Show R RUTH MILLETT lJ Says Girl H Hes He's s 's Behind Leaving Must Make a Decision The The young man she fully intends young to marry some day is going go going going go- go ing away to an army camp She's wondering whether to to- let him leave behind him a wife a fiancee or just a best girl The young man says it is entirely up to her That's not a question any outsider outsider outsider out out- sider can decide for a girl But it might help her in making a wise decision to consider all of these points Its It's one thing to consider marryIng marrying marrying mar mar- a young man making little littlemore littlemore littlemore more than pocket money if she is self Its It's another thing to consider marrying him if she expects her family or his to support her until he is able to todo todo todo do so which may be several years Also if she married him now their marriage will be at least a year old before they can settle down together and make a home If she wants to announce her engagement to him that's all right Unless she wants to date while he is gone Then she is likely to find herself on a shelf A year is going to seem mighty long if she gives up- up all the fun of dating And she can hardly expect her young man not to date After all hell he'll be away from home away from her lonely and probably bored bored and and even if he thinks he wont won't be dating when he tells her good-by good a little loneliness may change his mind Theres There's nothing against the best gi girl l solution except that when a girl is very ver much in love with a young man she usually wants ants everyone to know that he heis heis heis is hers for keeps But there is a lot in its favor If Il she lets him go away leaving a best girl behind him she can date and so can he That way the long year will go faster And they can go on quietly making making making mak mak- ing all the plans they have been making Should anything happen to the romance there will be no explaining explaining explaining ex ex- to friends to go through And therell there'll be no public speculation speculation lation over whether he ditched her or she ditched him It Isn't hard or unfeeling for fora a girl to consider all these things before she decides what to do about the young man who is leaving her for a year Because in these situations it is most likely to be the girl who b bears bear ars the brunt brant of a wrong decision |