Show SENSITIVITY TO SHARED FRIENDSHIPS RELIEVED V BY SARCASTIC RETORTS l Actions Speak Louder Than Words and Are Shock Absorbers Ab Ab- Avowals of f Love Conversational Conversational Conversa Conversa- V for Direct V V V Hurdles Not Hard liard to Overcome t V By BETTY BLAIR BLAIRr r V The Th knowledge that politeness Is to do or say the kindest thing in the kindest way can make one polite-conscious polite to th the extent that a pattern Is woven in ones one's behavior as definite deft deft- lute hUe and effective as reflex action Dear Miss Blair What's the secret of learning to da do and say the right thing at atthe atthe atthe the right time I seem to havethe have haye I II the bad habit of ii Q 3 pricking taut little litHe I r a ii ego bubbles ln lit my mv I b U L H Vj dill JI very cry dearest friends I II J jr t the then h e n I i 1 I there go goes c cs s the it Ii- Ii friendship right out 1 N f the window There UI develops a strained I 4 point that only ti time an can heal and sometimes some some- times limes it doesn't even heal What to do V Friends somehow mean a lot lotto to lo me inc Ill I'll consider myself a I kind of special friend to certain people and then when I find that their attitude toward one or a dozen others is the same as toward me it hurts I invariably let something slip out that conveys conveys conveys con con- veys my hurt then more strained points int Is this a form of jealousy jealous or just a lack of mental growth or the both of them in one BABS How flow I wish I knew the secret secret secret-If if there be one that one that prompts one to say the right thing at the right time If I could tell it to you ou I daresay I 1 could make my ray fortune passing it on onto onto onto to others How Hov many people even thc those se brilliant in their own p particular line think o of the proper or clever thing to say a half hat hour after it is too late Discipline in n learning to say the right thing at the right time starts first firs in trying not to say the wrong wron thing If one oneS can rid on oneself o of of th ne negativism in ones one's disposition there is a likelihood that will take its place especially if ness is warring against the evil Better Belter silence than forever saying the wrong thing With silence at least cast there comes critical inventory inventor of self sell and with that Inventory an attempt to balance th the liabilities with creditable assets It is doubtless because your own taut little ego bubble has V been pricked by knowledge of oC the fact that your Our friends have ha an elastic capacity for friendship w which ich in itself is a grand and glorious characteristic that you have the desire to stick slick a sharp pointed sarcastic bayonet into theirs Any girl who cant can't enjoy another's V popularity or success regardless of I the fact that it makes her share in the widely distributed glow that J 1 Letters questions and re requests requests requests re- re quests for advice should boud be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM I SALT L LA LAKE A K E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of gf the paper i I It Is necessary that you yon append append ap ap- pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will wUl not appear In print Questions Involving In In- advertising Information Information tion cannot be bo answered emanates from the choice personality is foredoomed to live a lonely life Any girl who continually harps on the shortcomings of her friends and forgets her own had just as ns well weIl go jump In the lake Jake for none one but the shrimp dwarfed inhabitants there could possibly be glad of her compan com corn pan pany But you ou have taken the first step stepin in reform of your fault in the reco recognition of its existence Nature abhors a vacuum we are arc told Banish the wrong by becoming right conscious of the other persons person's sensibilities The iThe right thing at the right time may maybe maybe be ae Induced to appear to fill 1111 the vacuum left when the wrong is hanging hang ing its sign To Let TOO FULL FOR UTTERANCE Dear Miss Blair I like a certain girl but I cant can't seem cem to find a way to tell teIl her so If U you can help me please inform inform inform in in- form me G W. W Words telling of ones one's liking for ano another her should be preceded by gradual grad ual steps o of progressive action What have you done so far by way wy of kind and thoughtful acts to show the girl she had your interest I am presupposing you have seen her in her home have bave had appointments appoint ments with her for the movies perhaps perhaps per per- haps a few dances or other parties parti s and that hat she is therefore prepared for some kind of oC statement from you clinching the fact that you like her If It you have a sense of oC humor not entirely overcome by your our emotion for the girl try telling her that you like her when you are in your most jovial mood Say you are dancing with her and she dances very well weIl tell her so Tell her you like dancing with her better than with ith an any other girl you have ever danced with The fact that you OU like like- her better than any other girl makes this automatically true You might add then quickly and a n little under your breath And that's the way it should be that I like to ro dance best with the gIrl gir I like best best bast Your statement Isn't then exactly a declaration of love Jove It is a confession conies confes conies I sion of the probable beginnings of love and at present that is all you ou I I it to be SU SUBJECTS F FOR R CONVERSATION Dear Miss Blair I am a girl who has to work as asa asa a housemaid for her living I have a very nice place and the lady of ot the house is very nice and kind I can have company in inthe inthe inthe the library or the b back ck sitting room once a 1 week There is a aboy aboy aboy boy who comes to see me and whom I like But I have a very hard time carrying on a con con- What are some of oC the things young people talk about so 50 they wont won't be silent all the time FLORA Young people must talk about those subjects in which they are both interested and surely there are some things that Intrigue both other than the weather There are for example ex cx- ample the movies Favorite stars favorite plays the best liked come d ans or comedies with your our reasons for or these preferences form common topics of conversation The dance the floor the orchestra something you have observed during the day that Is a little out of ot the ordinary but that has universal interest something something some some- thing you may have read read all all form subjects for ordinary conversation Form a habit of ol reading current magazines The ideas you obtain and retain will form interesting sub for fog conversational debate The Thc jokes in the hi high h class magazines are arc usually worth remembering and repealing repeating repeating re re- re- re pealing and help to break the ice when conversation goes begging |