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Show Page 6B South tdition Lakeside Review Wednesday, November 7, 1984 Assertive Discipline Gen Work sit Home, Too CAROL GRAHAM do not run the household. These parents say what they mean and Review Correspondent Johnny pinches his little sister Jenny at the dinner table. She cries and his father asks him to stop. Next he pulls her hair and she whines and cries again. His father gets angry and threatens to send Johnny to his room. But Johnny continues his disruptive behavior at the dinner table, yet his father and mother choose in ignore him and continue their own conversation. Johnny is a victim of a parent, a parent who does not clearly communicate to his child what he wants and does not follow through with disciplinary action. Children of the 80s are differ-cnthan the children of past generations, and require a new approach to discipline, according to Lee Canter, author of the book Assertive Discipline for Parents. In a recent study. Canter discovered what it was that some parents were doing right, while othbrs had so much difficulty dealing with their children. effective parents are assertive and maintain a take charge attitude in their home.'The children ; non-asserti- ve ct mean what they say. If a child misbehaves, they do not hesitate to discipline him, and deal with the problem when it happens. Canter found that parents who are do not clearly communicate to their children what they want. They often resort to pleading with them to behave and become angry when they dont. Some parents become hostile and even abuse their children physically. Canter maintains that his method of assertive discipline is highly successful and is currently in use by over 350,000 parents and teachers with more than nine million children, across the nation. A workshop on how to be an assertive parent and how to implement these procedures was given at Doxey Elementary school last' Wednesday. Donna Kidman, a trained instructor in the program conducted the workshop, which included filmstrips and discussion, as well as personal questions and problems. Mrs. Kidman, who is a mother of seven children ranging in age from three to 21 and who is a non-asserti- ve non-asserti- Davis Schools Set Weekly Lunch Menu I j Secondary school lunch menus: Wednesday, November 7: Corn Dog wmustard, french fries wcatsup, peas, carrot sticks, I cracked wheat rolls wbutter, ap-pi- c Monday, November 12: Pizzas, lettuce wedge wdress-ing- , green beans, orange slices, cake wcoconut icing, milk Choice High School: burger bar Salad line Junior High: cheeseChoice burger Tuesday, November 13: English Fish & Chips wtartar sauce, lettuce & tomato salad, whole wheat rolls ybutter, choice of cream pies, milk Choice High School: burger bar, salad line Choice Junior High: hog dog Wednesday, November 14: Chicken nuggets, baked pota Junior High: Elementary school ' tion, in a positive way. It does not take any more time to say a word of praise to a child, than it does to say something negative, Mrs. Kidman empha- with the child and back up words or threats with child will learn that acceptable behavior will also receive atten- ac- sized. Children will respond to positive statements and reinforcement of their good behavior. Children need this support and it is important we let them know when we see that they are doing what they have been asked to do, she said. When dealing with children who Argue with their parents, it is important to realize that they are playing to their parents emotions and trying to push their button" and be in control. Many children Student Found the High School Votes MARCIA FORD He was a great supporter, said Burbidge. He enlisted the help of the Club, setting up voter registration areas in each of the school districts high schools. A gave Burbidge computer print-othe student names he needed. Through school announcements and personal contact, about 300 potential voters were reached. Working with Burbidge at Bountiful High was Tom Pilking-toThane Bailey helped at Woods Cross High. encouraged him. Review Correspondent Ki-wa- BOUNTIFUL Thanks to Viewmont senior Buzz Burbidge, 80 Davis County 18 year olds were able to vote in the General Election Nov. 6. Burbidge noticed that many students who would be eligible to vote were going to forfeit that right because they were not registered. He proposed a plan to Davis County Clerk Mike Allphin who ut a little disappointed that the response was not greater, noting apathy was high. He' said teenagers tend to isolate n. (5uDI NECCHIS Education department placed orders in anticipation of previous year sales. Due to budget cuts these sales were unclaimed. These machines must be soldi All machines offered are the most modern machines in the Necchi line. These machines are MADE OF METAL and sew on all fabrics: LEVIS. CANVAS. UPHOLSTERY. NYLON STRETCH. VINYL. SILK. EVEN SEW ON LEATHER! These machines are new with a WARRANd TY. With the new 1985 NECCHI machine, you just set the dial and see magic happen: Straight-sewinzigzag, buttonembroiholes (any size), invisible blind hem, monogram, dery, applique, sew on buttons and snaps, topstitch elastic stitch, professional serging stitch, straight stretch stitch... all of this and cams or programmers. more, without the need of RECENT PAINTINGS BY UTAH ARTIST fish-burge- rs 25-YE- lunch color-code- menus: g, Wednesday, November 7: Italian spaghetti, green salad, french rolls wbutter, peaches, milk from the world around thfcm and fail to inform themselves about issues and candidates. Those who were registered, however, he feels are becoming much more aware of their voter responsibility. themselves It was just something that needed to be done, Burbidge said of his effort. He said he was UNCLAIM ED SCHOOL SEWING MACHINES bar, salad line Choice consistent learn that if they push an issue, their parents will back down and give in to their wants. When confronting a child with his misbehavior, look him in the eye, walk up to him, and even touch his arm or shoulder. Eye contact is critical for effective communication. A gesture will add emphasis to a command. Children who cry or plead and promise their parents they will not do it again" are using these ploys to test their parents and get them to back down. Parents should anticipate this behavior and not allow it to modify their decision. Here again it is imperative to be consistent in discipline. Implementing this program of assertive discipline takes time and effort on the part of both parents. negative. Kidman claims that using positive reinformcement the when his father told hint to stop, he changed to some other form of disruption. His father did not say what he meant and did not follow through with disciplinary action. It is important that a parent be tion, or the child becomes confused with the message he is getting, said Mrs. Kidman. The child learns he can push a scene explained. An assertive parent must learn to greater limits, and often does to effectively communicate to the this for attention. A parent who child what is to be done. By being is consistent sets the limits which very precise in directions or re- is what the child really wants in quests to stop a specific misbe- the first place. Also an important skill for ashavior, the parent presents what he wants in a way the child can- sertive parents to learn is to provide positive reinformcement to not misunderstand. For instance, the child bother- the child. Often parents overlook eving his sister at the dinner table, the good things a child does the on and comment misbehavior only eryday did not stop the toes, peas, carrot curls, rolls wbutter, choice of fruit, chocolate chip cookie, milk Choice High School: burger pie, milk Choice High School: burger bar, salad line Choice Junior High: hot pastrami Thursday, November 8: deep fried turkey steak, pota-- 1 toes wgravy, mixed vegetables, celery sticks, parkerhouse rolls wbutter, strawberry shortcake wtopping, milk Choice High School: burger bar, salad line Choice Junior High: hamwdills burger Friday, November 9: Taco salad wtomato wedges, cinnamon twist, milk Choice High School: burger bar, salad line Choice Junior High: stacked turkey sandwich substitute teacher at Doxey, had a' number of worthwhile tips for parents of problem children. There are a number of skills which assertive parents must learn in order to be effective," she said. 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