Show second hear break for alaid wit 0 forgives unreliable su tor D U AR MISS DENE I 1 an am twenty seven even rind and the ho man I 1 love la Is thirty y one lie la Is well educated and good looking and ninny many other oilier things which make him ft a desIr desirable Ablo bu lius bus s band two years ago we were engaged and very happy then lie ho decided that lie he care for me lie iio went out with other girls and finally became engaged to someone else without telling me about it lie iio lied to me and even ridiculed mo me for believing in him when it all camo came out my heart nearly broke it took me months to pet get over his desertion well his engagement to the other girl lasted six months and then ho he began to treat her as lie ho treated me now after all this time lie ho wants to come back and as I 1 have not forgotten him nor been able to set get over ever him I 1 want awant to tako take him back yet I 1 am so afraid of lettl letting ng him hurt me ine I 1 nin am so eo anxious to see him I 1 know that his lying habits could break my heart all over again but lie he swears lie ho will reform for my sake bake what Is in the right thing to do ANSWER it seems to mo me that you are inviting a 0 second dose of disillusionment and disappointment if you take back a man who has hurt you cruelty cruelly and who seems temperamentally pe pera ro unfitted to be true to any one woman woma n dont misunderstand me im not saying that a man cant live down one mistake im not saying that it tak take a courage on his hia part to admit that ho he has been wrong and to ask forgiveness of tho the girl he has treated abominably many a young boy has jilted the girl who loved him has tried to find and happiness with another charmer and has lived to repent of his hasty action when his old love has granted him forgiveness he has proved to her and to the world at large that his repentance was sincere and lasting but when a man ol of thirty uses unfair and dishonorable methods in n breaking off 00 with the damsel who has trusted him then its time to wonder whether lie he could ever be anything but a gay philanderer and an unprincipled liar it Is is one thing for a man to discover an error in judgment and to go frankly to his fiancee with the news that he no longer cares for her it Is is quite another story for the disillusioned suitor to sneak away with another gi girl rl to mock his former sweetheart anti and I 1 to cover up his traces until detection Is inevitable all that smacks of habitual decet deceit it I 1 consider milly that youve given this man his chance al already rendy you P played fair with him and in return tor for that he gave you lies and deceit now hes tired of his new conquest and it is quite natural that ho he should think tenderly of your devotion and kindness but if youre fair to yourself you wont let him come back to torment you EAR DORIS DENE I 1 am a D DEAR boy of nineteen and have lived at homo home all my life my mother Is a very strong character and has managed mo me successfully I 1 am now in lovo love and want to marry 51 my y mother ther has put her foot down aad and refuses ses to consider my marriage she offers to give a college education which she refused to do until she heard I 1 was in love awant I 1 want to get a job but unless I 1 can live at home I 1 cannot hope to support a wife right away I 1 advice and will bo be grateful tor for any you give me 0 0 ANSWER R your mothers strong stron 9 character will be of value to yo you now my boy even though you are no not t in the mood to appreciate it if she were indulgent and weak enough to agree to your marriage at tho the present moment shed be doing you on an injustice for which you might levei never forgive her any boy who ties himself up in matrimonial chains at the ago age of nineteen with nothing to depend on but hia mothers income la Is virtually throwing away his lifes happiness his wile wife is placed under a severe handicap thing living on the bounty of her other mother m in law ile he himself is under such obligation to his mother that he must muss take her word as law and let her run his tile life whether he wishes it or not at nineteen he cannot hope to have attained the mature judgment which fits him jor for matrimony lie he may not even be sufficiently in love to make the venture a success all the bards cards are tweed against him front from the ins word go take my advice C G and accept the offer of a college education equip yourself to face the world and to hold down a job prepare to be an independent citizen not a dependent son for the rest of your life and dont forget this that the more you learn leam and themore the moro you study the more able be to resist your mothers strong influence you have lived at home so long that the maternal protection has become a habit with you get away from that sheltered area and learn how to be a man among men then when youve reached a more sul suitable age and when you have acquired qu I 1 re d the stamina to stand byyoure by your self have no cause to worry about mothers in interference ter ference and if the girl Is sincere tn in her love for you shell W wiit wait ait till you have hav fitted yourself to become a real wa wage ge earner able to offer her ft a home of jerown her own 0 bell syndicate ice |