Show f GIRL RESISTS COERCION i IN CHOICE OF HUSBAND V Bit Birthday J F d y Remembrance Between B Boy y and Girl Friends f iS Should Not Be Overdone Appo Appointment Broken Without Apologies 1 By BETTY BLAIR l That May should not wed with December has long been the he dictum of those who lay down rules for happiness In married life Ufe There have been proved exceptions to this rule ule as to all others but most certainly the he exception could couldn n not nat t be found In a forced marriage between those of a wide difference of at ages where love was not m mutual Dear Miss Blair I am a young girl 18 years old ld and there is a n aman man of ol 34 very much in love with wilh me My parents par par- exits invite him to toC toe the house all the e C I- I time and md I know t a H they would like me to marry him A They say to me L aU all the time that V really older old er than I lam Iam am and E that he is young for his age I know that I 1 am amold amold old for my age for I have been as old as us I 1 am am n now now w since I was 15 I like Uke this man as ns a friend but It always to me when he comes comes to the house that he has come to visit with my parents land and I dont don't even want to stay in inthe inthe inthe the room to help entertain him My Iy mother has scolded me inc several several severa sev sev- era eral times for leaving the room and not returning while he has hns w I. been there I have never asked the man to come and see me rae and h he has never asked to take me any place I hope he wont won't as I 1 wouldn't want to go with him hum humI f. f I 1 am not In love lave with any iny boy but naturally I think of day somo-day finding my ideal I se see sea young ou boys about my own age and wonder wonder won won- der if such and such sucha a one wouldn't be my Ideal If 11 I l' l was only acquainted with him It seems to me inc very hard to get acquainted ac ac- ac qua lilted with nice boys I 1 do dont don't t want to make my parents par par- en angry with me and neither do I want this man to get the Idea that he can make love to me inc I I 1 ha have e told my mother moth r that if 11 she leaves me alone with him to spend the evening I 1 will run runaway runaway runaway away and just leave him sitting there My mother scolds me terrIbly terribly ter ter- ter when I say such things and tells me I 1 dont don't even know what Is for my best good Please tell teU me what I should do Thank you IN THE DARK We had thought th that t this kind of coercion on the part of parents w waz a relic of the dark ages It is a situation situation sit sit- that must arouse the Indignation indignation tion of t every very thinking parent as well 8 as very every young oung person who feels him him- leI elf capable of selecting his own mate nis Jt t is quite evident In the Dark th that t you do not now and probably never will love this man who Is almost almost almost al al- al- al most twice your age This is argument m merit ment nt enough should never I marry b. b him n even though he were younger or you older You ar are In Inexperienced Inexperienced inexperienced experienced have never felt the pangs of really being in love You have Idealized love to s such ch a degree that even when you do first fall in inlove love Jove you aTe are likely to tobe be i in love with your ideal embodied in the first boy wh whom m you ou think you love But certainly certainly you will not love a man who is Li in no wise your Ideal It is my Advice that you continue to treat t this man as a family friend frien that you still strongly stand up up fo o.- o. your rights in making a choice of the theman theman theman man whom you shall marry that you refuse to be put upon in any fuch auch manner as u your parents To see see th their ir children well married is 13 the hope of every parent and md often the advice parents give in regard to toa toa toft a ft choice of ot mate could be tie followed to the happIness of both but your case case In In the Dark smacks of a wholly elfish ellith motive on the part of p parents prents rents It Is not often not often that we take a stand against parents In their trent trent- trept- trept ment of their children but this case seems to us to be so O wholly wrong that we can advise without compunction compunction tion that you In the Dark are of legal age and have a perfect right to ref refuse se to accept the attentions of a am aman aman m man n against whom you Instinctively r recoil on Tell your parents that you will probably not be ready for marria marriage e for lor a number of years that in the interval in l yoU will do all you can to lessen the burden that you may be beto to them but that you Insist on on having hav hay ing tag a voice in the chol choice c of your com corn p p pahion hion bion for life since you not they to live with him 1 FRIENDS MAKE 1 UP VP Dear Miss Blair t 1 A boy whom I liked very much started taking me out then all of ofa ofa ofa a s sudden without any warning h he stopped asking me rae f for r dates or calling me up But last week after aner I 1 hadn't seen him or heard fr from m him for about two months he asked m mp mc for a date and we started going together ag again in He didn't make any explanation explanation tion of his ils absence and I haven't said aid a 8 word about it either cither have just pretended that n nothing out of the ordinary had happened SNow Now this is my ray question This I boy has a birthday coming soon Do you think It would be all aU right j f for or me to send him a gift or under t t I the circumstances do Io you think a a acard card would be better Thank 4 you DAISY I Y You u have a very fine sense of the fi fitness ss of things Daisy Dalsy as judged from your refusal to question your a friend nd c concerning his hL unexplained ed absence and I am sin therefore sure lure that you will agree with me mc that the card will be the nicer gesture in remembering remembering re re- ring the boys boy's birthday Also Abo that be a card with a a. very simple e message BOYS BREAK APPOINTMENT Dear Miss Blair I We are arc two girls s who have tried for a long time to get two boys boYI whom we liked to like us w. We gave a party and invited these boys They came and andeen seemed een ed to have hav fl p. a good time We saw ow them afterward at school and talked to them A short time liter after ter th the party th they y asked us for a date They didn't tell ten tellus us us' us what it would be but we supposed sup supposed sup posed they would go to a movie moyie WI w. W VC both to be 11 at 11 1 v Letters Letter questions and requests re re requests requests re- re quests for advice should be addressed addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y SLAm BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S lIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L L- LA A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It is necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held in la strict confidence and will nut not appear In print Questions Involving In Involving advertising Information cannot annot be answered for them when they called Well the long and the short of it is b th that thit t they didn't show up Now how hOvi shall we treat them Sh Shall U we refuse to speak pe to them or be nice and friendly as If nothing had happened Thanks Thank for the help WE Unless the boys boy make an acceptable accept able apology for their faU failure re to keep an appointment I 1 should act entirely indifferent about the matter The Themore Themore Themore more of of t pique que you show the m more rc they will suspect that you care Speak to them as s you O would to mer mere acquaintances ac at- ac- ac and d do not give them thorn a a second chance to practice such rudeness ruder rude ness on a |