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If It youhappen youhappen you youhappen happen to be a younff young wile wi1e wife theletter the theletter theletter letter may help you to see one oneof oneof on onof of the pitfall pitfalls * of modern marriage mar mar- marriage marriage - riage a little more clearly clearlythan clearlythan than you do doI doI I say modern modem marriage , be-cauce be cauce be- be because because - - - cause marriage used to bequite be bequite bequite quite a different thing a hun hun- hundred hundred hundred - dred year years * ago A girl was soglad soglad so soglad glad to get a husband then thenthat thenthat thenthat that she practically idolized idolizedhim idolizedhim idolizedhim him Familiea Families were largehavlne large , having from eieht eight eight to fifteen members Dependent mothen moth mothera mothers era ers and unmarried sisterlived sisters sisterslived sisterslived * lived with the young wife wile and andall andall andall all together the women han han- handled handied handled - - dled died the tremendous burden burden.of burden'of burden'of burdenof .of of 'of ' . domestic duties dutiesThe dutiesThey Thy They The * " hunt hung out lone Jong long line Unes Itnee * of ot washcleaned wash waeh washcleaned waehcleaned cleaned window wlodows windows fed chickencareJ chickens chtcken chickenscared chtckencared * cared for babies babte3 started .tarted tarted . children childrenoft childrenoff oft off ff for school Ichool wrstled wresUed wrestled * with coal coalrange coalranges coalrangw range ranges . and dirty grates made mad * fruit fruitcake fruitcake fruitcak cake * and bed quilts quilta , took : rugs rujfS out outto outto outto to the th * " yard "ard ard and beat them put up upfruJt upfruJt uptrult fruJt nuned nursed the th alck Rick sick . . , and in be- be between between be between - - tween other Jobs wrof wrote volumlnoualetten voluminous volumlnoua voluminousletters volumlnouaietter letters ietter to dear old chool school achool friends friendsBut friendsBut friendsBut But it its a different dUterent today Eachbrid Each Eachbride Eachbride bride * launches out by herself Inth In Inthe Inthe the * following letter one young hus husband husband huband * band explains expIain3 just wher where * his hl wife wifefalls wifefalls wifefall falls * him himWIT himWile himWife Wile Wife WIT * naJ Dad lied No N * Tralnlnc rainlng TralnlncBert ? TralalMgBert rainlngBert Bert I Is * tb the mot mo.t most * . adorable girlIn girl girlin girlin , . in th the * world " write writes * Tired Tim Timbut Timbut Timbut but sh she never had any trainingand training trainingand trainingand and money limply .Imply Imply simply . doean doesn t meananything mean meananything meananything anything to her We talked thiked budget budgetbefore budgetbefore budgetbefore before we were married marTled and andworked andworked andworkd worked * it out on paper but she shenever h s snever never glanced at It nor given It athought a athought athought thought ilnce since sinceWe sinceWe We v ve ye been married two yearand years yeara yearsand yearaand * and hav have a baby seven ven months oldI old oldI oldI I with wish you could se see * what Dert Hart B rt gotfir got get gotfH gethr fH hr th the * child Perambulator highchair high highchair highchair chair crib bathlnette bathinette sterlUzing steriUzing sterlUzingo Bt rlUzingo o 0 1U\t 1U t itflt IUt \ , , . blankets - It came cam * to $200 200 $200more $200more $ (200more 200more ( $ more than our budget for tor him had hadallowed hadallowed hadallowed allowed My calary salary la Is $85 85 $ ( $ 5 a week weekbut weekbut weekbut but I carry insuranc losurance insurance * and contribute contrlb contrib contrlbute contribute ute (20 20 $20 ( $ a month a as * rent for mymother my mymother mymother mother who ha has * a pension alopay also alsopay alsopay * pay $87 87 $ $ 7 tor for our bou bouse house * Including locludlng taxesand taxes taxesand taxesand and mortltatlon amortization amortizaUon of debt , , and about about$4l about(40 about40 $4l 4l ( $ $4 4 $ ( ) more mor * monthly tor for refrigeratorstove refrigeratorstove refrigerator stove tore and so o on . . ' These 'Thele Thele expense experues expenses * will leacen lessen as a < time timegoes timegoes timefoes goes on on , , but Bert already has ha * found founda a larger place ah sbe she * likes Ilkes betterwhere better betterwhere betterwhere where we will wlU bar bave have * a room for amaid a amaid amaid maid W We * now hav have only onl7 dinnerhelp dinnerhelpBert dinner dinnerhelp dinnerhelp help helpBert Bert Is hospitable and nothing Is istu Itcx * tu ( good ( ood for ( or her friends . . . In plan plannlng planning plannini nlng ning menus she ah * spar Ipare spares a . no expense expenseLet expenseLet cxpcnrLet Let shave s bav have steaks steab a again ain and a amousse amousse amousse mousse and alligator pear pl"arq plarq pearq " < she shewill shewill * h hwill will say .ay ay . Our friends are all aU betterfixed better betterthed betterfled thed fled ( financially ftnnnclaUy SnanciaLly than w we are andmy and andmy andmy my wife wite Ukea likes to keep up with themVrry them themVrry themVery Vrry Very Mack Mach Macb III ! Deht Deb\ Deb Debt DebI \ . . . I tit ast week my office otnce omce boss boas told toldn toldii n ii e that tbat they had bad considered me for fora a promotion promotlDl1 promotloi but the th fact that I wa was wasabout wasabout . about S3 $2 2 $ $ 300 in debt to doctor ho hopital hos hospHal , pital pHal plial dentist . , . florist tor ( 1st . , and so o caseeme on onseeme onseeme seeme- seeme seemeI - 1 I to them the-m the m - a n serious erlous tbinfi thing U1in afldthey a atd atdthey d dthey they wanted an explanation explanaUl1l1 explanathA foolIshly Fool FoolIshI Fooliahly IshI iahly , . I told Uert llert Bert thia U1ta this and her an an- answer answer - . swer was w s to appeal to her tatlier tather father foj for formoney formoney ' money because Tim waa was being belne .0 0 so somean . somean- somean someanThe .0mean me-an me an mean - . - Th The old man very much wor worried worned worried ried ned gave her ber a diamond ring rlnM 01 01her o oher fher her mother s I a to pawn " , and Bert eversince ever eversince eversince since has been anxious anxloua to redeem It.tor Ittor it it . . , for she &he he & naturally values valuel It highly hiehly highlyNow hiehlyNow highlyNow Now don t think thinkS thinkSthe . . tb the letter con'ludei con"ludes conludes con con"Iudel "Iudel Iudel 'ludei ludei ' " that 1 I am m criticizing crlticlzinJr crlUcizlng m mywiIe my myife " "ite ite wiIe " , ife But X I am working workinjf harJ hard pret YOU MAY HAVE 'lAVE lAVE ' TO PAY PAYIf If 1/ 1 1you / you are r * lettinf leltms lettuig your h hue- hue hueband hus husband . - bandWOTT'Y bandworry band worry WOTT'Y WOTTY WOTT'Yabout worryabout ' shout about mon money-If money If moneyIfyou money y-l y l - Ifyou f fyou you upend spend his hii hi . h rd-earned rd earned hrdearned hard-earned hard hardearnedsalary hurd-ewnwlMlury hurd ewnwlMlury rdearned.alory - - .alory alory salary . on beauty treatmenl treatments treatmentsbrid(9 treatmentsbrid9 . , brie brid'e bride ( ' prises prue prizes ; . und and andclolhelf andclotheeIf clothes clolhe-lf clolhe lf clothee-If clothee If clolhelfyou clotheeIfyouau . - - Ifyou you you/au you au : ; } / full 011 to ubtdf abide bule by the house house- household household hou . - hold ho budget budset you plumed planned lon long longbefore longbefore & before you were mmrrted mmrrtedThen married- married marriedThen marriedThen - - Then . , IIOY sys says * ' K Kathleen thleen Norris Nor Norruyou , . , . you have h hv v * failedm failedin fded failed * in m one on of 01 yourmost your yourmosl yourmost mosl most important duties dutlet ss IU as 0 is 0wile iswie wifs wile wi/e wi e / For no m matter ttw how pret- pret pretty pr - t-ty t ty - . ty you irry may look . , if 1/ 1 1your / your be bp beau- beau beauty u-1 u 1 u- u - uty - ty . shop .hop hop billis bill is . , more thun than yourhusband your yourI yourhusband I hwband husband hwbandcan husbandcan can c n mfford afford to py poy pay * . , he hewon't hewon't h hwon't won't wont ' be b plefsed plea.ed pleaed pleased . No matterhow matter matterhow matterhotv how hotv nec nf'ceu nfceu necessary ' ssry * ry that extr etra extra . % * pll piece pieceof piseof ce * 01 of 01urnature furmturs furniture ! urnature moy may m y be 6 , . if 1/ 1 1It ifit / tt It cost costs . more ( / > n it to probably htu hate Fiate * the sight saght of 0/ 0 0It ofit / itIn It ItIn itIn In dm "me me time " * you may may1)f 1)f 1f hi / > ) < " ' the onto one oneto oneto * to pay pay-m pay m p y yin - in heartbrMkand hearthr'akand heartbreak heartbrMk hearthr'ak hearthrak , ' and andtea andtears ndte tea tears tearsty n " ty well burdenedand burdened and not satisfiedto satLsfledto satisfied satLsfled satisfiedto to face a future which may be b aIndefinite an anlndeftnlte anindefinIte * lndeftnlte indefinIte repetition of this sort lort ofthing of ofthing ofthing thing Can yu you make a suggeitlonthat suggestion suggestionthat suggestionthat that I can pass on to har her In thehop the thehope thehope hope * that she will tak take a differentattitude dUterent different dUterentattitude differentattitude attitude toward tow/l.rd towl.rd tow l.rd lrd / . extravaganca extravagance and andbUls andbills andbills bUls bills ? The Th trouble began many years yearsago yearsago yearsago ago Tired Tim when Bert was a alittle aUtile alittle little Utile girl Perhaps Perhnps because sha she hadno had hadno hadno no mother sh she * evidently grew upfeeling up upfeeling upfeeling feeling that the she had only to want athing a athing athing thing to buy it and that thera there wasno was wasno wasno no relation between honest money moneyand moneyarid moneyand and arid dishonest bi1l bills Thousands of ofw ofw ofw w men mi mt ret ch older than Bert have havethiS havethis havethis thiS ailing faUing failing ( and Bnd thousands of ot moth mothen mothera mothers en era let their daughters daubhlers dauhiers no go into marriag mar marrlage marriage rlage riage * without withoul a hit hlr liii t f the thl ' scrl sl'rl slrl sen ' isness IS ISness isness ness of u U Ii is oversll oVl'nlg oVlnlg overcigi overcigiThe ' ) ( ! t I tThe IThe The simile slm simi Ie Ic tr th K I ai 81 y yv \v v \ \ imnwho tn'1n tn1n nvin tn'1nwho nvinwho ' who lets her II isbn 1 i ! > ! > ba ( cl (1 1 w rrv TrV cry al at l ut Utftnances utfinances \ nances ftnances Is a r { o 0 r wife Th q < < sec ccc I'I II ' ' ilike i J S Slike slike like likeI a /I I / . sweii sweq sweci r I rR R Std stal stat I t t I 1 itis it t tIs tis Is true To be nly niy a m n y ) , s\ s 81 sender j \ ender end ender I Ier er squandering I t Is lard t 1 ard w n Sary s II IIary ilary ary cheerfully on b hI bt < iuty luty pirl pari parl rsfrock rs rstrock rsfrock trock frock shuts sho sUe tl U e iters ters I ( ( ) lib I Ib li II I a cl cI esbridge 11 e'i ei 11bridge e'ibridge ' ' ' , bridge prizes Is to tu tall fail fa II in y i i . r j band b ti band tiand and more n10re marriages ma rrlages g gIn i < n the roi.ksbecause roiksbecause rOI roika roikabecause . ks ksbecause because of this ths ( li if ii 'xlllcablt xlllcablt i-x i x ( ' exi - llcable licable ' sti stt r I ( idi idity Id idity ! ty on the pnrt part t f li Ir ii telligei tl'lIlg'r tllIlgr telltge ' ( ' , t w men menthan menthan menthan than because becaust ' ot of n II a y ther me ) fie tl t Ii ! i r gIt gIt g gIt It doesn t r m a att&r attr I tt tu & < .r r . how fresh freshgroomed freshgroomed freshgroomed groomed curled or frocked trocked you areor are areor areor or how charm ng your h i t se iswith iswith Is Iswith with th the new hangings th the i ewchina ew ewchina ewchina china th the * chromium chairs and thVenetian the thevenetian thevenetian * venetian blinds It If your h IS isband band II is IIworrying isworrying Isworrying worrying about money he hates hatci It Itall itall Itall all allHusbands . . nnskajaJs Husbands Like emity Serf'olty Serfolty Serenity Serf'oltyFor SerenityFor emityFor ' For men surprisingly surprlsingl , . aren tfussy t I tCussy Ifussy Cussy fussy about turnitur furniture * They lovcomfortabia love lovecoJUfortable lovecomfortable coJUfortable comfortable old chairs familiarlamps famUiar familiar famUiarlamps familiarlamps lamps Dad s I a old desk and andMom andMom andMorn Mom Morn s I old spoons They even gtto get getto getto * to Ilka like the th * dresse dresses * of 01 yeaterdQ yesterday yeaterdQman yesterdaymany yesterdaymany man many ] ' a wifa wUe wife has been xaperatedto exasperatedto exasperated * to answer I ve ye had It threw three yean years yeanwhen yearswhen yearswhen when an affectionate atTectionate stTectionate husband com com- corn- corn comments cornmeets comments - - ments meets admiringly admlrlngl , . upon har ber her c costume costumeWhat costumeWhat atum What a husband likes la 1a is serenityat lerenltyat lerenlty serenity at home borne a woman Womall content and buayblUs busy busybills busybills bills paid paidI I remember one young 'ouflg ouflg ' wtte wife wlf who whotell whofell whofell tell fell madly madl.Y . in lov love with tha the pic pJc- pJc plc- plc pJcture plcture picture - - ture of a nude girl by a stream It ItWelS Itwas Itw WelS was is In the September Morn Mom era era-Th era Th . - . The picture cost 9SW $3(1 31 $30 30 $ $ ( ) ( It was noprettier no noprettier noprettier prettier than the pictur picture * o on * tb the gro- gro grocer gro aro- aro - grocer arocer - cer s I 5 calendar that year but shewanted she shewanted shewanted wanted It It . . and she &hI hI & ' had to hav have It.She ItShe It It . . She paid Id Inslallmel Inatallmel instalimem Is ts on It for tor more moore morethan moorethan morethan than a yearHer yearHer year yearHer Her husband hated It it . , , and trlends friends trlendsmade friendsmade friendmade * made fun tun of It She told them &be be she &bewall shewas & * b bwas was wall Just storlag storlo.g storlog storing . it for tor Emily Her liar Herhusband liarhusband Harhusband husband run i-un i un - down and anxious.died anxiousdied anxlOu anxious " . died of pneumonia that wlrr wtr.u wtru wir .ei ei . . * leavIns leav leaving ing , an estate of something .ometh ometh . lea le.1 le1 less . * taaa(2.000 taaa2.000 taaa2000 than thanzcxlo $2.000 2.000 2000 ( $ $ . zcxlo . Almost onetenthcit one-tenth one tenth - - of 01 cit that ttult hadto aa aato had hadto to go jfO for tor th the < ! picture plctUR ' I bope hop * . she shetelt shefelt |