . rights, and each bo less willing to yield to the other. '. Lovers 'quarrels usually are cither ebullitions of jealousy, mostly duo jn M to selfishness, or clso they como from what somebody has called "the lcak- LiMl ago of had temper," a most undesirable quality for cither husband or wife. |