Show Child Training Old c and New Modern l Methods Conceded to Have Haver Many j Points of of Advantage Lectures Altogether Beyond the Understanding of Little Ones A h 7 j Sara Sam aril and Mrs Daugherty were talking Sara was engaged to be he beman man married led and Mrs Irs Daugh Daugherty rt her aunt was performing a n last duty by hy Installments Installments from from time to time giving her carefully thought out advice ad ad- vice Today It had to do with one phase of The IThe Right Wn Way to Raise naise Children namely The Right Hight Wn Way to Talk Tall to Your Children It seems strange to me said Sara that so many parents of today today today to to- day try to teach their children by old fashioned methods Perhaps because they realize that the old people had the best Ideas on child training said her aunt with finality Ever since your dear mother died and your father gave ga you to mo me to take care of of I have hate tried to teach you In accordance accordance accordance accord accord- ance with the way my mother taught me But nut It was too late You were spoiled I could not make and the theone theone theone one word emphasized was make malte you Ott see right and wrong in their light I feel that I have failed In the task your father gave me but nevertheless nev nev- I have not altered my ideas in the least Yes perhaps I was as wrong many times Aunty Aunt agreed Sara But you ou see my mother was strictly modern in her wa ways s 's and It was only natural natural nat nat- ural that I became modern also However 1 see ee no fault In being modern If I ever e have children I 1 Ishall Ishall shall bring them up according to modern Ideas We have progressed along other lines why cant can't we progress pro pro- press gress ress In the manner of educating children at home I believe In giving giving ing a child a general conception of right and wrong and then encouraging encouraging aging lug him to work out each Individual ual problem I most certainly do not believe in put letting him trim make a n mistake and then lien lecturing him or giving him a whipping Just what t do you mean by lee Mec timing Sara Inquired her aunt This demanded a reply so Sara nn frankly You know perhaps perhaps per per- haps that to very young joung oun people a lecture seems seem s to consist t of lengthy expositions discussions and eloquent eloquent elo elo- quent phrases at phrases at least those are arc the grownup grown terms for what the child thinks of It IL It seems to him to lo have no real conciseness humor frankness honesty or clarit clarity Lectures really are for the older the more advanced ad people are nrc they not The They are usually so far beyond ond the childs child's un understanding that h he cannot grasp their meaning however however however how how- ever clear It may seem to the tine adult So of course he lie shows little Interest interest Inter inter- Interest est and receives little benefit If we really want to help children 1 think we swe should talk with them not riot at them I III begin to understand your jour our point of or view said Mrs Daugherty You think I often lectured you ou Instead of talking talling with you jou I In know ow now wh why you jou ou didn't want to be bc bothered with your jour old Aunt Aunty and her silly talks taUs the the ta talks s were lectures But nul I 1 hope you jou ou realize that er e everything I said was Intended ed for your benefit 1 realize e that Aunty This real talk tue Is going to be n a revelation re to both of us I f believe beleve Now to Now to continue our lesson lesson- let Jet me see if I can state your Idea clearly clear- clear ly I continued her aunt mint The uThe friendly friend ly Jy talk in hi the majority of cases Is Isi tae best way to correct children and andt t to give ghe them advice nd and In that talk you jou ou should have havo some humor al although although al- al though not enough to subordinate explanation explanation ex ex- and fact It must also be concise frank franl sincere straightforward ts ward ard ard bon honest est and clear It must not b be about the child but to him him n a avery very cry Important point to remember when talking to your our children ItH understand you jou ou c correctly That Is exactly what I mean Aunty but may we change talking to your our children to talking with your children It should be I think a conversation conversation-a a friendly chat The confidential talk with a child is good to lecture him is harmful The more I think about It Sara the more I realize e that your ideas are ire correct It is too late to practice practice practice tice them on my niece but I 1 hope hopek you will stick to them and arid give advice nd- nd vice to any children ren who are ever In your care I will wm was Saras Sara's hurried reply for the doorbell had just rung and she was expecting her fiance |