| Show p comais mais sphere apere my by one on off of the sox the lives we live THE PURITY af OF OUR BOYS I 1 want to gather the mothers together today and have a quiet confidential talk it wont hurt the father a bit to listen to us and indeed I 1 am not sure that they are not as much interested in this matter as we I 1 are but for the present we will address ourselves to our duty as mothers and leave the duties of fathers for the elders rhems themselves elves to give counsel upon there is a subject which is rarely spoken n of except in whispers between a few anxious and intelligent mothers but I 1 think you and I 1 can speak of it in a sufficiently guarded way to be of use to each other without being in the least im imprudent or in indelicate delicate this thi s is is my S subject juga act the guarding of the innocence and purity of our boys no now W singular to state there is a sort of unwritten social law which permits a boy to find about nature and its out e everything very thing workings that is possible for him to discover in farm farmyards farmyard is and from the talk of unwise men while the firl girl is supposed to and often does doer rema remain I 1 n in utter ignorance of the first principles of natures wonderful processes until after marriage Is not this on its face a false and pernicious tradition A boy rarely has occasion to know any of these laws unless he is going goina g to take up medicine while a girl lives her life under the workings of the laws of which she only learnes the penalties by the most agonizing experiences and there is another mg tiring the plastic mind of a boy can be ke kept t as pure and as free from taint of vulgarity v u LIF garity as that of a girl if the parents so desire although it must be admitted that the law of inheritance or heredity his has great force in this matter but just now we are speaking only of those fathers and mothers who are equally modest and pure but whose boys show when grown up a singular difference to their parents in disposition and actions I 1 wonder if the fathers of our boys sufficiently think how wrong it is to allow their half grown sons to listen to vulgar talk and if they realize the depth of responsibility involved in allowing such boys to hear of and see what should never be seen by their eyes except such things are quietly and intelligently explained as an education to theral them oh mothers guard your boys with all the strength of your souls I 1 ask them from the time you allow them to run out and play with other boys no matter if they are still in baby dresses how older boys act and what they say to them watch them it they get off in barns with other boys or if they are long out of your sight follow them and always with loving stratagem draw from them what is said and done when they are not with you never make the mistake of supposing that your boys are better than your neighbors boys or that y your 0 ur boys boye cannot do wrong no matter if f the they at tell e 71 you they are innocent it will d do ono no ha harm rm to prove it of course it is not wise to doubt the word of a child 1 but refrain from asking direct questions question while skillfully drawing out the record of actions and words from your trusting child never ruin your childs confidence in you by threatening to whip him 3 he ever does so and so these acts will be hid from you in the future and you have only made your child deceitful I 1 dress WHAT SHALL IT BE this department aims and has aimed not to tickle the earsom ears of women with descriptions of lovely and impossible toilettes toi lettes nor of expensive and unattainable luxuries of any sort but to give a helping word in the matter ot of foad food dress and in fact in all of the more important fields of work now the crying need of the hour is economy economy spelled with abigE a big E it I 1 could go into every relief society and every evera young ladies meeting in zion today I 1 would try to preach a sermon on economy not stinginess not oppression of those around us but I 1 would say bay sisters let us join in a society society of relief and comfort to our distress distressed sed husbands us let us joyfully wear our last summers bonnet let us gladly trip to meeting with our last summers or last winters dress on and put on our coun tenancies ten ances such a cheerful happy e expression x pres that our nearest and dearest will declare we have never looked so beautiful in all our lives and if I 1 could touch the heart of the wealthiest sister in every town I 1 would especially urge her by precept and example to economy even if she did not need it so much as some others her example would be a moral support to weak ones who always need some such support and another thing let our economizing be done with the utmost cheerfulness let no unkind look or reproachful word be ven to the breadwinner bread winner of the family vis S is trials are all he can bear be sure of that and it ever there was a time when you can be a help meet forvour for your husband it is just now seed see to it that YO you u do not fail in his hour of need again you can teach some exceedingly valuable lessons to your children at this time with the kindest and kenderest ten derest words show the older on ones es how necessary every little economy is is and get their earnest and loving cooperation in helping father to tide over this stringency I 1 can see even in this trial that is upon us a chance for us all to learn the most valuable lessons shall the mother not make use of these valuable opportune tiec then the food we eat COOKING vegetables can you cook a good plain dinner I 1 I 1 hear a chorus of besses in answer to that simple and plain question just so how do you cook potatoes oh put them on in water and boil them until they are done we have once before spoken of this important matter but let us speak again are you cooking new potatoes then pour boiling water over them or better still put your pot on have the water in it boiling hard and then drop your potatoes in dont throw about a pint of cold water off your hands in with the potatoes and thus stop the water from boiling dont fill your pot full of water but have just enough to cover the potatoes boil until done keeping them merrily dancing all the time with the glow of the fire and the moment they are re done not five nor nor ten nor fifteen minutes after turn every drop of water off and cover them with a clean cloth set on the top of the stove and you will have some mealy I 1 white well flavored potatoes fit for any american can sovereign to eat how many people consider boiling potatoes of no importance yet the consequence is always potatoes of no importance or flavor can you cook peas beans or cauliflower oh yes same way I 1 suppose that you cook potatoes just the same now peas delicious peas tie the sweetest vegetable ever grown need great care they must be put on in boiling mark I 1 say boiling water well covered in fact you must be more generous with the water supply than you were with the pota potatoes tois then they should not be salted until nearly done some rash cooks put soda in peas and thus kill a great deal of their natural flavor but I 1 would advise you not to do so the soda makes peas or asparagus a beautiful green color but the natural flavor is destroyed if your peas are young a and nd tender nothing but a small pinch of salt and a good lum lump of butter is needed to make them beatly ready to serve when peas and potatoes first come economical housewives cook the two together and then make a cream gravy lor for the whole if you wish to do this or if you want your peas made with a thic thickening kem take a generous cup of cream or in milk ilk if you have not cream leaving the water in which they were boiled still in the pot and mix u up two spoonfuls of flour with two spoonfuls of butter beat this to a cream and add to the gravy just as it reaches the boiling point there is no need to stir this thickening for the lumps will all boil out an any kind of vegetables can be thickener thic thickened keneY in the same way and it is far better than putting the butter into the ravy and adding thickening made ot of lour our and water the gravy always tastes richer and smoother if made in in this way vegetables need the least possible amount of salt and no pepper if folks will persist in ruining their stomachs with pepper added to meat for sake let the delicate flavors of green vegetables assert themselves w without the pernicious arnicious erni cious addition of pepper cauliflower should have the water in which it was boiled turned off and then either dressed with drawn butter or a cup of cream thickened with flour or butter a spoonful each beaten to a cream belore before added the clothes we wear THE RISE AND FALL OF THE HOOP you and I 1 sensible readers of the DESERET NEWS for all readers ot of the DESERET NEWS are sensible people if all sensible people are not readers of the NEWS which I 1 am not at all sure of I 1 say you and I 1 dear reader can look back with a smile of amusement to the frantic efforts of would be fashion lead ers to project upon us a reign of crinoline we said so all the time bidet we dear readers for are we not sensible readers of an eminently sensible paper well as I 1 say we said so all the time we are approaching too near the reign of sense and peace on this earth for such a monstrosity as the hoop to become en grafted upon our lives and bodies there were a few but how few who wore circular wires under their dresses but now the only effect of all the talk last winter is that our skirts are spread out like an umbrella top and scant ruffles here and there break the monotony of the expanse bythe by the way have you got one of the new styles oi of skirts I 1 am just asking for information for I 1 not that mat I 1 would seriously object if some rich dressmaker would oner offer to make me a present of the material and make me also a present of the making but to impart art to you a state secret I 1 have not t been een able to afford myself a new skirt of any sort this summer it is is highly entertaining to me to read the papers about other skirts and fairs I 1 enjoy walking to meeting and observing live womer women wearing real new skirts but the truth is I 1 have had no phoney to buy new skirts and I 1 am so constituted that I 1 the heart to ask the head of the firm for money to buy new skirts with when I 1 know the safe is guiltless of money so the old skirts which were on fairly good terms last summer most of them having been acquaint ances for two or more summers have grown into such positive intimacy with me that they feel and look like old friends very old friends indeed I 1 might say too old I 1 would say only that I 1 am charmed to be able to look every one in the lace face and know that even if money is short my bills at stores are a great deal shorter do you know what I 1 think when I 1 see my sisters with new skirts on I 1 am wondering where on earth they got the money to buy them with for it does seem as if there is neither gold nor silver in the town in which I 1 live credit oh yes but ones self respect binders one from making short friends with long credits how is it wah you I 1 saw a woman the other day with a white wrapper on at church other women looked at her with some scorn but the men especially those who knew her well said she looked very verv cool and nice you see the wrap per is is a remnant of better days and as it ber was mended every one could see that economy and independence looked out from every fold another friend showed her worn out mittens to her husband and asked what was to be doue done cultivate skin gloves was the reply she was offended but needs must you know when poverty drives my dears anything on earth that is your own and paid for no matter what its style or make may be no matter how new or how ancient it will be fashionable summer if it never was before nor ever will be again our children SHALL MOTHERS KEEP THINGS UNDER LOCK AND KEY KEV what is the chief lesson for all hu human an beings to learn the lesson of obedience to law and order now a great many nay most children are born with a tendency to pry into every thing and a further determination to get everything they want this makes them mischievous and meddlesome I 1 hold that the man or woman who locks away anything from the touch of their children are educating thieves and liars this may seem a harsh statement but I 1 venture to say that the mother who understands the principles of government so little as to fancy that her children will let things alone only when compelled to has so much laziness and laxity of discipline that her children will never learn anything good from her one of the most important things to a child is that the rights of others must be respected this can never be done in families where the children are allow ed to rummage the drawers and to help themselves to everything they may want or on the other hand where things not in in general use are locked away from them show me a girl whose mother has kept pins scissors thread and jewelry locked away from her youthful meddlesome fingers and I 1 will show you a girl whose sense of honesty is is dull almost t deceit show me a father who finds it necessary to lock up his money and his cellar from his hoys boys and I 1 will show you a family of unnatural prigs brigs it is a poor way to teach children honesty to make them leel feel that force rules the universe and that the only restraint possible is the restraint of locks and bars girls wilt will take liberties they will wear mothers ties and ribbons will lose mothers comb and scissors will take clean handkerchiefs when theirs are all soiled that is the savage nature of the being showing itself and col parker says we are all born savages and civilization is tion A boy will help himself and his companions to the cherries will use the best tools for his play and will even take the nickel he sees accidentally in his fathers drawer it is trying it is aggravating in the last degree and the first impulse of the parent is to give way to the savage prompting tin irl of his own nature and hide the tools and scissors and to lock up the ripe fruit but halt what are we doing we are teaching our beloved children that we have no confidence in them that they must be treated as a common thief and that force is the ruler of our household mother take your little girl and after you have bought her everything she needs for herself talk gently to her and keep it up even for years the time will come when even if she has inherited meddlesome characteristics she will have overcome the grievous suit fault and she will respect not only your right i but the rights of every human being never lock up your things no matter what they may be leave them open tell the children they must be let alone try by every honest means even to a sound thrashing if necessary to see that they are let alone but dont lock them up no matter if you lose your thimble everyday every day and if your pins are always gone nor even it if valuable things are taken and lost better to lose a kings jewel than to lose the precious opportunity of teaching your child to respect law order and the rights of others infants diseases THRUSH this simple but oftentimes troublesome disease is not uncommon in this territory I 1 have nowhere seen in books that the nature of this disease is the same as canker but I 1 am sure that it is so we are told that it is caused by the child having too much artificial sweet given in its food or by the overheating of the mothers blood etc etc I 1 think there is oftentimes a cankerous condition of the mothers blood existing before the birth ot of the child which leads to this disease of course this is greatly increased by giving babies sugared food or medicine if children must be fed or doctored let it be without the addition of cane sugar and above all let the 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