Show NOT ALL IN GIVING A FOW few timely suggestions toy for the th re of gifts F from rom the receivers receiver a standpoint all gifts may be divided into things lings ti that wo we want and things that we dont want it takes no particular parri cular skill or grace to receive things that we want but as in times of general giving like christmas the larger part of the gifts we gist get are things that wo we dont want that branch of receivership is worth attention the two ordinary reasons for not wanting things are the vulgar one that they do not strike us as intrinsically desirable and the more complex reason that we W e dont want to receive them from tho particular giver A general remedy ap to duo to either of these causes is ia to keep strenuously in tho the mind the happiness of the giver in giving remembering that you aro are delighted lighted do with a trifle from some soine one you love because it makes you happy to have been even evem passively instrumental in procuring him tho happiness of civi giving i ng applying the same principle you can accept ever tio BO costly a gift gif t from some one for whom you caro little without any irksome sense senne of obligation since of course tho the giver alv r had h ad tho the best of it any uy way and it is is a great deal kinder and more generous to sacrifice ones personal inclima in clina eions and accept than to refuse remember persistently that by receiving with due grace you secure to another person a desirable form of happiness after all little children do it best they are the superlative receivers and it itis is because they are that we delight to give them things they are frankly and delightfully delightful ky appreciative obligations set as lightly on them as the air they value their gifts simply by the pleasure they get out of them und and prefer a rag baby to the deed of a brick house They take a jumping jack from mary the undress laundress la and a jeweled pin from aunt melinda Cr casus without the least distinction di of happy approval the nearer we get to their gui the nearer we approach perfection in receiving and in all the christmas attributes be besides s idea scribners magazine |