Show RESULTS OF TRAINING IN OPPOSITE PARENTS WORRIES ONE OF THEM t Flowers FJ w rs for y Valentine alent e Gifts Are Most Appropriate of All AH the Technique of Winning Tinning a Man Is Isto to Let Him Pursue I I By BETTY BY BLAIR f J. J A mother takes pride in her sons' sons dress the their r manners grammar and gentleness Rightfully she accents these things The he he father is proud of their tough muscles their prowess prowess' in athletics their slang and black eyes It is one matter in hi which parents of boys have disagreed since time began A Aboy Aboy Aboy boy ne needs ds both influences in his life Ufe Dear Miss Blair I have never seen this problem problem problem lem discussed discuss d In your column before before before be be- fore so I am bringing it to you ou now My husband f V 11 and I 1 disagree so soi i much on the training training train train- r- r ing we give our ourI I children that sometimes sometimes some some- times it comes to a p t 1 battle batUe royal between bei between be be- i tween us I was was' i reared in a very where large family 4 the struggle e for clothes food and I 4 vas was so great there was wa never time to teach us much about bout about manners manners or or a nice way of doing things I would like to have my children learn a e little ab about ut the courtesies they should give to others other but whenever I correct their manners their t lather tells them it is a lot of sissy issy bunk and that if it they want to be real men he-men they will forget forgetS t S all aU that p politeness stuff He encourages encourages my boys to have real fights fights and fights and sometimes they arc are so bloody they make me sick zick He also encourages them in their rough language I dont don't want ant my boys to be sissies sissie any t more than my husband does but butI I think a a. boy can ean be a a real boy and still show a little culture and training The worst of it is my husbands husband's husbands hus bus bands band's word seems to have more more weight than mine If It one of my boys says or do does docs a nice polite thing one of the others is sure to bawl him out for lor it it I have four tour bo boys boys bono no no girls ranging gIrls ranging in inage inage inage age from 10 to 16 Have you ou any suggestions for me rue with this problem lem Iem DISTRACTED MOTHER Tb This s I. I Is a problem many mothers have to meet As a rule children benefit when parents are arc opposites Particularly may this UW be true if the parents themselves can assume tolerance tolerance tolerance tol tol- tol- tol erance with each others other's points of view But if the parents insist on bickering over widely divergent points of oL view the children will quite likely adopt this quarrelsome attitude with each other and repeat Jt it later loter on when they have homes of their own Keep p your poise over the situation Mother for lor by this example far greater than by all the th-e precept you ou youcan OU can cram down their throats ts hook b-hook or by crook you will give th them therm m en on appreciation of your own fineness Your influence will be absorbed by them in large larg quantities and even though they may not be aware of it now it will have its effect on them In their lives 4 When they are older they will look 1 tor r gentleness and kindness in women women wo wo- men men they will begin to see too that the worlds world's greatest men men he-men had Ies es of in them and that cavemen tactics are arc not essentially men great men eat tactics Theodore Ro Roosevelt evelt was one of our nations nation's greatest he He could be Rough Rider humanitarian statesman ladies' ladies man and kindly father when the occasion d demanded If I possible place before your ur sons rn Theodore re Roosevelt's Letters Leters to His Hi Sons now compiled in in- book in-book book bk form Colonel Lindbergh Admiral Byre Byrd fend nd even our ou present and ex world champion prize prie fighters lighters have with wih their he manness in their own tei par por particular ch chosen s field displayed qualities pr ties t show showing g a natural or acquire grace of manners Library books bk concerning the lives of great gret explorers ers rs great inventors the great in an any held in which your sons sn are interested inter inter- ested should give them tem an a idea of the qualities of true greatness Port For lions tin of such books book aloud before before be be- be fore the entire entre should prove helpfuL Find Fid out who your sons son's sn's heroes ere h-ere are and let them tem have the lull benefit of the te lives Ive of ot their chosen hosen he hemen The Te gentleness gentene ant and ad kindness in the lives lve of most mol of them themy y surprise e your sons EOn into an acceptance acceptance ac of their all a around pies les le of greatness VALENTINE GIFT GIT r Dear Deor Jr Miss Mi Blair Bla I have been going goi steady with wih a I girl gIr for six weeks week o or longer I 1 would like to t know what would be a nice gift gi for her other than 1 a box of candy dy or ora a a mere valente valentine valentine valen- valen v tine te JIGGS JIGS Flowers are especially appropriate or valentine gifts git If I you OU are askIng ask ask- ak- ak Ing Jg your friend frend to dine or dance the lt send a corsage Gorde Gardenias be lovely If I you are to t spend send the evening with her in i her home lend end a bouquet buquet of her favorite ro roses I Flowes Flowers have never been in greater greter avor as a gits gifts than then they are this thi year yer I Gardenias are arc even worn across th the ack tack back of the te neckline or an orchid i ithe In Inthe inthe the the hair hr Carnations for the firs first in the te remembrance of many may are re re now being woven into int corsages J harmonize with wit the color of th the sown rown LET THE TIlE MALE PURSUE lIALE Dear Der Miss Mi Blair Blai 1 What is i the technique a girl gir needs needs to t win the boy she loves I It isn't int enough that tt she be pretty hwe have plenty of money and clothes clothe have a witty wity line lie and a personality Ive I've Ive got all aU these thee but there's theres something m I lack lack Can Ca you help m me I NITWIT NOTTA M Men n like to pursue It I doesn't ma mater mat mat ter tei if the gae game is a fox or a tiger o oa or ora a woman There isn't any conquest conques conquet in having an animal walk wal up to th the te teh h hunter who is I all al dressed up in i a red re r hunting coat cot booted and spurred an and beg to t. t lobe be b captured f a Oh of course the women must 1 let the man know she is 1 willing to b be juru d But it is up to th him to t win wi Letters Leters questions and requests requests re reo quests for advice should be addressed ad dressed to MISS B BET BETTY E T T Y 1 BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S H HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA LAKE A K K E Write Writ legibly upon only one side of the paper it I It is i necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right rih name and nd addre address address ad ad- dress but these tee will wi be held in strict confidence and will wi not nut appear In print print Questions Involving involving in In- i- i advertising information cannot ot be answered yered what he lie wants wat If I Cleopatra Cleopatr had tol Antony that she was sorry sh she couldn't come to his 1 sailing party bushe but bu she had hd a tryst with another man manIn manin ma in I the shadow of the Sphinx do you yoi suppose e Antony would have soiled saile away end left let lefther her Well Wel at least leat h he would have postponed the sailing o ohe or he would have her But Bu Instead she let le him know h how w. w better bette than anything else ele in I the word world sh she wanted him to elope with wih her Sim Siti kr lar cases cae of the all al too willing maid mai languish through though history Men want women who wh are fun women who will wl laugh augh with wih them but a woman wom whom they have to t pu pur pur sue A woman wom who Is i running after atra a man mn gets getal all out of breath and ad re rein red redIn redin in the face and she is usually on the th verge of tears so that tt she cries o or does doe some other chUd childish h thing thi cres She Sh merely ends end by chasing ching him over th the where he escapes like lie a n ci cir cirtis cr cus cw balloon balon No if 1 you would ouId win your man manlet mn let him hi chase che you until you C catch h him bl t 4 i. i i |