Show ’r " ' r i I'l'IH vvi i ’ "' Page 20 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday March 30 2000 New spouse infuriates months later he proceeded to destroy all my family pictures and jay high school yearbook which I treasured Then he bepan to tear up money He hit me and by that time I had one child and was pregnant with another It was then I decided — “No more” and I got out of the marriage I learned through counseling that because I was an adult child of alcoholics I had zero self- esteem thought I was worthless and that hq had the right to abuse me Please Ann tell the womaniwhowra to run as far as she can from that man and never look back — Happy at Last By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband left me three yean ago I suspected he was having an affair but he denied it We were divorced and one month later he introduced our daughter to his new girlfriend He married this eight months ago and sbe has asked my daughter to call her “Mom” lam terribly upset by her taking over my role Frankly I don't want this woman to have anything to do with my daughter I don’t want her attending school functions or sporting events How I can overcome my hatred for this witch? Please help me — Furious in Minnesota DEAR MINNESOTA: You need more help than I can give you Please get some serious counseling at once There is no way you can keep this woman from trying to displace you but you can make sure she will fail by keeping your cord main taining your composure and concentrating on being the best mother you can be DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am writing to you regarding “Trying To Save my Marriage in Chicago" whose husband flew into rages and broke things I can sympathize With her because I walked in her shoes 30 years ago She needs to learn how to respect herself so die will no longer put up with his abuse ! home-wreck- er inFlorida DEAR FLORIDA: I hope every person who is bring'knocked around will read oris carefully and clip it sb he or she can read it again and again for reinforcement No one should put up with being physically abused whether the spouse is drunk or sober Men (or women) who tear up and break things exhibit dangerous signs Thethings they destroy are substitutes after-scho- ol Soon after the wedding-m- ex-wi- fe ” ftaa 'tone Hue rfpytopsiktj : ire n Mias iwuu IT I about you- - MHKrAnwevvMytD PMrtiHarMMSftiMNy sorfWtecyc i APnsumr iHaiMoiMHr tV I FOR BETTER OR WORSE ybuWMfWoMClNfr ?SAF--AttrM- j nac where you crr mow yowi beak on wyiDuRGMVHiuter Gaurefenenrensp ewttVRMfeui' WPIlTlf WTIHTMU Stofty V mmi ' GILBERT ( V V I I DID ' - F K y THEN APPLIED YOUR FLALJED LOGIC AND ARRIVED AT YOUR PREDETERMINED THE ANALYSIS USING YOUR BAD ASSUMPTIONS f ANSWER for people DEAR READERS: I thought the subject of clergymen who hate weddings had run its course but when I read this letter from Father Vincent J Sheehy in Venice FlL I knew I had to print it Here it is: “The wedding ceremony went fine It was the reception in the parish hall that was unusu- aL Seated at the table with the bride’s parents was a monkey dressed in a tuxedo with a black bow tie wearing a top hat The bride’s mother asked ’What do you think of my little boy? I felt like saying ’Lady he looks just like you’ Instead I bit my tongue and said ’Cute’ “Actually Ann the monkey behaved better than some of the guests He had only one nd began breaking things His first tantrum was - ARLOANDJANIS mm&oe DEAR6JMPFI5H v n M ’’3 to aw family home ID flAM&RKEIEgY-tiiUO&ITWkbRMl1 banana daiquiri: Many who attended got smashed rod behaved disgracefully I don’t mind if you print this letter and use my name” three months into our marriage when he smashed all our lovely wedding gifts A few Meds may cause painful breasts Peter H Gott MD : Newspaper Enterprise Association able DEAR DR GOTT: What is the cure for Madder ulcers? DEAR READER:Ulcers are sores They appear when the covering of a tissue is abraded irritated infected or deprived of oxygen I do not know the cause of your bladder ulcers Since die bladder is lined by irritation or infection of one kind or another could produce areas that become denuded and ulcerated Treatment would have to be directed toward the cause rather than to the ulcers themselves A urologist should be able to answer your questions after appropriately testing you DEAR DR GOTT: Since returning home from a 200-mil- e automobile trip I find that I have to change positions several times a night because whatever side I sleep on goes numb Should I mention this to my doctor? 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